So I have done quiet a bit of searching on this forum for months now taking hints from people on mmf. Me and my girlfriend have tried the fantasy aspect of this and has worked out fine! until tonight when she told me that if we kept doing it that she is going to really want it in real life and a few points were brought up.

First of all she would be completely in but there is something that holds me back personally, the fact that she was a virgin when I met her and I have been the only guy sexually to be with her EVER kind of bothers me in a way since I have no idea how she will react afterwords.

Second is that she has "cheated" on me and the reason I say that in quotes is because she made out with another guy (not had sex) years ago, and she said her life goal is to prove to me that she would never do such a thing to me again so she feels that this would be kind of contradictory.

I am really confused right now since I constantly have this fantasy in my head and she enjoys it too but at the same time after we have sex I kind of tend to think twice about it while she feels like it almost really just happened and wouln't mind doing it in real life. :wall:

Any advice would help!

 

Best to just keep it as a fantasy mate.

Tell her how you feel and that you don't want to share her. Try using bigger toys in her ass / pussy when you are in the other to spice it up that way.

 

Concurs with TomConCon

 

See but the thing is that we have already fantasized about it and used toys ect ect to make it seem realistic...she even imagined having my friend when we were doing who we were considering to participate in real life anyways. So that is why I wonder how much worse can it be?

 

Sit down with her and come up with pros and cons about the whole thing, you'll soon see what choice is right.

 

gotta be sure and comfortable

This is not the thing to do if you are not really sure and comfertable with it. Take your time and don't get in a hurry you may loose more than you gain. Keep on talking and role playing if it's right you'll know because ou'll loose your doubts.

 

ya thats a tough one

i personally think that if shes with you and wants to include u in the sex with another man give it to her before she finds a man who will share her ..

 

See the thing is, is that its my fantasy and after playing around with ourselves she basically told me that if we keep doing it that she will start REALLY wanting the real thing. The thing is that shes madly in love with me since I am her first so that's the only reason im afraid..that we will loose that but sometimes she makes it seem like it wont really phase her.

Maybe we can start off small and just have her jack off the other guy and see how that goes...or no vaginal penetration?

 

I like what wicked game said. This is a big step. Maybe put off to future like if you still want to try it in a year. A lot could happen and you could ease into some things. I would love to bring someone in yet am also afraid. so for now it is just something we talk about.

 

Give her what she want before she find it with another man, or she will cheating you soon and don’t let you know, now for sure she have a name of the man or friend she want you shear her with him, do what she say before u lose her.

 

The only reason she had a name in her head while we were doing this was because of me. Kind of a way to ease her into it and see how she would react...she took it fine and was able to go on like nothing which is why im even considering doing this in real life.

 

I understand how you feel dude, and honestly I personally would have the same problem you have. Worst thing you can do is do this with a guy thats better than you in every way. Best thing to do would be to talk to her. Some fantasies are better left fantasies.

 

How about with a guy that isnt good and she would never think of being more than using him as an experiment?

 

Rules,and dont have a friend do it with you...

 

baby steps. good luck.

 

Stop roleplaying it for a couple of weeks and you will probably forget all about it.

:rose:

 

I have to agree with Precious1, forget it for a while, or better yet find another fantasy!