So, I was dating this guy Dominic over a year and a half ago... Or at least, I thought we were dating. I eventually discovered that he had slept with not one, not two, but SEVEN other women over the course of a summer during which he generally avoided me... At the beginning of that same summer I found out I was pregnant with his child. All of my attempts at contact were ignored, I think I spoke with him for a total of three minutes those three long months, and normally his phone would "die" or somebody else would call and he would "forget" to call me back. I ended up miscarrying due to some prior medical problems, and when I left a message telling him what had happened all of a sudden he CARED. He called me and was PISSED at me for not telling him. He yelled and screamed at me for about an hour about how I was responsible and that it was my fault the baby had died... and then he told me that he was seeing somebody else, that he had been cheating but "not really because I never considered you my girlfriend anyways" and that I should get out of his life immediately.

I did. I never looked back. I met a guy named Josh who treats me like a princess and doesn't need me to fuck him all the time to keep his attention. In fact, I've never actually HAD sex with Josh. We've been in a relationship for over a year and a half now and, it's not that the interest isn't there, it's just that I was so hurt by the whole Dominic thing that I was afraid of being hurt again. So, Josh has respectfully kept his distance and we've maintained a very healthy and happy casual dating relationship.

I made contact with Dominic back in January... He was on the rocks with his girl and looking to renew our old relationship. I denied him. I actually told him off for thinking I would be like all of those sluts he cheated with. I told him to fuck off. He responded by calling me a vindictive bitch and telling me to get out of his life... again.

I thought it was over. I thought I wouldn't hear from him ever again. But now I have... He wants to talk... What should I do?

 

Hell No! He sure as hell isn't pregnant, unless he gave you an STD, there is NO reason to talk to him! It sounds like Josh is great for you, you have no reason to leave him.

 

Yay! Thank god for sensible replies! Thank you. Now I can go to sleep and stop thinking about this shit!

 

Josh sounds gay. You're wasting your time. You should immediately dump him.

Go find Dominic, give him a blowjob, and beg him to take you back. Even if he says no, at least you'll have the satisfaction of blowing him one last time.

 

emotional blackmail! youve had enough problems surrounding him and youve now got someone who makes you happy...dont loose that!
tell him where to shove it!

 

God damn Michigan girls are stupid. Thanks for the reminder, though. There goes my homesickness. Please stop making us look Southern by publicly displaying your Jerry Springer marathon. Please say you're from the Alabama side of the state and not Detroit. Or at least, Downriver if you're a Detroiter.

If you want to talk to Dominic, go for it. Make sure you tell Josh though.

Josh is a queer, or getting laid elsewhere if he isn't.

 

She does seem quite messed up!!!
You've been with a guy for like 1 1/2 year and not had sex??? (He is gay, or not attracted to you)!!!

And your question.................OMG.................did you read it??? Shouldn't it be obvious????

I think you have some self-esteem issues!!! Dump the one that you haven't had sex with and don't talk to the fuck head ex!!! Start over and find a new guy!!!

 

All the other stuff this person says I don't agree with but the last 2 sentences are 100% right on the money baby. Do what you know to be right

 

Yes, we do seem to have reached a new pinnacle of dysfunction here.

I'm with the above posters. You should definitely tell Dominic to go fuck himself.

As for Josh...he's remarkably patient, I'll give him that. But you have to start getting in touch with the fact that getting hurt in a relationship does not require you to take a vow of celibacy. Having sex with Dominic is not what caused you to be hurt. You got hurt because Dominic is an asshole, plain and simple.

My advice is to drag Josh off to your bed and fuck his brains out....and if he resists, find someone who won't.

 

This guy is a jerk and just playing with your emotions. Don't even begin to entertain the idea of talking to him. He doesn't respect you in anyway. And if you respect yourself you won't go near him again. As for the new guy, he seems a better choice than the latter. But men do like sex, we all do. But allowing past hurt feelings to dictate your relationship now can and will be disaterous. You will always get hurt no matter how careful you are. The best thing you can do is learn from your mistakes, not shy away from them.

 

Jesus.... why has everyone jumped on the "they havent had sex" band wagon? It has very little to do with the situation she's asking about. Just leave it. How people decide to conduct their own relationships - sex or no sex - shouldnt matter to people so much.

About D, he doesnt know what he wants. He decides he wants you, then obviously changes his mind. But rather than being mature about it all, he just pushes you away.
You have been hurt so many times by him - why are you considering getting hurt by him again?

What you have with J is a unique and good thing. Dont spoil it for 5 minutes of happiness with D thats going to be buried under 5 months of pain.

 

well i honestly believe one should be giving a chance but the circumstance would be
a) if the person had not cheated before
b) the person left because of mental problems
c) the person needed some time to think

as for cheater there is no forgiveness they should rot in hell cause they done the worst crime in the world and that is to break a lovely girls heart

 

How could you do that to yourself all over again? I bet the sex was out of this world right? But I don't think Josh is the guy either. If Josh was the guy you would know it and you would not be on here asking this question. You would have screened Dom's call, heard the message, deleted it and never thought about it again.

