My wife of 13 years refuses to let me touch her pussy with my fingers. She's not even a big fan of me going down on her, but knows how much I love it, and usually cums that way, so let's me every couple of months with strict rules that I can't lick anywhere but around the clit. She's thinks all of this is gross and says no woman would want to be touched in these ways. I've been going nuts for years, but ladies, this can't be normal, can it? No fingers and very limited oral?


BTW, I'm totally serious here...unfortunately.

 

Wow. Fingering and oral sex is basically the only form of sex I get. I love being finger fucked. At the mercy of his fingers; receiving pleasure while he simply looks on and plays me like a toy.
So for me this is completely abnormal. But to each her own.

It sounds like a lot of her resistance is all in the mind. You should find a way to loosen her inhibitions and let her really feel how great oral sex can be. Perhaps she might change her mind?

 

I would agree it could be an issue with her ownself. I know I am not always a huge fan of my fiancee going down on me because I am very self-conscious of my vagina. I don't really like it and think its ugly. Thats my problem and if he does do I do allow him for a little while. As for fingers, I have to have them. My man has the greatest fingers in the world, so so good with them.

Have you tried talking to her and seeing if there is a deeper issue?

 

to quote a favorite movie of mine: "INCONCEIVABLE"

 

Definitely not normal. Sounds like parents taught her sex was gross and her body was disgusting. Maybe a very strong religious background? Sex counseling would be something to consider, if she'd agree. But I think she needs to know that 99% of women don't think like her.

 

That really is such a shame for her. If she was refusing to touch you or to go down on you it would be easier to deal with but this sound so difficult for you two and I feel so sorry that she's missing so much from her life.

 

It also could be caused by having an over sensitive clit. I went to school with a girl who kept a cotton pad in her underwear because the material would annoy her button. If this is the case she will probably be hugely embarrassed especially if she's never been told it's ok. Ask her why she's not into it. It could just be cause she's not used to the idea or can't get her head around why you'd want your face and/or hands down there.

If you think she could handle it get her to join the forum. It's as anonymous as you want and she can ask what other people think.

 

Perhaps she's more self conscious of her body than most women?
I love it when my bf touches me and he has this naughty smile on his face! hahha So sweet. And personally, I love being completely devoured by my bf! nothing is hotter!

 

We've talked and talked about it. We've been to a marriage counselor about it. I have respected her boundaries, but it's driving me completely insane. I love her very much, but not being able to touch and savor my woman is driving me crazy.

 

I'm all for fingers, but I have to say, there are some men who REALLY don't know what they're doing with them. You can't just jam them into whatever holes happen to offer....and it helps if they're wet and slippery, not dry and calloused with fingernails that need trimming. And don't rub her clit as if it were your cock you were stroking -- that's a BIT too rough.

If you've got all those bases covered, I can't imagine what her objection might be.

 

hahahhahah!!!!!!!!!! too funny!!

 

Thats a horny pussy

 

LOL on the cat pic...:excited:

 

Yeah me neither...:wall:

 

Why do you always say that? I do not think that word means what you think it means.:excited:

Anyway, you might wanna talk to her more about the why.

 

It is her personal hangup.

One of my ex's wouldn't let my cock inside her pussy because she feared pregnancy. But all the other options were available, and she didn't mind oral:excited:

Unless sex is the only difficulty you have in regards to her, consider finding someone that will fit your needs