So the man that I have been with the past two months is great. He is funny, kind, personable, and a whole bunch of other things. He is so great that he is willing to please me before I please him. He is great at it

The problem...

It is very hard for me to get him to cum. I would like to think that I can please a guy, I have never had any problems. I suck the balls, put them both in the mouth, lick the shaft, suck the tip, ect... So why can't I get him to cum?

I feel like I am doing a bad job, that he isn't interested or is thinking about other things...

Any advice thanks??

BKG

 

Well is am sure that he is interested not thinking of other things. I dated a girl in the past that was the same way. And what I found out after the fact was that she liked to use drugs. I am not saying that is his problem, but drug use can make a person take a long time to cum.

 

Even if he were thinking about other things, they would slip his mind once you started with some good oral on him. So I don't think that that's the problem.
Usually sucking the tip of a guys penis sends him over the edge if you do it at the right time so that's kind of odd.
I'm not trying to be funny in any type of way, but is there a possibility that he could be gay?

 

Guy's don't always cum from BJ's (if that's what you're talking about) You've seen porn where the girl sucks the guys dick for like 20 minutes and the guy still ends up jerking himself off for the last 5 minutes while the girl sits there with her mouth open and tongue out waiting!!! But the most important thing is keep going once you get the momentum going, I know your jaw hurts and you need a break, but a lot of times if you do it's like starting over!!!!
If he's not going to cum get on him and ride him!!!

 

Change things up a bit. If you want purely oral advice here, try getting naked and playing with yourself while sucking him. Moan around his cock and tell him that sucking him off is making you so hot/horny/wet/etc. Seeing you pleasuring yourself while pleasuring him I'm sure would rev his engines. Take your shirt off, get his cock all wet then rub it over your tits, most guys like that. Also, if you are laying down on the bed, try dipping your tongue a little south. Even if you don't want to do full blown rimming, most guys like their perineum licked. Or you can try the head hanging over the bed blowjob. Where your head is hanging down the side of the bed and he fucks your face. It is supposedly a different sensation for them.

Hope that helps some!

 

he isn't on drugs and i know this b/c he gets tested weekly for sports

 

nope not gay. we just had a conversation about gay men today and nope i know he isn't

 

well i guess that could be my problem, but how long can you go emily and not have your mouth get tired.... I guess that is the problem, that i usually keep stopping b/c my jaw starts to hurt... id like to think i give a nice bj, never had problems before with my technique

 

Thanks Minty
I might try to bed advice for a throat fuck
As for the rimming, I'm not really ready for that yet

 

You mentioned something about sports.Vigorous phisical activity is good for us and helps us to achieve better satisfaction from sex.But too much of a good thing can cause problems.Over activity can actualy cause short term impotence.Overworking creates large amounts of endorphines in the blood stream which can fool the body into thinking it has already climaxed.These are the same endorphines that are released after a man ejaculates.

So I guess the question is...how active is he?

 

Maybe this will help as I'm similar to your guy it sounds like. I cannot cum from a blowjob, but I intensely enjoy them, it's a great visual and it feels good but it doesn't provide the pressure and feeling that is required to cum. My wife used to get down on herself as well, same issues, she'd get tired and then feel like she wasn't good at it, which just isn't true, she's great, it's just not gonna happen.

How we fix it is I'll jerk it as she sucks and plays with my balls, also I dunno about your guy but I love my girl talking to me while she takes breaks, talking naughty and turning both of us on. If I jerk it or she jerks it while sucking and playing, then I can usually cum.

Don't beat yourself up about it though, there's no prescribed rule that says you need to make a guy cum with your mouth, hell just being willing to do it is all anyone asks, so give yourself some credit

 

sexually or sports wise?

sexually idk b/c we arent exclusive / dating but i have my girls telling me stuff lol

sports wise... works out daily is on the basketball team is a starter so getting a lot of exercise

 

Don't take it too personally, I've only ever gotten head from two women who could make me come if I'd already come earlier that day. And given that I normally have a pull every morning, unless I knew beforehand that a girl was planning to suck me off...

Don't be put off though, just because a doesn't come, doesn't mean that he's not appreciating it. Unless he's discouraging you from sucking his cock,it seems unlikely that you're doing a bad job.

Also, enthusiasm and eye contact go a very long way. If I was getting the exact same blow-job off women, I'd come way quicker/more easily for the one who seems to be genuinely enjoying it, than the one who seems to be doing it out of obligation.

 

start playing with his ass - while sucking his cock rub and start to finger his ass - then run your tongue down there and tongue fuck his asshole while you stroke his cock - TRUST ME HE WILL CUM HARD!! GOOD LUCK!

 

alright check it out. not all guys are able to cum from oral sex. i have only had one chick ever get me to cum from a bj and it took her an hour of sucking and stroking she was dead tired after ward. its not her/your fault and its not necessarily your man's fault either. like dude above me said anal play might help a lil but if he aint into that then probably the only way for him to cum from oral is probably and literally fuck your mouth! pm me if you have any other ?s

 

It often strikes me that about 90% of male orgasms in porn are brought about by masturbation. I chalk that up mainly to boredom, and the fact that it's just a job for them.

But it's undeniable that many men find it difficult to cum during intercourse or oral sex. I think it often stems from them putting too much pressure on themselves, and that if they'll just relax and enjoy, they'll reach their destination without so much fuss.

 

I think you hit on a key point. To get guys to cum, it's not just about their cock -- you have to get inside their brain. Too many women (and too many men) focus too much on the mechanics of sex, and too little on fulfilling each other's sexual fantasies.

 

This is so true and some girls find it so difficult. A quick "a guy touched me up on the bus today" or what ever pushes his buttons should work.

Is your guy circumsized?

Thinskin

 

Yes, he is. As it happens, my husband's buttons are pretty easy to push -- I just need to talk dirty to him and otherwise act like a whore.

 

Me and your guy must be cut from the same cloth because that works for me too.

I rarely come through a BJ though which is either because of the loss of sensitivity everyone goes on about with circumcision

OR

It is very difficult to talk dirty with your mouth full and nothing will kill a dirty talking session quicker than "I can't hear you babe".

Thinskin