no human is able to keep a secret for his whole life

not exatly true i have one no one i know knows about

 

Kimiko, thanks for the observation - honestly, never thought of that !! Fortunately it has never happened, as yet. But in retrospective, I have never indiscriminately engaged in liaisons with any one that walks on 2 legs. Perhaps that has helped. But the day all hell break lose, am prepared to kneel down and ask for forgiveness, face all the consequences and be a good boy hence forth .

 

Agreed

 

I was involved with a married man for many years. In fact, I personally blame myself for the break up of his marriage. I'm not proud of it and have never been able to forgive myself for it. I was young but not so young that I didn't know better. We never married and when I did, I found myself a cheater. Cheating does damage to a person's mind that sometimes is unfixable. I just couldn't forgive my ex-husband and we parted. I had a little baby to raise and went about my life. Because we both loved our little girl we were able to work through our differences and be good parents. I think she always felt cheated because her dad lived so far away and I know he was sorry...Would I do it all again knowing what I know today, probably. I loved my married friend with all my heart and probably will until I die. However, I loved my husband when I married him so that wasn't our problem. Sex was never a problem in my home. I guess my point is be ready to live with the consequences of your actions. Because of the relationships that I was willingly involved with I really find myself unable to trust in a man. To this day, I have a hard time with trust and that's so important in a marriage. Think hard before you decide to cheat or become involved in such a relationship..Sometimes feelings become involved whether we want them to or not...Be wise and be carefull for your sake and the sake of your spouse/girlfriend...

 

Cyber hug. :rose:

 

Well, thanks for the hug, it was nice...My scars are healed for the most part and I just hope my sharing will help someone before they decide to do something they may be very sorry for..

 

cheat only if...

you can never get caught.like out of state, with a hooker

 

Cheating'll give you some new sentations,but keep it secret.

 

fuck her

Just go and get it out of your system, fuck as many as you need to.... each pussy tastes different so you will always want more.....

Once you start you won't be able to stop....in facted ive now moved onto threesomes and am looking at fucking a shemale soon just to know what its like....

You live once don't waste it

Fuck away..........just be safe........use a rubber........

 

As a human I understand the urge.
This above advise is good because KM as emphasized the DON'T ever tell your partner part..

I had never been unfaithful despite offers and opportunities. When I got married I took on the role of a good husband in my heart. I was devoted to the spirit of that marriage. I was deeply in love, I worked like the devil to buy a home etc, built highly successful enterprises, made very good money, took my family to Europe to live. Gave wife and expense account (she never worked from the time we got married) and still one day I busted her having an affair with several guys.

My heart was ripped. She was very belligerent about it too. Like she didn't want to include me in anything of it sexually. It was to be all HER. And in light of my sexual past, and the fact she was a virgin when I met her, I should be very understanding for those reasons.

Well. Due to complications, we saved the marriage by a thread. BUT since that time the magic is GONE.

It was like that fucking ungrateful lazy cunt whore shot an albatross. And where every instinct I had ever had before was a magically endowed due to its intension to serve a greater good, instead everything turned to shit in my fingers after that.

IF you are married. It "should" be a magical union between you two at some point. Fuck the church! I'm talking two spirits that admire each other, and in a practical sense, provide to care and share, to build together in a synergistic way to make a greater whole. Other 1/2 remember?

But when one 1/2 turns on the other. Fuckin' look out!

So yes. If you are going to do it. I doubt you can fool that magic you will fuck up between you. But I hope for her sake you could keep the sweet illusion of it. I'm a romantic guy by nature. Still. Its hard to think on moonlight and roses when I look at my wife nowadays without sometimes wishing I was experiencing both, while burring her in the garden one night.. hehehe *joke.. but not by much.

 

very nice post.
plus i think if you cheat once you're more likely to do it again.... and even if you're forgiven the first time, you may not be the second.

 

I am not that experienced at life, i have no experience in cheating or hookers or casual sex, but what i do know is that the truth will set you free. Mose couples will say that they are 100% completly honest with eachother when infact they wont tell eachother things like this, " i am having uncontrollable fantasys about having an affair with an other married woman" no matter what it is you have to tell your signifigant other even if it hurts them or not they will appreciate it much more then finding out on theire own or after the fact, of corse only you know how to approach them with such a topic but none the less you two are married and marrige requires devotion, respect and most inportantly truth. Who knows she may be down with it, or maybe she can help you deal with it more then you think. talk to her about it i gaurente you will not have such an extreeme urge to cheat after

 

are you married? have you ever been married? well if not then thats why you have to ask the question how do you know shes not as kinky as you!!! in a marriage you KNOW!!! you test the waters and if they don't like one kinky thing they are NOT gonna like anything ealse kinky!! i know from experience!!
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quote=Monkeybutt;83308]I agree with triguy there is something about the above line that caught my attention too, but for a different reason which is you are shit full of double standard. I don't like double standard. You are saying these experiments and taboos are not okay with wife or mother of children but it's okay for husband and father of children to do experiments and taboos?

Another statement that got me was this one



Why did you get married if you have to be sneaky all the time? You and your wife are supposed to be like siamese twins. You are shutting her out and you probably don't even have a clue that she might be as kinky you and maybe even surpass you on the kink meter.

The last line that got me was this



Something dirty? What is dirty? If by dirty you mean cheating. Cheating isn't being dirty cheating is being shitty there is a difference.[/quote]

 

My wife knows she is lousy in bed and I asked her if I could fuck other women. Since she knows it's just sex, not love, and she knows I'm being safe, she's OK with it. I even tell her about the sex. It actually has enhanced our sex life. For example, I never used to go down on her, but after practicing on a former g/f, I am now able to do it with her, and she has had some great orgasms. The most amazing thing I learned in the process is how open women are when it comes to kissing you when your mouth is covered in pussy juice! Wow!

I have told the other women that I'm married and that my wife knows we are having sex too. It eliminates any chance of blackmail, guilt and fear and makes it much easier to have fun.

I know my wife and had a pretty good idea she'd OK the whole idea. Only you know if your wife will feel the same way.

 

the lost art of the lover

It may be a surprise to everyone here, but having a lover is a well-established institution in every country, every stage in history. a one night stand is bullshit. however, if you can maintain a lover, concubine, mistress, partner-in-crime, FWB, or submissive, you are lucky. It requires brutal honesty, dedication, devotion and courage. You cannot neglect your family in any way, or your other. Your other must know and accept the relationship.

 

cheating fantasies

There is something very hot about the thought of cheating with a married man. I'd love to talk to any married guys who have dirty thoughts about cheating or more. (but please do not IM me on yahoo... message me here or email me please).

 

Good point. If you're Ok with her cheating...then cheat away. Otherwise, don't be the pot calling the kettle black if it backfires. Fantasy may not be reality. What you think may not be what you get out there. Weigh the pros and cons my friend. Good luck.

 

I married the wrong one

 

There's nothing wrong with having your secrets; so long as you're honest when it counts!

 

Secrets

:rose:I told my exwife about my pst gay experience. When we broke up she shared it with my sons to hurt me. My second wife was a wonderful person. She told me that her first husband pushed her into some nasty situations, but I loved her for what she was, not what happened to her. I did not fully share my past, because once buned, twice shy.
Moral? Sometimes it is good to tell and chase away the past, but sometimes it can do more harm than good.

RICO