I was at the gun range today and I saw the most beautiful girl Ive seen in months. The fact that she could handle a gun and shot almost as well as me made her even more appealling but, I have a g/f and this is only the 3rd "serious relationship" Ive had in my life. I love her but, ive noticed that lately im starting to slip into my old ways. I used to use, sell and play women and when I 1st met my lady she made me want to change.

Now she's letting herself go and were not even married or living together. Shes getting bigger, not dressing up/shaving anymore, becoming more bitchy and demanding. It makes me not want to fucc her anymore and shes starting to notice. I used to go all nite sleep a few hours a go all morning now I look at her and I just want to nut and leave. Now when we go out I find myself looking at other women and saying to myself "Why do I put up with this bitch? I see 20 other women in this mall that look better than her. Bottom line im 23 and ive fucced 128 women and im starting to think that I'll never have "the one" in my life.

How should I bring it up to her that im having these thots? Im not a very emotional person I mean I was a pimp and a player, Theres no room for a squares love in that game. I use to break up with girls just for bringing me the wrong beer and im trying not to be that way anymore but she make it hard. I know if I leave her she'll be hurt, if I cheat she'll be hurt if I ever tell her and, if I tell her I dont like the way she looks and acts anymore her feelings will be hurt.

Im not used to caring about a womans feelings so I dont know how to go about it and she always bitching that im mean so I dont want to come off that way.

 

Difficult situation. It is good that you are trying to change and think about your girls feelings.

Would making her jelous kick start her into looking after herself?

Maybe book her some time at a beauty salon to get waxed and have a make over.

Talk about doing exercise together - going for a un etc.


Sounds like the romance is dead. Try and surprise her and ignite something new into the bedroom.

Good luck.

 

Dude I'm sorry to say this, this way...........find a new one!! You are only 23! Plenty more out there, the "right one" will come at the right time. maybe right now is not the time?????
The longer you stay together, the more it will hurt her when you do leave. This is only my opinion though.........Good luck man!

 

Women don't start to let themselves go if they're ok in other areas of their life... here's the real question. Do you really love the girl you're with? If you do, then spend more time with her, find active things to do as have been mentioned... take her places that will make her want to dress up and look good... if you have a boyfriend who just comes over and fucks you, and you don't go out anymore, it's easy to fall into the "who cares" trap. If you're treating her like a booty call, then she's going to have self esteem problems, of course she's going to be angry with you, and instead of her telling you how she really feels, she probably just acts like a bitch instead. You guys are probably both young, and it's likely that neither one of you have ever been in a long-term, serious relationship where communication is the most important thing. That's what happens when you get past the whole "new relationship with super hawt constant sex" thing. You have to tell her how you feel... without calling her fat, please! Just tell her you feel like your relationship isn't working like it used to, and be prepared with some ideas of how to help... don't just expect her to say and do everything.
Now, this is all if you love her... if you don't, then move on. There's no point in dragging something out if you're not really into it, and it's not fair to her. The further she "lets herself go", the harder it will be to wake up and fix it. Tell her the TRUTH when you do it, if you want to help her... it's not all her fault, no matter what you think, but there are things she's done to make you want to leave or cheat, and she should know.
Good luck.

 

It sounds like you're in the wrong relationship with your gf. Doesn't sound like she's happy or she wouldn't be so bitchy, and you're obviously not happy if you're thinking the way you are. Two unhappy people in a relationship never make a pair of happy people. Best to break things off and go and find someone new, but keep your expectations real. And you've got to make at least as much of an effort as she does to look nice for her.

 

Oh, how i chuckled.

Hi, my name is God, how do you do?

 

I try to make her happy. She bitch that I was in the same state as her so I came home, she bitched about not having a job so I helped her get a job, then it was not spending time with her so I stop my hustle to spend more time with her. Next, she starts sayin I dont love her and I dont need her I mean damn That alone should let her know I love her because I dont stop my flow of money for no female other than my mom. I used to tell women all the time "im in love with my money and you can get with that or get lost" I feel like she rather bitch than give me credit and say thank you babe I see that your tryin. She want everything right away and if she dont get it then she bitch and say I dont love her. If that was the case I would have been told her to kik rocks cuz that what ive always to females that act like that

 

I think you should dump her. In fact, I think she should dump you first. Trust me, being rid of you will be the best thing that's happened to her in her life.

