I say stay the course. She sounds special but she's only human. Its interesting how there are so many unforgiving people on a porn site.

 

I'm reading this as she only had a kissing session, that doesn't sound like serious cheating to me. Take it slow, it just happened, you may gain that trust back over time. It's not like she was flat on her back on his bed begging him, his dad, his brother, his friends and his dog Rover to all take a shot before she got married. What she did was wrong in your eyes, but she did come back, confessed all and begged for your forgiveness.

Personally I think you have some confidence issuses or "we" haven't been told the whole story.

Last senario could be she has been flat on her back on his bed letting him, his dad, his brother, his friends and his dog Rover to all take a turn and she is keeping you around just in case you turn up the heat a little in the sack.

Naw, she's likely just a young lonely (250 miles of lonely) inexperienced woman that did some innocent "experimenting" and felt bad about it then confessed to her man, the one she loves and trusts and he overreacted. Next time your balls deep, see if it matters.

 

if you love her give it time and let her earn your trust again

 

Its not a case of being unforgiving. I will forgive almost anyone of anything, other than cheating. If you really love someone then you dont cheat on them. Simple as that. If she cheated on him then she is not worth his time.

As for all this "she was honest with you give her a chance" crap. My ex cheated on me, and was "nice" enough to come and confess to me what she had done, and begged for forgivness and promised it would never happen again, etc etc. Pretty much exactly the same as the OP. I was young, stupid and I loved her, so forgave her, and tryed to make things work between us. 2 months later I caught her with another guy, and then found out there had been 2 more inbetween.
I learnt the hard way that if someone cheats on you that the relationship wont work/they arnt worth it. Dont make the same mistake I did OP, becuase it hurt alot more those 2 months later than it would have if id called it off after the first time

 

I agree with the posters who state that it is at least difficult to forgive someone who cheats on you. Whether it is just kissing or actual sex, the trust is broken, shattered and can never be fully returned to the original shape of the relationship. You can kid yourself for a while, but it will always be at the back of your mind that your partner cheated. It doesn't even matter how much you love that person. Because they obviously don't love you enough to have stayed loyal to you. And that thought will raise it's ugly head time and again.

Better to leave the relationship in the gutter where they put it and go and find someone worthy of your loyalty and love. Walk off without looking back because the past is only filled with lies and littered with deceit.

 

You don't if you've any sense.
Never.
Under any circumstances.

 

This is why i avoid relationships if i can.

Only weak people cheat on their partners, people who can't control themselves and are easily manipulated. If thats the kind of person you want then go for it. I personnaly would never cheat on a girlfriend. If i wanted someone else i would tell it was over and then never expect her to take me back

 

I don't forgive cheaters but if you love some one enough I guess you learn to.

 

once a cheat always a cheater

 

honistly its up to you.

 

Is anyone ever that blameless as to NOT do something stupid that they need to be forgiven? Yeah, so maybe some people would never cheat. Some think kissing is ok and is not cheating. Some thing porn is not cheating. It lies in the perception.

Sorry Mate. To be honest, you coming here looking at porn makes you more at fault in my eyes than her kissing some guy.

If you love her, and she loves you, then you know since you are both religious, why don't you both go talk to your priest, father, pastor, rabbi or whatnot. Believe it or not, they are trained in relationship help. Vows are silly and not needed, what matters is your love for each other and that you are both willing to work with each other.

 

No matter if you forgive her or not you will never forget and anytime she doesnt answer or is late you will think about the make out session and if that is were she is. I have been through this. if see can not break off contact with this person you must let her go. staying isnt worth the heartache you will suffer wondering about her. just be friends is all i can say.

 

Everyone is making really great points. Like the one you can forgive but not forget, it is going to always be on your mind. Yes you may be in love with her as of right now but your in college theres tons of girls that are single and honest go find one (cliche I know). This is going to sound really bad but dont even stop talking to her keep her on the side so your not lonely but go out and talk to other girls maybe it will let you see what others have to offer I mean she did and possibly still is doing the same thing to you. I bet you will find someone better and will forget all about her. Just think of it this way if you were 100% faithful, that its her loss....No one can tell you what you should do but in my opinion I could never be with someone that didnt feel the same way about me as theirselves.

 

I agree here. She did tell you so obviously she wants to be honest about her indiscretions because maybe she STILL wants to be with you. So yes, that was all on her end... On your end... what can u live with...?? if you cant get past it then end it already. Let both of you be on your separate ways.

 

Some wise old poster writer once said -

If you love something set it free,

if it comes back it's yours

if it doesn't it never was !

 

i don't know how i'd handle my guy kissing another girl. i found out that he flirted and the girl actually sent him naked pics, and it hurt sooo fucking bad. our relationship is good, we're very close, but that's a huge break in trust. if he ever acted on it, i'd really question how he felt about me. people can say whatever they want, apologize up and down for days, but it's actions that speak louder than words.

 

I would not, dont care how much I loved them one strike its over

 

I agree. Once you've poured your heart into a relationship and the other person goes and breaks it why would you want to keep any sort of relationship with them? You'd only be reminded constantly of their betrayal.

 

im not 100% on that statement.

maybe not always a cheater, but the fact of the matter is that she did something that she knew was going to hurt you. you dont just "forget" you are in a relationship after you have been together for a year plus. she thought of you and did it anyway. its not so much that she made out with him, its that she did it without regard for your feelings. if the one you love is willing to disregard your feelings when you arent around, what else is she willing to do?

 

LOL the amount of hypocrisy in this thread is utterly amazing.