 

Tell Dominic to go fuck himself. You should have respect for yourself as a woman and be able to tell a guy who only has one thing on his mind to go take a cold shower.

I don't think Josh is gay for respecting your feelings, just as Dominic isn't Mr. Considerate for seeking you out when a woman leaves his sorry ass. Keep Josh and see what you can do for yourself without the burden of the ex on your mind.

 

You, sir, are a dick head, second of all. Dominic is an idiot, A because he is male and B because he is a chauvinistic pig.

WTF is wrong with southern girls, not all of us are jerry springer idiots. Besides.. Detroit is the most fucked up city I've seen in a long time. Thank God Warren isnt that bad.

THANK YOU! You speak the truth, most guys on here are after ONE thing and thats load off to a webcam. They treat us females like we are good for one thing, sex. How would they feel if someone treated their grandmother, mother, or sister like they treat girls on here.

 

I know you asked for the ladies' opinion..but holy ass...really considering the guy who treated you like shit, knocked you up, ignored you, blamed you for the miscarriage, and now wants you back?? look over the logic on that one and get back to me!

I'd say more so its the quebecois within her.

lol :excited:

 

Im not a lady but I am a gentleman. Dont talk to him, talk to me Ill treat ya right:rose:

 

Well, besides the fact that most of you called me a stupid crazy self-esteemless bitch, I guess I appreciate your feedback since I did ASK for it. Posting this was in a way just getting my thoughts out there so I could look at it from the view of others. Mrs. Shark was close to the mark when she mentioned something about "mental problems", but the person suffering was not correct. I, myself, have always struggled with feeling alone and unloved, and in a way I think that has landed me in many situations where I got hurt even worse. I suffer from bi-polar disorder and have some pretty severe anxiety problems as well, and this is not the first time I've found myself looking for love in all the wrong places. It's very simple to explain why I would put myself through hell all over again... I've been off my meds for a month now, and while my therapist things I will be 'just fine' without them, I am not so convinced...

Oh, and to all of you who said Josh is gay, he most definitely is NOT. Perhaps I didn't convey it in that initial post, but I didn't really think that my relationship with him had such a huge amount of bearing to the situation. We didn't have sex because he saw first-hand what my relationship with Dominic did to me. We mutually decided to wait to have sex, but that doesn't mean that I've taken a vow of celibacy and it doesn't mean we haven't done ANYTHING. So FUCK all of you who called him a fag, when you don't even know him and you only know the basest information of the situation.

I have something to say about this:

"God damn Michigan girls are stupid. Thanks for the reminder, though. There goes my homesickness. Please stop making us look Southern by publicly displaying your Jerry Springer marathon. Please say you're from the Alabama side of the state and not Detroit. Or at least, Downriver if you're a Detroiter.

If you want to talk to Dominic, go for it. Make sure you tell Josh though.

Josh is a queer, or getting laid elsewhere if he isn't."

First of all, I am not FROM Michigan you ignorant prick, but I'm glad I killed your homesickness because ignorant pricks like you are what make me hate living in America. And, I AM living near Detroit, fuckhead, and I am DEFINITELY not Downriver.


I wish I had never posted this stupid thread. I should have just written this down in my journal and not given any of you the opportunity to skewer me. I only did so because it was late at night and I was confused and angry and alone. I didn't think that people would take it upon themselves to completely trash me. So, congratulations to all of you that made yourself look like complete assholes. Do those who DID give me some good feedback, thank you. It helped to see what other people are thinking. Sometimes it gets scary when you feel like your thoughts are smothering you.

I made my decision after I read back my initial post, before I even got any responses from everyone. Called the phone company and blocked Dominic's number the next morning. Josh and I had sex for the first time yesterday. I have no regrets. I can't wait to see him tomorrow.

 

You've done exactly the right thing!

Please don't feel bad about all the various stick you received.... if you post something like that on any forum (much less a porn one) you're bound to get a load of peculiar answers.

Dominic is a bastard, forget him.
I hope you and Josh are really happy together, for a long time.
Good luck, sweetie

 

Thank you Jayney.
I know now that I should have been expecting that, but I also know that it doesn't really matter what they said because I am the one that has to live with the decisions I make and the way I live my life. I just don't really respond well to being called stupid, having someone inform me I have no self-confidence when they've never even spoken to me and being told to go give my ex a blowjob and break up with my boyfriend! But, now I know what to expect on here. You can't get all sugar, sometimes you end up with a big pile of shit; I clearly learned that from Dominic. I think the only reason I even considered speaking to him was because of the baby. But, that is all in the past now, or at least that's where I plan to put it; either high up on a corner shelf in my mind or just burn it completely. I'm opting for burning it! Thanks for your feedback though, dear!