Hi XNXX crew,

I'm new here and haven't really posted much still digging thru the forums. Need the advice everyone.

How did you get your gf/wife to do anal? I'm an ass man had an ex that loved it and find it very hard to get this new one to try.

Any tips/tricks you can provide to get her started?

 

I want in on this...anybody??

 

I take it that you asked her, and she said no. Maybe you should respect that.

 

the lady has a point...

 

Good call.

But I have heard that some play in the area could get her excited enough that she will warm up to the idea.

Wise words.

Thanks guys.

 

I let her do it to me first

 

our first x at anal...

well we were both young and naive,
just thought we'd try it one day (we've been together for quite some time.)

She knew then it wasn't for her,
only had it a few more times since as she was willing to give it another try.

 

Well, that's true enough. A little touching, a gentle insertion of a wet finger...some carefully selected porn...might be enough to at least test the water and have an open discussion of the issue. I just assumed you were well past all that.

 

Tequila

 

first you eat her ass out... if she likes that, then you eat her ass then you play with the outside of her hole with your finger tip.... if she like next time you eat her ass, play with the outside for a few minutes and insert just the top part of your finger and nothing more.... if she likes that, next time you eat her out, play with the outside of her rim, insert all your finger inside with a lot of lube or spit, .... if she likes that next time you eat her ass, play with her rim, lube your hand, insert one finger push for 2 minutes then insert another finger while you are licking her clit........ if she likes that then next time you eat her ass, play with her rim, lube your hand, finger her with one then with two fingers then you place the tip of your dick in her hole, you push s l o w l y and let her get adjusted, you never pull back just push and hold. When you are all the way in, you just stay for a bit no pushing. When it is adjusted very g e n t l y you pull a bit back, then go in again... never all the way out and not even half way out very very gently slow movements....

There is a lot of ground work to fucking an ass....if someone else has not done the work for you, it takes a lot of patience....

Do not ask, do you like this, just do it. HArdly any woman with a virgin ass will tell you she will like her ass messed with. Just do it, if she does not like it she will let you know.

It is much easier finding someone who has had her ass fucked before and knows how to deal with it and knows she will like it.

 

well me and my GF want to explore our sexuality. maybe if you start exploring more she might feel the same way you do.

 

One of my girlfriends actually asked me to try anal with her, after we had been drifting apart for some time. She had been definitely negative to anal for two years, but I suppose that was her way of trying to get me interested again. So we tried it, but I was not into it and she seemed very tender and fragile. I never got to start pounding her, being afraid of hurting her. She wanted to try it again one other time, but I actually refused. We broke up soon after that. None of the other women I have been with have ever been interested in anal and I have just loved their tight vaginas.

 

You could try explaining that it only hurts if you clench, and that you'll be gentle, like my ex-bf did.

You could also try offering that she could peg you with a strap-on if she lets you try anal.

I used to be so opposed to it, but found out that my anal orgasms, while they take a bit longer to get, are much better than my vaginal ones, so I love it.

 

I agree with most people here. Offer just gently licking/teasing first, then just a finger or small toy and stop whenever she says so. Also, you should try it first with a strapon or toy to see if it's actually something you think she would enjoy. And if she really doesn't want it, maybe you should respect that.

 

Thank you.

I'll give it a crack and see her response might just have to suck it up and call it quits on the anal for this one.

 

What? Not Ouzo?

 

Anal isn't something that you can really pressure someone into doing. They either want to do it, or atleast try it or they don't want anything to do with it.

 

In a nut shell. if that dont work, give up.

 

Keep in mind a few things.

You can't "trick them" into trying it, other than say.. the aforementioned "tequila". But the next day if you use that trick could be hell to pay.

One of a woman's (and man's) biggest sex organs is their brain. Get her thinking about it before hand. Carefully selected porn (as Kimiko mentioned), maybe some erotic lit, or nice hot kinky talk with her. Enough so that she's at least thinking about it in a sexy, and not "icky" way.

A lot of women (and men) are also self conscience in bed (among other places). They don't want to feel unsexy. Anal can have the ick factor, and as long as they are thinking about the ick factor and feeling unsexy it will never happen (unless they are into the ick factor; but then we wouldn't be having this conversation). So, you've got to make sure that no mater WHAT happens, you keep telling her how sexy and beautiful she is, and how much you want her.

Then you can move along to all the other wonderful things, like the tongue action, maybe "the shocker" with your pinky in her, teasing the outside a little and all that other happy stuff.

(Now I can't help thinking about Archer.... "just the tip?"

 

my gf was always against anal sex and didnt think she would ever want it, one night she was very horny and i started licking and touching her asshole and she got very aroused, i started doing her doggy in the vagina while i slowly pushed a finger into her ass and she enjoyed it, i then turned her on her back put her legs up onto my shoulders rolled her back and put my dick at her ass and started to push, we have a good trust when it comes to sex and if she wasnt comfortable she would have said but she pushed towards me to get it in, and to be honest she frickin loved it, so did i and ever since it has been a regular occurance