Good morning everyone!! I have been searching the forums for a while now trying to find an opinion on fetishes that makes since to me, but i havent found anything that pans out as sensible to my, perhaps, ignorant mind. I should mention i have looked in the vast world of the internet aswell to no avail. Perhaps im not looking in the right places, however i do firmly believe that i may find my answers here.

I have chosen to come here for it is in this place that i feel secure enough to talk about my sexuality openly and freely, and not feel ashamed. Constantly throughout my day i hide myself turn my head or declaire how disgusting something is, all the while being completly aroused.

I have so many fetishes its beyond wierd, and in fact it is sometimes a burden i would much rather do without. However, i do not feel i could ever truly let go of all my little quirks and fantasies. My fetishes range from eating shit to watching my wife fuck another man (or women). Now i should mention that throughout my life i have not had too many instances to realize these "dreams". At first i thought many of my fantasies were simply that...something to keep in my head, but upon facing a few fetishes(drinking piss, chewing shit, sadomasicism, haveing a girl fuck me, ect) i found that it is highly likely that i indeed have all these fetishes.

Now i realize im rambling so i will cut this short right now, believe me i could go on for hours, all i really want to know is a few things. 1) why am i like this!! 2) should i be concerned. 3) (most importantly) how can i fix this? is there something i can do to curb my sexual apitite w/o having to realize these desires?

 

I think fetishes are from learned behaviors/learned response(like learning that you cum really hard or easily while watching someone you love get fucked by someone other than you), what your Id wants(what your brain thinks would be a great thing), taboos(living only around white people-not necessarily racist-and having a fetish for black people), and social norms(large breasts, small waist, "plump" ass).
The Id is kind of a cop out though since I truly don't know how they all start. I do know you can make almost anyone get almost any kind of fetish. Pavlovian responses make the porn world go round.
I don't think there's anything you can do aside from trying "shift" one fetish into another thing. Like fecal play to "wet and messy" or cuckoldry(is that the right word?) to multiple partners. Things like that are possible, I don't know how effective though.

Also, be really careful eating crap, you can get really sick from it as well as no one wanting to kiss you after

 

I'm not being a asshole or bashing you when I ask this,and suggest this....
Have you ever sought professional help??? Sure most fetishes are not harmfull and fun if all agree...But shit eating is toxic...Health hazard...
and the disease you subject yourself too...and those around you...

 

None of us are here to judge your fetishes, since no one anywhere can cast the first stone. I, myself, have plently of fetishes, female foot fetish being at the very top. BUT, your two particular fetishes are dangerous. For one, shit eating is very dangerous to your health, afterall, shit is human waste that's been stewing in a moist dark warm environment, ie; the human body,for a long period of time, thus a breeding ground for terribly harmful germs. You could die, and none of us want that. Secondly, cuckold is dangerous to your marriage. The human mind is very vast in thought and emotion, so who knows what your wife may decide after being with different men as you sheepishly watch from the corner of the room. Just be careful, your health and your marriage are very important, so take heed in not loosing them both.
Good luck to you.

 

1) Personally I think that fetishes are just something that is within us (either inately or as a result of our life expreiences) which gives us a predisposition towards enjoing certain activities (this doesn't mean we will enjoy them, just makes it more likely).

2) For the most part I wouldn't be concerned about the quantity or particular fetshes you have, but always remember Safe Sane Consentual. ie. Safe: What are the risks involved and are they ones you are willing to accept? Shit eating for instance carries a high risk of illness/disease from all the bacteria as others have said. But there is much less risk from drinking piss. Sane: Are you making a rational judgement of what you are going to do? Try making decisions about what you will/wont do ahead of time to avoid being driven by sexual deire etc. Consentual: Are all parties involved willing? ie. Rape, paedophillia and beastiality could be considered by some to be a kind of fetish (please don't flame me for this as I am aware that many may contest this point of view) but in these the parties ivolved are unable to give consent. So it's only if your fetish isn't safe sane or consentual you need to have concerns.

3) Risk factors associated with many fetishes can be mittigated, such as by having a safe word and pre established limits so you can probably realise most of your desires safely once you find a willing partner. For those which cannot be realised you can try finding alternative activities which may give you the same pleasure, for instance role play might help. You could also swap dangerous activities for safer ones in play situations, for instance swap shit play for golden showers, sex with a stranger for sex blindfolded etc. Focussing your efforts of the fetishes that can be reasonably attained may mean that you don't think so much about bringing others which aren't to reality and you may be content to keep them as fantasies or even forget about them. If you don't forget them and thinking about them becomes a problem for you, vsit your GP and they will be able to direct you to someone who will be able to help you to cope with them.

Sorry for the essay but I hope something in there helps. I don't know all your fetishes so I've tried to give you examples of what I mean but I'm not insinuating in anyway that you have any/all of the fetishes I have mentioned.