I think it would turn me on!

 

My reasons for caring about what, past partners? Well to me it is important to know..not in detail..but if there are pictures floating around out there then it becomes very important because anyone can find them at anytime. I don't want to be blind sided.
The OP was not for this reason tho. It was a simple question ..has anyone found pictures of their significant other?

Actually it may be a turn on..but finding out from a third party is not what i would like to happen.
Make sense?

 

Randomly finding pics of your partner, I would say, is almost certain NOT to happen. I think it would be far more likely for them to get back to you in a more personal way, ie through mutual friends you may have with her ex, someone finding something on a computer, something like that...

 

If you had asked me this even as recent as two years ago, I would've completely agreed with you. Now though, I see how pointless all of that shit is.

The fact is, I know exactly why you feel the way you do because I used to be like that too. I used to care about how what a girl did made me look, and cared about not being made out to be an idiot and all of that. I cared about what my boys thought and my public image and all of that.

Now I realize that everybody has a past and as long as the past stays the past and none of it affects me, and as long as she's clean, then it is none of my business nor do I have any right to judge her about anything she's done before the day we started being exclusive. If pics or a video surface then it's no different than any other pics or videos from the past because all it is is documenting an event that took place before we decided to be exclusive, and thus it should not have any affect on how things currently are. And for the record, I am far from a sucker so don't think I went soft or anything, I just realized what's actually important and believe me, people thinking you're a sucker or thinking bad about you or even your girl for shit she's done in the past are immature as fuck.

 

This girl I used to know does porn now.

 

yeah, pretty embarrassing

I'm a guy and I saw a movie I made with a girl i was with a long time ago posted. I let her do some things to me that, well yes they felt good and I was young but pretty embarrassing these days and I don't know if I would do them now them.... yeah, ok she strapped one on and did me.

 

And why is that embarassing? Let me take a wild guess here and say it's because of what other people would say or think or how they would view it or you, right?

Stop giving a shit about anybody outside of whatever it is that you're doing or are a part of. What's that going to matter when you're dead? When giving your eulogy, is somebody going to be like "Well I know he'd want me to say he was a good person, but he liked to take it up the ass with a dildo"?

Besides, it was by a girl, and even if it wasn't.. again who cares? If it feels good do it.

 

cool

 

Some of what you say is true. My intent is not to jugd but to be aware. I know what her past is..she told me.
I just wondered if someone ad pictures of teir current partner show up on the web how that would make them feel.

Just so you know..I can't and won't judge anyone. Not my place.

 

For the most part I DO agree, baller, as that's a trustful and respectful way to treat people.
However, I think sexual history is something that should always be completely the business of the other partners. Saying the past is the past and is none of your business doesn't really fit into somebody having diseases or something, you know?

I know diseases aren't pictures on the internet, but I would still like to know if my partner has gangbang pics up on the net or something, haha.

-SOOD

 

If you had read my other posts on this thread, you would've read my clarification that as long as it doesn't affect me and as long as she's clean, it isn't my business nor is it my place to judge. It just does not matter. You're 18, 19 right? Maybe one day you'll get to a place where it doesn't matter, maybe you won't, everybody's different. I just know that in my case, that shit is just excess shit that doesn't matter. When I was your age, I felt the way you two do though.

 

Yeah, understandable. Like I said, i mostly agree, I didn't see where you clarified it as not affecting you though.

-SOOD

 

Id be shocked to find images of my girl on the net. She'd freak just as much and probably blame me for them being there XD

 

The fuck do you mean, you can't bring it up on a first date? Shouldn't the other person know right away?

And isn't the conversation ALWAYS exactly like this....?

"So what do you do?"

"I'm in art school right now. I work at a boutique and I make a little extra money modeling for a website."

"Yeah? What website?"

"It's an adult website."

"Oh."

I'm not judging or anything, I just wanted to say that it would seem obvious that you should tell the person right away rather than have a secret life over something so silly.