I'm a straight guy who LOVES women, but occasionally gets totally into cock (not men, but cock). I've always wondered what role watching porn has had in this occasional lust of mine, and whether or not I would still have it had I not had porn around to look at.

I started growing curious in college (like 10 years ago), but since then have had encounters with cocks about twice a year since then. Each time I get a little bolder. I first started by only jerking off and looking at the other guys cock, usually he would suck me off. But as time went by I went from stroking the other guy, to sucking. I have yet to take a load in my mouth, but wouldn't be surprised if this happens in one of the next couple times.

Each time I got together with a dude, it was pre-empted by myself watching a lot of blowjob and cumshot porn. I got incredibly hungry for cock, and yearned for a hard one to pour its hot load in my mouth. Of course, once I got the balls up to actually meet someone, I got very timid, and as I mentioned above, never actually took a load yet. Once I came, I tended to immediately lose any and all interest in the other cock, and felt the need to leave fairly quickly. In my earlier experiences, I swore to myself it was the stupidest thing in the world afterwards, and that I would never do something like that again because it was so obvious to me after I blew my load that I was TOTALLY not into dudes. The other dude's cock was a pretty big turnoff after I came. But as time went by, this feeling wore off more quickly. To the point now where it wear off in about a week or two.

But as I started off with, I wonder how much watching someone else eagerly suck a cock and eat cum on camera has an influence on me. I feel stupid admitting this, but it's almost like they are convincing me that it is really good. Maybe? Also, I think I gravitate towards the cock more than looking for other women to fuck b/c I'm in a relationship. Guys are much more open to NSA sex than women... and, though I've been with women in the interim as well, I always find I start to develop feelings for them. Whereas with guys, it's exclusively and ONLY about cumming, and once we finish its "thanks man, catch ya later". No strings. No attraction. Just cumming.

Anyway, curious if anyone else on here has a similar situation?

 

You should try to find a partner who is married or in a male/female relationship who is also bicurious and willing to experiment. Try your same age or perhaps older. Older guys are often more patient and willing to try different things.

Before you go and suck someone off, try eating your own cum to make sure you can tolerate the taste. Nothing turns someone off faster than when you cum in someone's mouth and they make "the face" and then spit out the liquid as though its poison.

Be sure if you cum first to ensure you suck your partner to a climax. I know all about the "losing the urge to suck once I've cum" thing. Has happened to me and its normal. Try a 69.......and if your partner cums first, then keep sucking them while they get you off. And, I've found, if they keep sucking you after you cum, you'll want to suck them until they cum as well.

Also, choose someone with a penis size that's more or less what you have. If you're smaller you may be intimidated by a bigger one and vice versa. It happens...

 

Good tips. I have eaten my own cum-- and it tastes great, so long as I have yet to reach orgasm...

 

When it comes to M2M, I have found the exchange of cum is really, intensely personal and highly intimate. I really want to give the person my climax and have them swallow me and I really want to do the same for them.

I have turned down several "offers" if I'm not attracted to the guy offering (such as in an adult bookstore and the guy is too fat, ugly, gross, etc.) or if the guy's cock is too large (for me that's anything over 6 inches). I'm quite small actually.

I find it tough to just dump in someone's mouth without giving them a climax in return. But that's just me I guess:excited:

 

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First, let me explain something interesting to you. Biologically men are made to try and spread their seed as much as possible with as many different women as possible to keep the species alive. Your all wired that way. So what happens is, when you do fuck someone, anyone, men, women, blowjob, doesn't matter, biologically your body makes a hormone for you to back off and bail after you have an orgasm. Its normal. As a species we are not meant to be monogamous. We aren't. We do that because its a social thing. So that is why you want to bail and feel weird. Its a chemical in your brain. That is why women bitch about men moving from place to place, or when you roll over and go to sleep.

And get this is even more interesting. Your brain knows the difference between you masturbating and cumming vs. actual sex and cumming. And when you do it will reward you with hormones that make you feel good, but you also make another hormone to make you bail and feel like you don't like or want to be around that person.

Think about it, everyone on here can probably say that they liked someone so incredibly intense until you have sex and suddenly bam your not interested any more. Its hormones and your brain.

Get this, a study was done with men, and they found that men could have sex with a woman and then when he was done ejaculating, was unable to get another erection, but if scientists brought in a brand new naked girl, his penis could get hard instantly. Its a way for you to be the alpha male with lots of your seed running around. It sounds weird, but you have to look at us from a primeval standpoint.

So....wanting cock as a guy is not a big deal, and the fact your not really interested in the man so much as the cock perhaps suggests a feeling of control for you, or lack thereof. But its your brain making you bail afterwards and then your winding yourself up over it mentally. Stop that.

