So sex after 3 years gets a little stale. My boyfriend has noticed I've been distant about sex lately and I don't want it nearly as much as I used to. I still find him very attractive.. And it's not like he can't make me cum (because he does plenty of times).. but I'm (for lack of a better word) bored. It's like he starts fondling me, we kiss a little bit, I suck his dick, then we fuck and there it is. Bed sex is so boring after a while. I'm trying to come up with new ideas (or even old ones to bring back) to try to spice up the stale sex. Any ideas?

I know a lot of people will say "have a threesome," and it's not like I haven't thought about it. Especially with another woman since I haven't experimented with another woman before.. A huge problem, I find, is that I'm not comfortable with having a threesome. I seriously dislike the idea of him touching another woman and I wouldn't be able to ask him to bring another guy in because he feels that way about me.

 

initiate sex somewhere besides the bedroom. Try in a car in a parking lot at night or something. Have you considered anal, Role playing, mutual masturbation, costumes, bondage. There are plenty of ways to spice things up if you think about it

 

Get some toys, yes do it in other places, introduce food into the mix, go have sex out in the woods, on the beach at night... do not just bring in another person thinking that will solve it all... You folks just have to be open discuss things, hell buy some videos and try some of that shit out.

 

He's really weird about sex toys.. I think maybe he'd be into it if I let him use them on me, but I'm not so sure. He's really uncomfortable with me having a vibrator that is actually bigger than him.. (not that he isn't big already - he's 7in and thick..) But I'll talk to him about that because I think it'd be fun.

We have done anal, but not since the first time we did it.

Thanks guys. That helps.

 

Go browse around sex stores, and openly talk about the outfits, games, toys, etc. you may be missing out on a very playful side of your partner.

I did this with my wife and it really helped out for awhile, but then she started to feel less and less about openinging up, as i got more comfortable. needless to say, I have been wanting the fun sex we were having, while she is put off.

But seeming how you both are looking to be adventurous give it a whirl.
Try new positions, and to just have fun. Dont just try to get each other off. just enjoy being naked together, and being playful, that always makes the best sex, and sex games and foreplay can really get both of you going.

 

Have sex outside

 

Do you guys have a workshop/garage at home. try seducing him while he is working. a car in a mall parking lot is hot. the thought og being seen can be very exciting.

 

Lunchtime

A good old fashion lunchtime quicky will do the job. Surprise him. He will be thinking about it for the rest of the day and the sex that evening will be like new. Guaranteed

 

Do a strip tease, or while your out to dinner let him know you aren't wearing your underwear....toys are always fun...buy a small vibrator, or washable body paints, food is always a good fun toy, role playing is fun too. Go to a bar and have him "pick up on you" like you've never met before. Have fun with it...

 

Let him use the toys on you. H'll get a kick out of it, and there are smaller vibes that do the job just as well, including some that attach to his finger.

 

Interesting thread here. Myappendixhurts sounds sincere.

My suggestions:

Go to clubs and dirty dance with strangers and when you get home alone with your spouse, take that passion from the dirty dancing and....

Make videos of yourselves kissing and fucking ( and don't look at the camera while filming).

Learn all the dynamics of cyber sex and then have lots of cybersex .

 

Three years, I am still finding new things after 15+.

Exploring someone else's head can take a lifetime!

Thinskin

 

Switch it up a bit! Bring in a toy or two. Be more spontaneous. Try it in a car. Thats always exciting. Also, get drunk and try out anal. It's always good for changing things up a bit.