Ok, as many of you know, i have been trying to get my husband to try to be more aggressive in the bedroom...and i'd like us to try out BDSM. I am really glad that he has started to pay attention to me when i say this, and is doing research of his own...and he tries really hard. Dont get me wrong...i love that part.


Here's where it gets iffy...his mom...is well....she makes porn, but i'm not sure how large scale she is or whatever. And her speciality is as a Domatrix...and she does this thing with boots..but thats besides the point. Any way...he asked her for help/ideas . I am totally mortified. now my mother in law thinks of me like that...i dont even think i can look her in the eyes anymore.



Am i right to freak out, or am i being over sensitive?

 

yes n no

i dont think so cause its sex n its talked about by everyone nomatter who r u even if its really kinky....n yes i do understand y u r feeling tha way u r cause no one really wants there parents or in-laws knowing wat u do n all....but like u said if ur mom in-law is into all that n is open bout it all than y not....i hope everytin works out great wit u n ur husband

 

its time for suicide! cyanide anyone?

 

She's a dominatrix, and you're worried she's judging you?

 

don't worry

what he said... if my mother in law was like that(i'm not married) i'd be picking her brain on ideas.

 

no, i dont care about her judging me.... its just soooo awkward!!!!!! I mean now she knows what i do with her son in the bedroom. I try to be the nice, charming daughter inlaw that i normally am...and now thats the image she'll see everytime she thinks of me.

 

I can see how that would be awkward.

Just remember. She's a dominatrix.

 

but couldnt he have just used google like the rest of the world?

 

I think that it could of been a good thing for you,,,,seems as if momma knows best,,take it easy I think it will be just fine.

 

Take a chill pill lady. You said his mom is/was a porn director. Obviously he feels comfortable enough talking to his mother about this, so you should be too. Take advantage of his mother's wisdom/experience .

 

Ok, I'm definitely making a big assumption here, but It seems you're quite a private person in regards to discussing sex/sexuality with parental figures. I'm exactly the same way, and after 10 decades I still can't talk to my parents about sex. And I, like you, would have hated to feel like I am being judged by my partners parents, and I'd be embarrassed if they knew the specifics of my bedroom antics.

But I think you need to put yourself your husbands place and try and see things from his perspective. For him to be aware of what his mother does, and to even know some specifics about it, they must be fairly open in regards to discussing sex and sexuality.

If your husband needed advice who would he go to? I'm assuming you, possibly a best friend or two, and his parents. Who would the best person to give him advice on being more dominant with you?

He was just being logical... and he probably didn't think about how involving his mother would affect you.

Have you told him how you feel yet? And if so, what was his reaction? He may not see it as a huge issue if he has always been very open with his mother. But your feelings, are your feelings and he should recognise and respect them. If you're open and honest with eachother, hopefully he will think a bit more before sharing with her and others in the future, if privacy is one of your needs.

In the mean time you may blush a few times in her company, but I'm sure you'll be making light of it soon enough. And I'm not saying this to anger you, but the whole story sort of is quite sweet, lol.

I hope you keep us informed.

 

And you know what she does professionally. Given her job, I doubt you could come up with anything she hasn't heard about before. She's probably thinking, "Thank God, she's not a prude!" You're all adults here - maybe you should ask her for some tips.

 

Oh, Kitten! You'll get adjusted, just don't dwell on any images that you might find uncomfortable.
Your Mom in Law seems interesting, how old is she?

 

And is she single?

 

A little freakout is okay but if she is indeed a dominatrix dont worry about judging or being embarassed for yourself, hubby just went to a source he knew would give him good and safe information.

 

Don't worry. I'm positive she knew that you and your husband were having sex. I doubt she's looking at you and thinking "Oh she's doing kinky things with my son!" That's not how it works.
My daughter has always been very open about her sex life and talks to me about everything and I don't dwell on it when I'm talking to her boyfriend. She still sees in in exactly the same way.

 

I can understand how you feel that your privacy as a couple has been compromised. As a mom with two married sons, I know they have sex lives, but I really don't wanna know about what they do. It's their private business. It's like TMI..too much information. I have had some good discussions with one of my DILs but it's not a regular thing.

I do know that when my youngest was single, he dated a girl who was training to be dominatrix and that he went to a fetish club, but I didn't ask any questions.

 

WOAH!!! what the hell? man have i really been too busy to hear this story? lol

 

Am I the only one thats a little confused about that statment? 10 decades? that would make you at least 100 years old fuck me how old are your parents if they are still alive and you are over 100 yourself?