Why the hell do people have so much trouble with the concept of free love (promiscuity)?
Why do we saddle anything pertaining to sex with some emotional baggage?
Perhaps we can see the matter more objectively through an allegory….....

I like to go to movies. It's fun to go with friends, but if the movie is good, it doesn't really matter who I watch it with. Sometimes my friends go to the movies without me, and that's okay... I'll get to go next time.
Now, imagine I had a friend who absolutely couldn't relax and enjoy a movie unless...

• I professed a deep, profound, undying, lifelong devotion to her that went way beyond the pleasure of watching movies.
• I committed to never, ever watching a movie without her.

One would think my friend was pretty psycho and co-dependent, wouldn't one?
One would think that this sort of neurotic behavior could jeopardize a perfectly good friendship and prevent it from progressing to the sort of deep, profound stage she claims to want. :rose:

 

Sorry.

That's a shit analogy.

Sex releases endorphins that mimic the feeling of love. Simply put, sex tries to fool you into emotional bonds. That's why it's never just 'free love'.

 

Your friend doesn't wanna fuck you without an emotional bond. Why is that a problem? She wants more than just the pleasure of skin. Sex is something important to her so it has to go how she wants it.

You saying your friend is a psycho for what she believes is just the same as anyone else ostracizing you for "free love". It's hypocritical.

And she's probably right in saying fucking won't lead in to something more. Just how many girls that you've fucked are you still friends with and keep in contact with regularly? I'm guessing at most 1. When you have sex, you're trusting your body to someone else. So what's wrong with being picky on who you choose, namely, what's wrong with wanting someone you may have a future with to be the only ones you have sex with?

So.. I have some questions for you:

Why the hell do you have so much trouble with the concept of monogamy, having only one person with whom you have a deep connection with?
Why do you think that sex is emotionless?

And also, she doesn't want to fuck you, deal with it. It's not your decision to make and if you had any respect for your friend, you'd just leave it at that. If the movie's so good that you don't care who you watch it with, then just watch it alone. :/

 

Because of their socio religious programming.

 

This programming has confused morality with monogamy

 

Bollocks, bollocks, bollocks. This is utter crap.

Go on, blame religion. Sorry, but you can't. It's human nature. It's Mother Nature. It's evolution. Sex releases chemicals designed to mimic the feelings of love, to heighten the chances of the two partners staying together and raising the child cooperatively. Evolution hasn't caught up with contraception, so the feelings still exist.

 

I suppose the health risks that have been associated with "free love", or maybe the view that someone is "unclean" from having many sexual partners. I suppose it also branches from the concept of monogamy in some major religions; Christianity apparently says sex is only to produce children, and having many partners (in 99.9999999% of cases) is purely for pleasurable sex. Like the "Leaky Jar" concept by Aristotle (I think), if anyone knows it.

 

I agree! and think about the subject of 'free love' and what the result. in the 60's and 70's when 'free love' was big so was a new thing called aids (well not so new but the reason why aids is wide spread)

i personally hate the concept promiscuity. I like sex i just like a connection (other than lust) with that person.