A girl I know really likes me and I quite like her but when I slept with her once I just couldnt get my cock hard. It has gotten hard in the Past with a girl but usually it doesnt. I have never had sex with a guy before but have hugged and slept alongside a guy and my cock is insanely hard and throbbing. When it comes to masturbation I get turned on by straight porn and gay porn. Do you think it is more likely that I am gay and maybe it will never work with this girl? It is only the second time I have been with a girl and I really think it could be the case that I just cant get excited about sex with them.

 

Could be girls just make you nervous. It's pretty common for a guy to lose or not get a boner because of being nervous. But I think you need to explore your sexuality a whole lot more before you get a solid answer. Good luck

 

I second that. The jury is still out...this sort of thing happens from time to time, and you shouldn't make too much of it.

 

Yeah I think you could be right about the nervousness. Do you think I should try a relationship with a guy or try different things with this girl that likes me first?

 

What difference does it make? Do what you feel like doing, and see what you like.

 

Seems like you're asking for someone to give you permission to be gay, well the go ahead, see if you like sucking dick more than licking pussy, maybe you're bi and will enjoy both!!!!

 

I really wouldnt mind if it did turn out that I was gay but I just want to know. I was mainly looking for people with similar experiences. You know if people eventually found what excited them in a relationship with a girl after being unsure or whether they eventually found happiness with a guy after trying hard to have a sexual relationship with a girl. I really don't know what I should do. I may try with this girl again and try going about it a different way and then maybe try for a guy. I am worried about sexual diseases with being gay. Strength of condoms for anal and blow jobs. I am a bit clueless when it comes to sex.

 

This statement I quoted makes little sense to me. There is just as big a chance of sexual diseases with a woman as there is with a man. Being bi-sexual, gay, straight, or anything else is not going to be better or worse for you. The only thing that will (or should) keep you free of disease is monogamy. Staying with the same partner that is also free of disease/drug/etc and not fooling around with other partners.

Best of luck to you though

 

if its just your seconed time ur probably nervous. try to take a deep breath and start on foreplay ^^.
if that doesnt work try a guy who knows. there are condoms ment for anal if im not mistaking so safty shouldnt be a problem.
good luck mate an whatever u turn out to be, as long as u have a good time all is cool.
have fun^^

 

I agree -- there was a logical fallacy in there. But in any event, there are ways to prevent the transmission of STDs.

 

I've never had a guy be successful with me on the first time, it's probably just nerves, try it with her again if she's up for it, and things may well be better (though it could take longer than that for your nerves to go, just don't stress about it).

Sounds to me like you're probably bi, but so long as you use a condom or make sure that long term partners are cheked out diseases shouldn't be a problem whether you're wit man or a woman.

 

You just reminded me of something else I was going to say. To all you gay guys out there, please correct me if I'm wrong...but I've known a few gay guys as friends, and they've always told me that they were entirely capable of getting hard, and even getting off, when in the exclusive company of a woman. It's not like it goes limp when a naked girl shows up. Stimulation is stimulation, and the penis is not as choosy what orifices it fills, who strokes it and who sucks on it as some people seem to think.

 

I wouldn't have said that is the case. I am sure there are gay guys out there that can't be stimulated by a female and only get turned on by guys.

 

Maybe....but I'll wait to hear from the certified gay guys.

 

Yes, that's correct. If the girl is really gorgeous I'm perfectly capable of doing her. So, watch out, Kimi It's only that I'm much more turned on by men.

As for the original question, it could very well be a case of nervousness. However, the way the question was formulated, you should really go and try it with a guy.

Emily23XXX nailed it, you don't need anyone's permission to be gay.