Sure they do, look at DL's post count. Just joking DL; as everyone seems to pick on your views, some of which I agree with and others that I do not.

 

Quick un-related question which I could probably find the answer to while lurking (see that I tied it into the thread topic anyway.)

What is a VM?

 

Visitor message - on your profile page....:rose:

 

Thank you cijababe. =D

 

Foced to lurk here as my husband has taken screen shots of my posts and has them stored in a secret email account. He threatens to show them to my family all the time.

 

What a fucking ass. You should blackmail him back until he deletes them.

wow.

 

Oh dear, that is really horrible. People like that ruin the internet. =(

 

No, they don't ruin the internet. They ruin their marriage/relationship due to their insecurities and possessiveness. The internet will be here long after she bounces his ass to the curb - if she bounces his ass to the curb.

Here's the thing about having ammunition like that - it can backfire. I mean, think about it, if he's got it, how did he get it?

 

I completely agree with Unhappy_mudkip!!!

That is blackmail. Maybe you should consider telling you family, familes can be supportive and a call one from the members in your family to him would take his power away!!! Maybe a chat to his family expressing what he is doing my shed some light on it as well. As long as you don't say anything he will keep threating you one way or the other!!!

 

The main problem with that is how does she tell one's family that he's playing on an internet porn site at the same time she is? Or that he's holding her play as blackmail?

Of course, using the post counter as evidence would distinctly prove to all who the main abuser is, I suppose.

 

I forgot how lovely everyone is here. Thank you everyone but I am about to crawl back into the hole from whence I came. It's a little too dangerous for me here. The internet can break even the strongest marriages. Sometimes it gets on a plane and arrives on your doorstep.

 

When it arrives, meet it with a warm welcome and a return ticket. That or a cricket bat.

 

I wish you the best of luck, :rose: and I truly hope you get out from under his influence. Get way way away. Even if it means a certain amount of shame or embarrassment, it can't be as bad as what he must be making you feel.

 

With the threat of him exposing the play on the site anyway, what is there to lose?? With her just telling someone it takes the power away from him!!! I would approach a family member more receptive first and just ask for advice and help. I think the fact he is blackmailing her would out shine the internet fun. Pornography can be a healthy part of sexuality!!! We have nothing to be ashamed of by visiting this site!!!

 

Well said Tx - well said. Once the elephant is out from behind the curtain, it's there for all to see.

 

"let he who is without Sin cast the first stone"​

 

You have my sympathy. I don't know what activities you're afraid of having exposed but family is family. Even when we do stuff that doesn't exactly make them proud, they're usually capable of looking beyond the bad to see the good we all possess. They love you for who you are.

 

maybe it depends on who arrives at the doorstep..........

 

Don't you just hate it when folk try to justify their bad behaviour by quoting from the bible.

Twat.