ok i will try to keep it short
i met this girl online at a date site and took her out to dinner
went back to her place and had amazing sex
the next night new years went back and did it 12 times in one eve and all that night heart racing extreme sex we both loved
she is a good girl,,goes to church,never done drugs,doesnt smoke,and hasnt had many men
so one week passes and she calls me everynight,we meet at a hotel and did it 8 times in the eve and night,passionate kissing really intense sex she is so wet she soaks my legs and sheets
i cuddle her and she keeps saying this feels so good i wish i had you everynight,,,my heart sinks and i feel sick and guitly
i take her out to eat and to a movie and held her hand some
she kisses me very passionate and then goes home

she really likes me and i like her

here is the probablem: she is alot bigger girl than i prefer
i knew this after i first saw her,but i hadnd gotten laid in 6 months and her either
when we are in public i see other chics and wish she was that size
i really like her personality and she would be a great mother,,but might get really big after that

i am afraid she is really getting attached,,,and i feel i am to blame and feel guilty so bad
but we both wanted it and she nearly attacked me the first night like i have never seen

and advice or anyone been through this,,,and please dont just tell me i am so mean,,,that will solve nothing

 

First off, I want it known that I've never called anyone on this site, who by the way I consider my "faceless friends", a bad name, but you sir are a fuck'n dirtbag. I'm 99.99% sure that you're no handsome Hollywood heart throb, and who by your own account should be thanking Jesus, Bubbha, Mohammad, Neptune, and whoever else in the heavens who'll listen to you for getting laid without it being your first cousin. This girl is giving you the stars and stripes in bed and enjoying your company, and all you can do is bitch about a few pounds she's carrying. The weight can be lost, I should know I went from a size 42 to a 32 in six months by dieting and walking, but finding someone who'll put up with us and please us is very very hard.
Listen, I'm just tough loving you, no big deal. Just think about it; all the women you keep comparing her to don't even give you a sideways glance, but this girl likes you.
The universe has a way of righting itself, she'll, sooner or later, catch on to your childish frame of mind and dump you, and if she doesn't well then she deserves you and your bullshit.
Best of luck to her.

 

If you're just interested in sex, let her know that's all you want. Lay down your expectations now and let her take it from there. I've had a few girls who wanted more but I told them up front that all I'm looking for is a good time. They're grown women and can make their own decisions. She can then take it or leave it.

At the same time, if you like her company, like her in bed and are only worried about her weight and what others may think then you should get over it. If you find her attractive and enjoy her company that's all that matters.

 

I have to say this. You have found a woman who generally enjoys your company, isn't preoccupied with the size of your cock, how much you weigh, the money you make every week or anything, am I right?

She just wants you for you. And you have a complaint that she should have the ideal body type. If you really are hung up on it, then she doesn't deserve you. You need to grow a pair and be a man. Love her for who she is, or tell her upfront that you just wanted to fuck her because you hadn't been laid, or whatever. Don't drag her through all of this turmoil only to leave her. Let her know exactly how you feel.

What is the worst that can happen?

 

Y'know, folks, I'm not supporting the guy, but...

...is it a crime to be turned off by someone's body type?

 

i kinda expected the remark from dunce
and i am not a dirt bag,,,,just guilty of lust
i am 5'9 and 180 and look average
look at my avatar
and i told her before we ever even got unclothed that this was just for fun

i dont need to be flamed,,,i was just telling what was on my chest
i feel bad but in the same way i think maybe i should just love her because i know she maybe the best for me

just my thuoghts
i have seen this before,,,,maybe i am scared of love
i grew up in a bad family and three divorces
and it made me see things like there is not such thing as true love
maybe i should try and shake that idea

i am not a mean bastard,,,,i do have a heart that wants love

 

If I am the dunce, I apologise. But the way I read the post, it came across that you don't desire her only due to her body type. Of course there will be a better looking woman, that is inevitable. But will you find someone that loves you in those other women? At the very least, make an attempt at a relationship with this woman. Had you been truly turned off by her, you would not have had sex with her in the first place.

Though she got hers too, so I guess you both win in this situation.

 

by 'bigger' how much bigger? for me, in the early parts of the relationship I lose 10 lbs due to the sex activity spike. maybe the same will be with her. maybe work on healthy eating habits, 'protein diet' comes to mind. if you two get along, try to see there's a window of opportunity to let it happen. I'm not saying change her, but maybe you can be a reason loses some weight, no?

