ladies/gents.

awhile back, i told you all, i met a wonderful women on the internet.
( youtube ) that is. i also told you how, she went through my history,
without my knowledge until she confronted me so.

well, things were going great up until a month ago. all we do is argue.
( HER MOSTLY ). i started going through some financial difficulty do to
the harsh economy.

my hours are cut back and the overtime is very limited or cut off at times.
well, i have to decide what bill is more important.

car insurance versus a cell phone bill. or, a medical bill versus paying rent.

she thinks i'm lying and playing games with her. mind you, we still have not met physically. we were planning that, next memorial.

but, all that seems cancelled. for the past month, my phone is on restriction and she can only call me. i can't call her. i tried explaining this to her, but she's not having it.

our only way of communicating is the internet with pm to each other.
we spoke very briefly before thanksgiving. now, she went on some rampage
on me, accusing me just being a man, who only thinks with his dick and only wants her pussy.

NOT TURE AT ALL. now, she put a block on me, with her profile on youtube
when trying to post a comment. not sure about the " personal message ".
LOL. she even ask me, how did i get her number. she claims she never

gave it to me. she forgot she did, after a month of online love chatting.
i told her, i should have my phone back up and running again, to where
i can start calling her. but, i did not tell her that.

i am totally confuse. i never said anything to hurt her feelings. if anything,
i always tried to make her feel good about herself.

i can't get her to listen or try to reason. i took the effort to say
HAPPY THANSGIVING to her. now, i'm debating in saying

MERRY CHRISTMAS to her next month. if i can even send that.
her birthday will be here in FEBRUARY. debating to say happy birthday too.

she admiitted to me, in talking to someone else. she said i was
not dependable. i thought, when times are hard, your suppose to give
each other emotional support. not mud and a kick to the face.

one can only imagine, if this was a marriage. it will surely fail.
your going to have conflicts and disagreements. that's when your suppose
to sit down and talk. try to resolve and diffuse these things.

i can't even get her to listen. i am soo fustrated now. call me a wuss.
but, even writing this makes me want to cry too. she made me feel soo good inside.

she's been hurt too many times like me. i was hoping to work it all out.
i don't see that in the near future.

ladies ( mostly ) what should i do ?. i know there other fishes in the sea.
i want this to all turn positive.

guys, have you ever been in a situation like this ?.
where you can't get someone to listen, not even a slightest moment ?.

:-(

 

do you have a relationship in real life?

 

Does he have a life???????

 

@ catrina604

no i don't. i keep runnuing into gold diggers and psycho women. or, some
have quite a few kids, and can't find a sitter. or, has to bring them along.

i try to avoid it all. nonthing wrong with kids personally. but, i have had
run-in's where the fther is quick tempered and still obsess with the mother.
some of them, the ( father ) been in/out of prison.

this doesn't come out until sometime later. don't need that in my life.

i hope that answers your question catrina604.

:neutral:

 

To be honest Krait, online things rarely work unless they are local, so you can meet somewhat right away. I know from experience, tried it, did not work out, hell tried it couple of times. But I did meet my wife where I live through a local chat room, just joking with each other for some time, then we just decided to have lunch, and it just took off from there. But I believe you need to be able to see the person regularly or it will eventually go bad.

 

@ jsv2009

i do have a life thank-you. i do go out sometimes too. this economy is
no joke. i got watch where my money goes.

i have been laid off twicwe in the past. don't need a third. do to economy.
the longest ( first time ) was 2 and 1/2 years. that was during the
recession in the early 90's.

i was soo depress at that time. almost thought about committing suicide
behind it. then, it happen again, in the mid 90's. got really depress and
desparite for money.

luckily, i had a cousin who work for a manual labor temp agency.
pay sucked, but it kept me motivated and the bills paid. never knew
who i was working for the next day. alot of hard ass people to work for.

they look and talk down to you and snotty. i was soo glad to leave
that place. i'm just tired of the bars and clubs. use to work
in one for about three years.

same shit everyday. fights, throwin up, broken furniture, finding women
panties at times too.

no women like our moms and grandmoms. not to sound sexest. but,
alot of women want money, status, and the good life. i work around
women like that. they have no problem in putting it out there either.

too many disease's too. i believe in getting tested when it comes to that.
you can't trust people's words. trust me, i have seen people a little
older and younger. much younger with

HIV/FULL BLOWN AIDS, HERPIES, HEPATITIS, and stuff far worse than

AIDS and HERPIES.

 

Why do I feel like I stumbled into a Jerry Springer Show by mistake?

 

i hear you

your right. a good co-worker and long time friend said the same. she was in a similar situation with a guy in the new england state's.

she said, it all comes down to sacrificing. meaning, between the two of you, someone needs to opt and move to the other person location.

i don't believe in all that e-harmony and other stuff like it. all they do is
take your money and give you empty promises. hell, there were two
women who sued e-harmony for not finding somebody.

how can a company, promise you a mate ?. that's like, going on a date and
being promise to be laid that night. LOL. YEAH RIGHT.

 

very lol

hello kimiko, it seems that way don't it ?.

 

well it seems to me that all she was wanting from you was your money. and when the hard times came she showed her true side. now this is coming from a woman, i think that you should just move on. i know that you have been hurt by this and that you care for her but eveadently she doesnt share the same feeling about you. i have been married for 10 years and you should be able to talk though anything. and if she cannt talk to you about this than she cannt talk about the serious stuff. cry for awhile over her than move on to someone better, that will treat you right.

