hi im a 36 year old male my gf just turned 19 we met at a bar and hit it off good.now my sister and a few friends wont talk to me anymore they say she is to young for me. now why is it ok for okder females to date younger guys but not for me to date a 19 yearold. lol there is a woman on my street she is 42 and her bf is 18 but no 1 thinks thats wrong i dont know help plz

 

There is nothing wrong with it at all - the people that are not talking to you any more are shallow minded - just remind them that when you're 65 - she'll be 48 - and the difference will seem alot less then

 

Well, if you're wondering why it's okay for that older woman and not for you...

well that's a lovely double standard for you

 

What do you talk about? Are you in to the latest bands? Hanging out with her mates in bars? I think the age thing has a lot more to do with what people have in common than your actual age difference. I don't think I could date anyone that much older or younger than me!

And to those who are saying about the double standards thing. You're talking total bull. Everyone goes on about the older female celebs dating younger guys, but take it in their stride when they see the older male celeb with a younger woman on his arm.

 

If your sister and friends are so small-minded and petty as to take this attitude, you're better off without them in your life anyway. Be grateful they've removed themselves from it and saved you the trouble of getting rid of them.

 

He could be a very immature 36 yr old and she a very mature 19 year old - they are both legal consenting adults - so it really doesnt matter

 

Yeah, and that the relationship lasts so you won't be left alone without family, friends or a partner.

 

Or they could just both enjoying shagging, in which case it doesn't make a blind bit of difference what they have in common.

Nowhere has he said anything about what sort of relationship they have.

 

Even if the relationship had never begun in the first place, he's still better off without jerks like that in his life. He can find new friends.

 

Yeah, I just don't see that they'd have much in common. I mean 36 is old, isn't it? When you're thinking of settling down, buying property, picket fences and 2.4 kids? Nineteen year olds are all for living for the moment, going out, getting drunk, sleeping around.

 

That's true, but he can't find new family.

 

yeh you're so right - 36 really is positively ancient - I mean he'll be asking her to chew his food for him, and change his incontinance pants regularly very soon

 

Lol! Ok, maybe not ancient in that respect, but I still wouldn't date someone with that big of an age gap, especially when I was a teen.

 

And this is relevant how? You get lumped with your family, you didn't choose them. If they're a bunch of jerks, you're better off without one.

 

It is a double standard. I don't care what a celeb does because plain and simply, celebs are stupid to me. Oh wow, he/she was in a movie! Let's worship them like a god and slander them just because!!! That's tabloid bullshit anyway which is the only reason people 'care' about who dates who in the celeb world.

The average person on the other hand, well, average guy, seems to have that older fantasy as well as have it shoved down their throats that it's actually okay to have an older woman. Girls on the other hand seem to have it shoved down their throats that all older men are just pervert sex fiends only out for one thing, and thus, that's where the double standard arises.

 

I met my guy at 18, he was 54. We are happily married now and have plenty to talk about!

 

Not true. Girls grow up with a daddy fantasy, they prefer older men, and the older men, with their mid-life crises' just lap that up. You're trying to create a double standard where there isn't one.

 

The 36yrs to 19yrs combination will make everybody jealous whether it's older man or older women because people know that one of the primary things couples with this gap will be doing is having SEX!

They won't be attending the Symphony together but they will be having lots of wild monkey swinging in trees sex.

It makes people uncomfortable to think others are having more fun than them.
Enjoy it while you can. Because ....it rarely lasts.

Someone will get bored and need the company of someone their own age eventually.

 

its lasted almost 6 yrs for us and sex is not our focus, dont label

 

who gives you sex, company and a adoration?

Your sister/friends or your girlfriend?

tell your sister/friends to get bent. you don't tell them which cock they can or can't shove up their cunts do you?