so im 18, my girlfriend is also 18. we been together for a month. i am a virgin. she is not. We were drunk and making out a few days ago and she stopped, started crying, and asked if it bothered me that she was not a virgin like i am. I told her that it didnt bother me. Thing is, it kind of does bother me because i know the kind of assholes she has fucked before. I'm thinking I just dont mention it and try not to think about other guys shes been with. But sometimes its so bad thinking about her with other guys that i cant even kiss her. Idk what to do, any advice?

 

If she loves you it shouldn't matter.

Though here is something you can do for your own conscience. Imagine she is yours at this moment. Only you are being intimate with her. You are showing her affection. You are mentioning how it feels to be with her.

Just about every woman out there has been with at least one other guy. Let's be honest here. If you are lucky, you will have the pleasure to unwrap a virgin. I had that pleasure many years ago, and it was an honor. But times have changed, and I have accepted things that otherwise I wouldn't have. If you can look past her history and truly love your girlfriend, it will show your maturity and give her a better confidence in herself. That she is enough for you, and that you aren't thinking of what was.

Focus on what is, that you and your girlfriend are together. Let her know that you love her, and communicate what you do feel. Talk and try to have her understand exactly the difficulties you are having. What she has done is done, cannot be changed. Do not make her feel guilty, or ashamed. Walk through it with her, and let her understand your side of things.

Hopefully I am being clear

 

I know it's easier said than done, but don't worry about it. If you care about each other it will work out. Thinking too much about something like that will make your head hurt. It's like saying "How can the universe go on forever? Everything has an end, but if it ends, what's on the other side?" If it's the real deal and is something that will last forever, tell her that it doesn't matter if you're her first as long as you're her last.

 

You have already had some good advice, but remember, her virginity is far from the be all and end all and if I am honest it will probably be alot easier for you on your first time if she isn't a virgin. If you find it hard to cope with the thought of her with other men then this is probably just a sign of how much you love her, and as you get closer and such things become more distant they will probably become easier to take, but nearly every problem is better if you talk about it.

One last thing, if you're worried about her having caught something from one of her former partners then ask her if she will get checked out.

 

I need some clarification on the question. Are you saying that you feel insecure about how you will measure up to the guys she has had sex with in the past? Or are you saying that you start getting mad when you think of her being around some other guy?

 

Yeah. There is some insecurities here other than love.
If its about disease then have her go to the doctor. If she likes you even a little this is a small favor.
If its about not being able to measure up then tell her even if you come up short in one are you are dedicated and will make it up in others.
If its just jealousy your going to have a long and lonely life dude. Get over that fast quick and in a hurry before it becomes a real problem for you.

 

Put it in her butt, if she doesnt stop crying
Tell her to put a rag in it
But then again don't
If you don't like being a virgin.

 

bail out bro and wait for a while until you find someone who you dont feel that way about.. i was in the same situation and i was never happy after i fucked her.. it always bothered me..

 

The guy that I like right now is a virgin and I'm not. We're freshmen in college. And literally he told me that they only reason he won't be with me is because I've been with another guy. I can see why she's upset. Talk to her about it and tell her that you're feeling insecure because of it. If she loves you, she'll understand. And if you love her, you'll understand too.

 

lol people seriously give the worst advice here, they all live in there fantasy world, To the original poster, been in the same situation, girl friend models for a car magazine, i knew shed been with like 4-5 guys befor me, and that insecurity of thinking about whos shes had sex with in the past, its a trait of jealousy, your mad that shes had sex with other guys besides you etc, what you need to do is over come that, if your willing to lose your V-card to her do it, you wont regret it and youll realize that shes not with those other guys for a reason and the only that matters is the present and the future and that out of all the guys she meets and sees everyday your the one who caught her eye and the one she wants to be with and your dick size truely dosnt matter, youve got a tounge that will give your g/f a better orgasm than any guys cock did.

 

its a little of both

 

Where are you? Saudi Arabia?

It shouldn't matter. If she loves you and you love her, you will be the only one she desires. She would forget completely about the other guys--especially if they are assholes....

I would say, make sure your relationship is strong before you have sex.

 

just go ahead and fuck her - then neither of you is a virgin, and you know what the other guy(s) knew.

 

Simple. What you should do is stop worrying, tell her the past is the past, and have sex with her.

 

Don't worry about this. It's really a non issue. Chances are, this isn't the girl that you'll spend the rest of your life with. If not, the next young lady will most likely have a lover in her past. Even if you're not a virgin, you could still have the insecurities about her past lovers.

Unless you are willing to wait for another virgin and think that the two of you will be together forever, let go of your insecurities.

 

best way to do this is Fuck her anyways why you holding it back? Go for it do. it will change your life.


Give your hand a break and fuck her.