 

check this out.

she never ask for any money at all. she's unemployed herself, she's 47
has a 19 y.o. daughter. the mother, was crying, ranting/raving on the phone to me and at me, about not finding a job.

had to give up her house and move in with a long time girlfriend and her familty too. i sat and took her abuse mentally and verbally. stood in her
corner and prayed for her.

now, that it's me, your going to say ( i'm not dependable ) like she thought. i thought, you suppose to support the other during hard times ?.
yes, it will be a struggle. but, you hang in there.

 

sounds like both of you are going through some tough times and both of you really need to get yourselves together.. why complicate either one of your lifes further at this point?? sure times are tough.. why make it tougher?

 

Krait my friend, never think you are not dependable. Hell I am an Architect by trade with over 27 years of experience. I worked for a firm that went from 60 people to 12, I made it to the 3 round before getting laid off in June 2009 and I have been looking ever since, hell and in any other related trade I can apply my skill set too it is nuts, I do feel for you and her, because like her I am 48, and I am finding age is a big factor trying to get back into companies and such. It is driving me nuts, the stress is a killer, lucky for me my wife has had my back the entire time, and she knows how hard I am at it, 7 days a week.

 

get your shit together and then meet someone in real life.

 

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a rough time of it now. I sincerely hope things improve for you soon.

I hear you when you say you want things to work out for the positive. But unfortunately you are only half of the situation. The other half you have no control over.
From a male's perspective, it sounds like she has issues that are beyond your ability to handle. It sounds like she has trust issues as a minimum. If you could have a one on one personal relationship with her in real life, it would take quite a bit of time for her to build up trust in you. It seems useless for you to be truthful and explain things to her when she doesn't believe it anyway.
I would think that the best course of action is to keep her as a friend without any future plans or expectations. See how things go after a few months of just having casual conversations if she allows it, but don't stop looking either. You can not put all your eggs in her basket if she is going to keep kicking it down the hill.

 

@ BillG

thanx.

@ jsv2009

thanx also.

yes. she has alot of distrust in men altogether and being used in the past.
she has trouble in finding a job too.
her credit is shot, from what she tells me. she didn't realize, that your credit score can harm you in finding a job.

hell, even i knew that for a long time.

@ catrina604

your soo right honey. i need to just that.

@ BillG

friends told me not to put, all my eggs in one basket.
i did just that. how foolish of me.

talk yo all ya later. have to go now.




:neutral:

 

erg *remembers being 16*


._. she's not worth it. you can talk normal to her but don't get caught up in it again. she really is just a toy, if she is that dumb and untrusting.

 

@ Obscene Cupcake

that's the thing, i tried to talk to her in a normal tone. she refuse to give a chance, and block me off her page. no matter what i say, i am lying, she
accuses me of " thinking with my dick ". too. which i don't.

i told her, we need to talk and clear the air, long before i waste my time
in trying to see her next year in the spring. well, to no avail, she wouldn't
even try to do that.

so, i guess you can say, all bets are off in seeing her for the first time.
she is 47 going on 48. but, you would think she will be more mature
to listen. not sure i said this earlier but, i was at a cousin of mine
wedding.

this was back in october. the priest made a statement that, there are
three sets of words, that all couples should say when conflict arises.

" I'M SORRY ", " CAN YOU FORGIVE ", & " LETS TALK ".

basicly, he was saying couples don't know how to apologize, listen, &
discuss in working out things. she holds on to grudges big time.
she also throw things up in your face, that may have occurred a month
or so ago. not to trah her in anyway but,

she is bitter, angry, stubborn at times, lash's out, when not necessary.
before this past holiday, we were all cool with each other. until,
her cell phone service wa disconnected. shortly after, my became too.

actually restricted. i didn't want to run up a phone bill, with the land line
calling across a third of the way, across the country. every wekend i would call her.

at first, it was 5-6 hours at a time. went down to 2 hours at a time.
hit a bump around the anniversary of 9/11 weekend. since then,
it's been up and down. throwing things in my face.

making false accusations. i was out really simple. same as the weeks in
october. i simply ask, " do you want to continue talking or go our
separate ways. she would become very silent on me. not sure what to

make of it. i had to drag it out of her. at first, it was a yes from her.
after our phones were cut off, she had gotten on me, about not calling
her.

DUH HELLO !!!! phone disconnected. it went to, very few e-mails between
us. to one giving and the other not sure of anything.

now, she's making friends with people of hate groups. not knowing
( looking ) at their profile. here's a woman, who's ( probably )
her ancestors were put to death in nazi germany.

i was trying to make her aware how dangerous & violent these people were. i told her, where to click on there profile. one she wasn't aware of.
i tried to warn her again, on another recent video friend she accepted.

the man is very well known ( i shall not mention ) and has a history of
violence and instigating violence and death. i am really concern for
safety and her pregnant teenage daughter.

i am at a lost here. all forms of contact, are dead end and completely
cut off. my only conclusion is, let her go and find out the HARD WAY.
let her see what lies ahead.

i hope she wakes up, before it's too late.

everyone tells me, to let her go and move on. i know i have to do that.
i wish her, a positive awakening on her part.


:neutral:

 

Cut your losses and move on. This person has probably given you glimpse of what to expect if this "relationaship' actually goes any farther. If she can't understand that you are trying to survive in this uncertain ecomony as it stands, without even meeting her, then how do you think she will act if you two start a relationship. You have very little invested into this person, so move on and concentrate on getting back on solid ground. Good luck.