Hello Guys,
i am having an issue and wandering if any of you passed through this before.
the thing is while having sex, i get all turned on as normal and can perform normally, however i am not able to cum ,
after a long while, i loose my erection without cuming !!!
however, if i try to masturbate alone, i am able of cuming normally
has this happened to any of you ?
or does anyone have any idea on how i can fix this ??

 

lay off on the masturbation.

 

i already tried that !!!
i stayed more than a week without masturbation just to see if that is the problem
but still, it remained !

 

How long has it been going on? With just one woman, or several? I've had that happen occasionally over the years, but never on a regular basis.

 

it has been going for around 10 months now or so
and i have tried different partners but it is still going !
maybe i should go see a doctor

 

Yikes, maybe so if it's been that long. On the other hand, if you don't have a problem cumming when you masturbate, maybe it's a psychological thing.

 

yes that is what i thought

 

Why not just satisfy the woman you're with and then masturbate later? It could become part of your sex session, a lot of people think it's hot seeing their sex partner masturbate.

 

A very intimate question here... But while you are having sex, what is going through your mind?

 

I get the same way. Most of the time I go into sex knowing I'm not gonna cum, and if it happens, then bonus.

I really have to concentrate and focus on some dirty fantasy in my head, and the guy has to NOT change position, which guys don't understand. Just when I'm about to cum, he like, moves my leg, or changes position, and all the build-up just goes away! Boo!

It also varies on what I've had to drink that night. Some things make me super horny, and others just make it impossible. Morning sex seems to always do the trick tho. Have you tried that?

 

I wouldn't say it's because you masturbate, but the way you masturbate. Think about it, the way you stroke your penis can't be exactly simulated by a vagina. That's why doctors don't recommend men masturbating on your tummy, because the pressure and weight that provides the pleasure, can't be acted out in the same fashion by a vagina. So take a look at your masturbation methods to see if anything is too "harsh" that could be preventing your penis from being able to cum without that same stimulation.
I hope that makes sense

 

i think you might have a point here, even tho i don't know how to get out of it

i don't do much of morning sex actually, maybe it is worth trying !

yes maybe you are correct, but i don't favor masturbating when i am with a sex partner

well, never actually thought about it, but mostly i have a clear mind hehe

 

When I have sex I am so into getting my partner off that unless she tells me she wants my cum, I don't really think about it. "Would you fucking cum already!" is something I've heard more then once.

See if getting your partner to ask for, no, beg for your cum helps at all.

 

All right. I was wondering, because the one time that it happened to me, right in the middle I found myself asking wtf I was doing with the girl. I didn't like her and I didn't really want to be there. She was pretty and all, but we had nothing in common. When I hit that realization I wilted quicker than a dip in cold water.

It is just a thought. You mentioned it happens with different partners. Perhaps you are instinctively searching for more and subconsciously this is just your way of coping with that.

Yet, if it has been nearly a year, you should first rule out physical issues. Talk to your doctor. Once you start ruling out things, you come closer to the real issue.

 

i have heard that sentence alot too, hahaha but it rarely helped.

being with someone i don't like is very rare to me, this is definitely a psychological issue, i don't know why tho and probably should see a doctor. don't know why it happened tho after those years

 

Not cumming sounds awesome, you'd never have to worry about knocking a chick up again.

 

It is most likely Male Orgasmic Disorder. It's a psychological disorder that occurs in about 8 percent of the male population... including me.

 

See a doctor...if that doesnt help...see a counselor.Some men have issues if they have been mastrubating for long periods of time because their little happy guy gets used to being abused in a certain way and the new sensation just isnt the same.Another issue is if your spending too much mental energy on doing the deed and not just letting yourself go and having fun.If you are realy uptight about your performance it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy

 

Whatever you're thinkin about when you masturbate, think of when you're fuckin.

 

So i am one of the rare 8% cool
i will see what can be done
thanks guys