Go and enjoy yourself, if you crave it get it. I crave it like crazy, sometimes I crave pussy, just be safe ok? My friend got HIV from a man once with only one sexual encounter and he died a year later. Its not worth it. Perhaps find someone who is mutually interested in cock, a guy and then you guys see each other JUST for that. And get tested. Then he can bail and you can bail afterwards and have that be cool. Sometimes sex like that is fun, without all the emotional hang ups. I can't do it, I love people too much.

Love Rain

 

Good advice. You rock Lady Rain!!

 

I normally wouldn't confess this, but just reading this, I want a cock to suck, and a guy to suck mine. I don't very commonly have homosexual feelings, but sometimes they do come. I don't know where I would find someone that I could feel comfortable asking. I am 18 and am a senior at a christian high school, and don't know anyone that would call themselves gay or anything like that. Where should I look?

 

aaahhh sank you!

Thanks!!! We need to face the truth of what really drives us, and knock this mental beating ourselves up stupidity. Women need to understand why men act the way they do and men need to try and see why a woman does what she does. The more you know the better right?

 

Hey Lady Rain,

lots of great points... what do you think of the main question of whether or not porn is artificially influencing my sexuality, though? Another example: My wife always tells me that she thinks the only reason I think the idea of a MFF threesome is hot is because I just see it in pornos (i.e. I've been made to think it's hot). Of course I totally disagree with that, but it's a similar concept.

 

oh crap..sorry

I am sorry you did ask that in your original post and I didn't answer that part, porn influences your mind immensely. Think about this for a second, prior to the internet, men only had magazines, and prior to magazines men had limited availability to see anyone naked or in any sexual position, so all you had was your mind.

So lets go back to biology again. In one afternoon of porn, your mind can see more images than a man was made to see in his lifetime. SO, what this means is, each time you look at porn your brain builds new permanent neural pathways, PERMANENT to support this new input your giving it that its not used to or even made to accomodate.

That is why images you have seen you can recall forever. You could probably tell me what your first fantasy was that you masturbated to, in detail.

And when your brain makes these pathways, they HAVE to be used, your brain cannot NOT use them. Once they are there that is it, so using porn makes your brain have to build and building means expanding, so we start out with something simple, then watch that, then move on to something harder and as we go we need harder and harder forms, and then you start to decide there are certain things your looking for, so instead of just watching blowjobs, you want to see a certain type of blowjob, for example, you might peruse movies looking for a man doing a blowjob on another man on his knees, vs. just any blowjob movie, then when those pathways are used you build more and then you move to multiple blowjobs or multiple partners, and then your watching and you move into you can't watch anymore you want to have that cock your seeing in your mouth, in real life and then you may move on to cheating or prostitutes trying to get the same fix. And its been proven that with enough, people move on to children, animals, rape and even incest.

Look at it like this, you live in a small town. And suddenly a whole bunch of traffic starts to drive through your town, so you have to make bigger roads to fit all of the traffic. That is how porn affects your mind.

Unfortunately there are downsides to this, and one of them is, you lose the ability to have normal sex in the real world because you have made so many pathways that normal sex no longer is stimulating, and many men don't know this but, your body and brain are mega smart, so the more porn a man watches and masturbates, if it is frequent enough your brain goes into overload and then will lower your testosterone to get you to back off. It knows when what your doing is too much.

So its funny but men will watch alot of porn, then will go and try to have sex and have erectile dysfunction, and then they are going to the doctor to get meds to help treat it. They have just proven that avid porn users have lower levels of testosterone. And that means you know what...your penis no worky.

Also, porn changes the way you think about people. So if you look back in your life, lets say you would go get coffee, and see a cute girl and notice but not really process thoughts, after avid porn use, suddenly your seeing stuff, and your shocked at the thoughts that pop up, like maybe your getting an ice cream and there is a little girl or boy in front of you and you process a sexual thought about them and your freaked out wondering where the hell it came from. Avid porn users change their brain functioning and its because when you build big roads you gotta go find cars to drive on them.

So like I said when you build these pathways, they HAVE to be used, so if you go out in the world and your not using them your brain will force you to and that is why you might see something and have a thought that you would never in a million years think of, like about something out of the realm of normalcy like children, animals, violence etc.

And you probably know its addictive too, we have found it actually targets the same part of the brain that cocaine does. People find that they stop functioning, and eating and working to keep watching porn. Lots of wonderful people end up in prison because they do so much that they eventually graduate to some porn that is illegal and it happens so fast to people they don't even realize they are doing it.

