Just two and long ago but they were both good friends, not random hook ups and in a time without diseases. It;s usually the stuff that you don't do that you regret. Bitter sweet wisdom, or salty if you want to know.

 

The insistence that people are completely one or the other, straight/gay, is laughable. I think we're looking at sexuality in a too narrow, and restricted way.

 

so... you're just going to leave out bicurious and bisexual?

 

No, but that's not the issue I'm focusing on. I'm responding to what I see as an unhealthy attention devoted to either proving straightness or 'minimizing' one's homosexuality in a lot of posts above, or a sad "right on" mentality.

These categories are too rigidly defined, and trying to place oneself in them like I see people do time and time again, is pointless.

 

To me, sex is one thing and love/physical attraction is another. When the choices are gay, bi or straight, and an otherwise straight guy has ever thought about sucking a cock, the "crowd" immediately labels him bi. But true homosexuality and bisexuality would mean being physically and/or emotionally attracted to a person of the same sex. If you like fucking women but would suck a cock for the sake of experiencing something that you can't get with a woman, I really don't think that makes you gay or even bisexual. You have to differentiate the sex act from the emotional response. Personally, I have never sucked a cock, but I have had JO buddies (back in high school, before we could "get" women), and I've had mfm threesomes in which we took turns fucking her, without caring that one of us was getting the other guy's cum all over our dicks. I would suck a dick if it was in an mfm threesome (and if I knew he was std-free, which of course is virtually impossible to know, so the point is moot), but I have no desire to kiss a guy, or fondle a guy, or become romantically involved with a guy. Yicch. How many of you guys have ever tried to suck your own dick? Does that make you gay or bi? Of course not. You just want to experience everything that's possible to do with genitals! It's more hedonism than anything else.

 

My dad molested me when I was about 4 or 5. When I was 10 or so I sucked a guy that was about 17 and my youngest sister watched, then when I was 23 I let a guy fuck my ass. Just to see what the hub bub was about with the homosexual thing. I have not since. I'm 55 now and actually prefer dolls and K9.

 

Physical attraction leads to sex..You'd have to find some part of a man attractive..even if it is his dick..inorder to pursue a sexual relationship with one.

You can be a sexually open straight man.. ie mmf threesomes,but actively seeking out other men to suck off..or whatever,would mean you have a serious sexual interest in the same sex.

Seems to me..most men that are having those types of feelings,would rather push away any sort of lable,because in this society theres a stigma with being anything but straight.

 

first off whats it matter what ne one thinks, whos gonna know. i sucked cock for my g/f and the first time i did it it wasnt bad. now that ive sucked cock a few times for her its really erotic. its a good feeling knowing ur able to get both sexes off with ur mouth and that they enjoy u doing it.

 

Aaargh that damn labels discussion - and no-one answering what you really want to know - what it feels like.
For me it's always been one of the strongest turn-ons ever, especially when the guy cums in my mouth. Without that the main prize is not won. Where I can rate women from awful to extremely desirable, I can rate men from awful to acceptable. I'll never take the awful ones, but when that dick is in your mouth it doesn't matter that much anymore.
So for me - yes overcoming the fact that I generally don't find men attractive it's sure worth it.

 

Bishop et al: why the need to label? I suggest you let people define their sexuality for themselves.

Yes, you can construct a supportable argument that the terms bisexual/bicurious encompass any sexual attraction to any aspect of male anatomy, but that is a semantical argument that stretches the meaning of the term beyond it's common usage. In common usage homosexual means sexual attraction of one man to other men - not the toe or the ear lobe or the cock of other men, but men in general. In the same way bisexual means an attraction to both men and women - not specific anatomical aspects of them, but to men and women themselves.

It is possible to be attracted to a part of a person or group of people without being attracted to that person or group overall. I like big breasts, but am not attracted to really overweight women. The attraction is not to the overweightness, but the big breasts. Similiarly, some men are not attracted to other men but are attracted to dicks.

The terms hetero/homo/bi-sexual apply only to attractions to particular genders of people, and do not apply to attractions on a smaller scale than whole people. Shall we coin the terms phallosexual/phallocurious (or perhaps felatiosexual/felatiocurious)? They more accurately describe the attraction. But if you'd rather misapply words in order to tell people what their own sexuality is, carry on.

 

I was under the impression i was discussing sexuality.. in the sexuality forum? Ya know..the entire point.

its not that i have this desire to label,or tell people what they're sexuality is. But ...its my opinion and i call it how i see it.
Just because you refuse to use the labels doesnt mean..i have the issue.

 

Likewise.

It's not that I refuse to use the labels, I just don't twist their meaning to categorize the sexuality of others against their protestations. That strikes me as particularly rude.


Just...ya know...callin it like I see it

 

Lol if you are protesting about what your sexuality is..on the internet. Maybe you should turn off your computer. No one should be butthurt over the fact someone on a forum thinks they're bisexual. I was just trying to have an actual discussion about sexuality and the fact there seems to be a running theme with males..who are sexually attracted to males,only for the sexual aspect.

If you think im being rude,you might want to develope a thicker skin ;]

 

Yes, I have! I had drunk way to much Makers Mark. Really high, but not stoned. Sucked my buddies cock! Not that bad!!!

 

The only way I would suck a dick is if my wife asked me too...She does things sexualy that maybe arent the most fun for her but she knows it turns me on.

 

exploding in my mouth....

same......was smashed,had shower with mate,and sucked n fucked all night,he even cum in my mouth which i really enjoyed,,,i can still taste it,,,yumm....loved it cant wait to do it again....

 

Awww hit me where it hurts - my sense of machismo is greatly diminished.

Don't get me wrong, I love snarky back-and-forths, but I'd rather have an actual discussion. It seems you were so quick to take offense to my original post you forgot to address my point.

 

Alright..well let me address your post.

I completely disagree..respectfully.

We arent talking about being attracted to a man's ear.
We are talking about being so attracted to a mans PENIS.. a pretty damn good representation of his gender,enough to pursue a sexual relationship with one.

 

Imagine a beautiful cock attached to the most revolting guy you've ever seen. This guy looks like a mix of Jabba the Hut and Khalid Sheik Mohammed's mugshot - there is literally nothing you find attractive about him except his cock.

Would the best description or your feelings be "I am attracted to that man, in the general sense?" Of course not. That is what homosexuality and bisexuality imply - a general attraction. They are useful terms because a huge amount of people can describe their attractions in such a general sense. But those terms just don't work for non-general attractions.

Yes, part of the reason people reject those terms is because of homophobia. Another reason is that people don't like to be called queer if they don't feel queer or consider themselves queer - I am pretty "attracted" to liberal ideology, but if someone called me a democrat I would take offense. It's not because I'm a democrat-ophobe (I have friends who are democrats ), but because I don't want others to misrepresent me.

Your sexuality isn't an externally definable condition, it is a form of self-identity that people can assign only to themselves.

 

If i found someone repulsive..except for their penis.. Its simple.. i wouldnt be attracted to them at all. A penis is not enough for me to sexually interact with someone.

and again.. im not assigning anything to anyone.