 

Statistically speaking, 32 of those women would have had genital herpes. Way to go

 

She wouldnt do that, and to this date from what she tells me about her ex's I am the best thing to happen to her.

 

You forget, Beat, that we remember you.

We remember what you're like.

People don't change; you admitted as such.

 

then she has been in too many damaging relationships and needs as much help as you.


youre view of women is severely skewed. they are not there for your personal enjoyment and have minds of their own. if you were truly in love with the person she is, the slight weight gain etc should not be a problem.

you think you are superior to women and that your girlfriend will not be able to survive without you. i am very happy to tell you that she will be fine without you and, at the very least, be better off. she has no room in her life for such a negative influence on her self esteem and self image.

you dont want to come off mean when she already tells you that you are mean??
please tell her to dump you for me and then go get a psyche evaluation so you can have healthier relationships and feel better about yourself without trying to control others to feel better about yourself.

 

advice on breaking up or not aside...
if you would like to tell her whats going on in your head but dont want to deal with an argument you should write down everything that you are thinking and give it to her to read... that way she can know everything that you want to tell her without interupting or becoming defensive.

 

GIrlfriend? Really?

I wonder how either of you can really be in a relationship. It sounds like you have a lot of shit to work through. She is becoming bitchy, likely because she wants, and needs, her needs met. You are damaged goods, too!

You need to learn to think and feel with your head, not just your swollen cock! I have to agree with the women in this thread - you both need to find out about yourselves before you can learn to really feel and love anyone.

I wish you could FEEL - your life would be much fuller!

 

Just be honest. Say, "I'm an asshole. I don't have respect for women. I think we should break up."

 

Maybe I wont change totally but it's worth a try. I never shy away from my past, how can I know where I want to go if I forget where Ive been? Shit happens did a lot of fucced up shit to people but, if you ask people about me u'll get good and bad responses because ive always looked out for the people I really cared about, whats done is done and I dont have a time machine.

I agree somewhat and like I said im trying to get out of that, I'll never toltally disregard it because I know how some women are. I'm focusing more on what women arent that way mainly my lady. I was ok with the extra pounds at 1st, she had a problem with it and I said I didnt mind because it wasnt a big gain plus I like thick girl. However, now I notice that she's still putting on pounds and it's getting excessive.

Thats not what I think, thats what she tells me. I know she'll problem be hurt and cry for a while but we all get over people for most it's part of life. I say she wont leave becuase she used to say "ima leave you" and I used to tell her "if thats what you feel you need to do then do it, I dont want you to be with me if you dont want to" Ive always been that way and she never left now she doesnt say it anymore.

I dont try to be negative on her, I always told her she's beautiful. It's not just the extra pounds thats the problem its her bitching too. Before she had a beautiful personality. She would want to look good for me, call me just to say I love papi, she wouldnt bitch at me over little stuff or try to run the relationship. Now she does, im not going to let anyone run me g/f or not! That being said she knows that I will compromise with her if its something thats really important but, she doesnt ask anymore she demands.

Why would I need a psyche eval? I'm not asking for a lot, all I want is her to stop bitching/being demanding, and putting on pounds. Were not talking 5 or 10 were talking 20 -30 in 6 months. Am I really asking for too much? 3 things, if she came to me and said babe you need to work out I wouldnt have a problem with that. I wouldnt say it to her in those words but, if she told me something like that I honestly would have a problem. I'm more of an be honest with me even if it's fucked you kinda person, shes not that way

 

Sorry to hear this.. good luck

 

You obviously care about her feelings and you care about your relationship. Don't cheat. Talk to your girlfriend. Tell her that you don't feel like she cares anymore even though you still do. And stop going to the ranges or go to different ones if it's tempting.

 

Dude, you obviously want to sleep with other people and not so much your girl any more. Let your girl make herself happy and how about you make yourself happy?