I have a nursing degree, and I donate my time in a prison that houses non violent offenders who have really bad medical problems like cancer, and many many men I have talked to, said that when they were younger, they would never in a million years think about doing things with a child, however after lots and lots of porn they find themselves in the thick of it and don't know how they got there, and then they go to prison with a big nasty imprint of child molester on their forehead, when really they didn't want that in the first place, they dream back to their teenage years or young adulthood when they thought seeing breasts in a JCPenney catalog was so incredibly hot.

So in answer to your question, yes...it does and is affecting you and its up to everyone to find the right balance. And yes these arrangements of people of different sexes having group sex is probably a pathway being used.

NOW this does not apply to everyone ok? some people are born molesters, but this information applies to mostly everyone. Its just back down to biology, and think about cavemen for a minute. What did they rely on to get them to spread their seed? Do you know?

As far as your MFF fantasy, its actually not uncommon for men to want multiple women and it is usually the result of seeing it in some form or another, but you might find it interesting that you didn't get that idea from some porn you can think of, it might have been a little bit of a movie you had seen on tv when you were younger, like there is a movie out about Jesus that they show on Easter every year and it shows King Herod in the company of many very sexy women, and many young men will see something like that as a younger man and then that remains with you and is a bigger fantasy, as I suspect this is for you, it might be your hottest fantasy right? I saw a tiny clip of a movie when I was younger, on HBO and it was of a guy walking into a party and there was sex going on everywhere, and I saw a girl on girl action going on and I fantasized about that non stop, and I am not a lesbian. So its the very first little roads you built probably. Do some thinking back and try and find the first time you may have seen some MFF action. And let me know when it was....we might laugh over it.

Love Rain

 

Kinda same...

For the most part, same here. I haven't tried anything with another dude (yet). I love women, but a couple of years ago I discovered transsexuals. It was then that I realized that cock appealed to me tremendously at times. Not a guy, but just a cock. I can watch a guy blow a shemale (HOT), but can't watch a guy blow another guy, unless it's through a hole or the receiver is out of the picture somewhat. Gets me hard as hell, and once I cum, NO more interest in it at all. Maybe that'll change as time goes on, but for now that's how it is.

I'd like to act on my urges, but unfortunately do not know anyone who feels the same in my area. I'm pretty nervous about meeting someone on Craigslist, and even more nervous about the local bookstore that I know has gloryholes (DEFINITELY want to play it safe).

I'd have to agree with Rain... the porn has plenty to do with it. If it wasn't for porn, I would've never even thought of shemales or guys. Definitely an influence. bad? Maybe, maybe not. But like anything else in life, too much of anything is not good.

 

The porn-turned-me-gay theory?

 

Excuse me, but did someone say Bi-Sexual???

 

Human sexuality is ill defined by even three categories.

That was Kinsey's theory at least he believed in a continuum of sexuality from 100% straight to 100% homosexual and believed that most people feel somewhere between the two, even if it was 95%.

On the other hand do you really worry about being Bi? you could be bi but heteroromantic. I dunno, I don't worry about that much.

 

I didn't say I worried. Just more of an observation.

 

Not you specifically but some people get worried about if they have a homosexual desire. It can be confusing but actually worrying? I dunno I don't get it.

 

Let him cum first or with you

The first cock sucking I had was during a MMF night with a guy me and my girlfriend met at a gay bar. She was wanting to experiment with a woman in bed with us. John bought her drinks until she was smashed and we went to his place. Fucked her for hours until she passed out. Then we both lay there still horny. We both started stroking ourselves then he came over to my side of the bed.

I was laying on the edge of the bed and he was standing over me. I took him into my mouth and it felt totally alien. That made it all the more exciting. Even the gagging I felt drove me on. He stroked my cock while I devoured his shaft. When he came I swallowed it all and shot my load all over his hand.

To this day I wish I would have let him fuck my ass before he came.

 

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I think that practicing eating your own cum is good advice if you have never sucked cock before. I have done this quite a number of times and i have now developed a taste for cum. I am basically streight and i love women but i have also had strong urges to suck someones cock. I would also like my partner to suck mine as well. I'm looking at present for someone clean and std free to try this with. I think that letting a man partner cum in my mouth would be very erotic. If it is the way i think it will be, you can bet we will do it again and again. Maybe two or three times in the same session. But of course, finding a partner is the hard part as i don't have the experience or the knowledge of where to look for one

 

im a straight guy that loves to suck cock

the title EXACTLY translates to; I AM GAY/BI sexual and i love to suck cock

 

no it doesn't, lol