So are there any sites that actually help the married man? I haven't found any that facilitate the married man who never has sex and would like to. There have to be some sites. I would think that there are a few married women in the same boat. Or is it the unicorn thing?

 

If you want to know how to have sex, what difference does it make whether or not you're married? It works the same way.

 

I think he's looking for dating sites, esp. for married men. There have to be lots of them. Just google.

 

Ohhhhhhhh.....

Sorry. I thought maybe he'd gotten himself married and was inexplicably still a virgin.

 

Thinking about it.. That could be the case as well! Would be a good example of what happens if you wait till marriage!

 

If you're not happy, get a divorce. Don't cheat on your fucking wife, asshole.

 

Ok buddy, I don't advocate cheating but like my father would say, there's a right and wrong way to do everything. So, you might want to try: ashleymadison.com, adultfrienderfinder.com and sexsearch.com. And please be discreet in your endeavors.

 

So what is wrong with your wife? Maybe if you explaining that, we could try and give you some advice instead of suggesting some crazy things. Come one, we are all ears.

 

Well, don't worry, I thought the exact same when I read his post.

*Laughs*

Oh, and don't cheat. Just divorce. Save yourself some trouble.

 

I think your wife will very pleased to help you. but you will have another BIG problem th will follow you every day CURIOSITY!!! good luck!

 

If only life was so black and white.

But imagine how boring and predictable it would be if it was.

All those other colors to explore.

 

Funny

Ya'll are freakin' hilarious. And so judgmental. Couldn't possibly be that I got married and only then realized that my wife had no interest in sex. I'm sure it's all MY fault. I don't treat her right or something like that. So of course, just get divorced. That's the answer, right! No impact on the kids, the house, etc. Or better yet, just stay in a sexless marriage forever and masturbate while surfing porn. I didn't sign up for this, but it's what I have. So I'm merely trying to see if there are other options besides only having a women in my thoughts. I've heard of Ashely Madison, but frankly it seems somewhat contrived. . . the ads tend to seem to outlandish to be true. I'm just assuming that there are women in the same boat perhaps. . . then again, perhaps not.

 

Apparently

Surprisingly this site must not have a solitary married male who is knowledgeable about such things. . .

 

Temper, temper. If you ask a question in a public forum, you have to take what you get by way of replies.

But if I understand you correctly, you're not too worried about the effect of lying to, cheating on and betraying your wife on the kids, the house, etc., but you ARE worried about the effect of getting a divorce. In other words, you'd be willing to make the supreme sacrifice of finding another woman to fuck on the side, in order to prevent your kids from going through their parents' divorce. How noble. Give me a break.

If your marriage is unsatisfactory to you to the degree that you would contemplate an affair, you'd be doing everyone, including yourself, a favor by ending it.

 

If you don't mind me asking but why is it that on this forum it seems like anyone who cheats on their spouse or thinks about cheating on their spouse are considered to be just a worse as a child molester or rapist. Everyone is on the outside looking in on someone elses situation. Maybe, just maybe it is this guys only recourse. Maybe, just maybe they went to counseling and therapy and it didn't work. And if that is the case the first thing that is said is to just suffer it or get a divorce. Maybe, just maybe in this economic downturn he can't afford to get a divorce because all their finances are tied up together and he and his children would be worst off (we all know that in a divorce the woman gets everything and the children, unless she is proven an unfit mother which is very hard to prove in most cases) cause he might not be able to pay child support and take care of himself at the same time in the case of a divorce or maybe he has no desire to be separated from his children and become a part time or weekend father. And that's not to say that won't happen if he gets caught cheating.

Like a said in my previous post; I don't advocate cheating, but there is a right way and a wrong way to do it. The reasons why some people cheat or want to cheat is not always black and white or cut and dry. Sometimes (and I used the term "sometimes" loosely) an affair can strengthen a marriage. It can cause one spouse to see where he/she has been selfish, neglectful or even inconsiderate. Instead on giving someone the blunt end of the stick and bashing their head in because of their view, opinion or preference which seems to happen a lot on this forum why not give point the person in the direction they are trying to get to and give them the right information so that they can make the best decision for themselves.

But then again what the fuck do I know.

 

Uh...

Okay, yeah.

 

Well, KM, if you want to defend cheating on your spouse as your "only recourse", I guess that's your right. But it seems awfully convenient. People who feel that cheating is their only option shouldn't be married. NOT cheating is an option.

 

Exactly.

This is exactly what needed to be said.

Whether you listen or not is up to you, but I really suggest you do.

Do your entire family a favour and divorce if you plan on sleeping with someone else.

 

NOT cheating is an option <<<< ... yes, but less fun.

 

In defense of cheaters

I would personnally not judge another's actions. Too many circumstances that I cannot know of, approve of, or detest, to pretend that my opinion of their activities is the correct one. Through history, what percentage of married people have cheated? And are all of those people to be condemmed? Were they all bad people and wrong in their actions? I have been very happily married for 38 years and have cheated a few times. Never told the wife, but I think her sixth sense figured it out. I learned alot from the times I've cheated. It has made me a better husband, it has made her (in my eyes) a better wife, and I feel we have a much better marriage because of it.