 

too the folks that think i have no heart i do
i just wonder what the futrue will hold
maybe it could turn into the best thing in my life
a wonderful women who wants to help raise future children
i am sick of being alone and she said if she found the right man
she would follow him and my job requires alot of travel

maybe she is the one and i am too stupid too see it
i just have never seen any relationship work out
so it has fucked me up
maybe she is more ready for this than me

idk,,,,i think i am at fault,,,but she is better than me
maybe i just need to shee the heart more,,,and hers is big
i feel so bad,,,dont just cuse me,,,that is worthless

 

How shallow of you OP. I can understand you told her "this is just for fun" but actually wishing she looked like the girls you see, that btw, don't look at you. Because she's a little bigger? No it isn't a crime to be turned off by someone's bodytype but honestly… why should any one care?
I'm 5'2" and about 180 (that makes me fairly chubby) but my husband and everyone else I've ever been with, got their asses over that without a second thought.
My insanity is a different story but it ends like this: dey looove meh cuz Iiii'm psycho :excited:

 

none of them work out. you break up or die. Sorry about the reality check, but it's the only way out. You don't turn into Prince Charming, and She's not going to turn into a Princess. those are fairy tales.

Life is what happens between the pictures in the photo albums.

 

My advice...quit worrying about her size and work on the fact that you have made a connection.We have this nasty habbit of being so wrapped up in looking for a supermodel that we forget that most of the most wonderful people in the world arent supermodels.In the later stages of a relationship you quickly find that being with someone you like is more important than being with a realy hot looking bitch.

 

and this.

 

hey if your in sacramento ill take her off your hands, i like a girl who isnt a twig and probably will treat her the way she deserves

 

And here's a real man...
But as for you, I thought I had heard some shallow things before but this takes the cake.
It sickens me to think that people with your mentality exist :???:

 

Reading thru your threads there seems to be way more issues then just the girl and your perceptions of her weight, and to be honest you are kind of messed up.

-You talk about looking at this girl and her weight and then seeing other smaller girls.

- You talk about fearing that the girl may be falling in love with you.

- You talk about being scared of love, and comming from a family with 3 divoces.

- You talk about wanting a family and the whole white picket fence package.

- You talk about not having sex previous to this girl in over 6 months.

Gee you talk alot, but not to the right people, chances are yes this girl may be confused as after reading all your threads I sure am.

Sort yourself out boy, as i dont really think this girl being bigger is the issue here, the issue here is YOU. You need to take a step back within yourself and figure out what you want and how you are going to achieve it and stop wallowing in your own self pity and doubts and always wanting more but getting less, as hey if you dont do this you will not last with this girl nor find your dreams of happiness with her or anyone as you will always have these nagging thoughts.

In the mean time talk to this girl and communicate with her where you are at, do not just lead her on in case she is the one whilst looking at others...and most importantly look inside yourself 1st.

 

Dude. You are....shallow as fuck and don't deserve this girls attention. That said I am here to advise you on how to earn the right to get it, not flame you.
So the thing is you are thinking if you settle with this girl you'll never have someone as hot as that girl across the room (and I'm betting you haven't to this point). Love and passionate sex everynight with a less attractive girl is far superior to a drunken romp with a stuck up bitch once. Do the math. Get over your materialistic labels or die lonely.

Past that, if you are so shallow maybe I can put this in terms you can understand. Big titties make girls more attractive. Big girls with small breasts are usually much bigger than small girls with big breasts. You don't get 36DD on a 100 pound frame dude. Well. Not naturally. Not often. The point stands though.

 

Dude, my advice will probably be the best, cause I've been there.
9 months ago I met this girl. I didnt see alot we had in common, and she was a bit on the heavy side. But still, I gave her a chance, and I started dating her. Sure, I would notice other girls, I wondered "Wow, why cant my girlfriend look like that?" or "Why cant my girlfriend wear that?". I started feeling bad, even thought about breaking up with her. But as I spent time with her, I noticed how much she cared for me, how loving she was with me, that all those thoughts about her appearance went away. She adores me, she'd do anything for me. What other girl, no matter how attractive she is, would do that for me?
Looks arent everything, they wont be 20 or 30 years down the line. I'm just glad I found a girl who loves me so much, and I'm glad I decided to stick with it.
If the looks bother you so much, see what you can do. Maybe she can start losing weight, maybe over time, you'll lose those thoughts too. Either way, look at the bigger picture. If everything is right except the looks, then try to fix the looks. Otherwise, deal with it or break it off. It's as simple as that.

 

Oh, man, this is brilliant.

The man's getting slated by people for having the balls to stand up for his preferences. Maybe she was a good fuck - but what's wrong with saying "You were a good shag, but I'm just not seriously attracted to your body type. Sorry."

 

If he isn't attracted to her body type he sure has a funny way of getting it up and fucking her multiple times!!

While we are standing up for preferences Im sure she would like to find a man that isn't as shallow as saucer of kitty milk but she fucked him anyway didn't she?

My point being that one person cannot hold ALL of the qualities you seek. Sometimes you need too reconcile what is most important to you.

I am seriously hoping you are posting here to try and work through this association in your head and not waiting for other shallow idiots to pat you on the back and say "Yeah man you have to get it when you can."

Stop stealing the pussy and make a decision.