This has been an issue that has been on my mind for a while now...

I have had the fantasy of sharing my girl for a while. When I'm horny, it sounds like a great idea. I like to see her pleasure, and something about her acting slutty appeals to me. I started acting on this my buying her a dildo/vibrator (She had never had or used one before we met) and I always love watching her use it on herself. Ever since, I've been curious about taking it farther. When I'm really horny, I've often fantasized about taking it farther, almost a cuckold type situation.

The catch(s):

Mine: When I'm not in this ridiculously horny mood, it's not an appealing thought. I'm afraid that while in the moment it's going to be great fun for me, when all is said and done, we won't be the same. I don't know that I'll look at her the same, and that romance and sex between just the two of us won't satisfy her. Also, I'm generally actually a very possesive, over-protective guy. Other than when I'm in this fantasy mood, hearing about a guy hitting on her usually ends with me manually inserting a little inhibition into him, if you catch my drift.

Hers: She has never expressed even remote interest in other men. In fact, just the opposite, she's expressed a curiosity about being with a woman. I'm FINE with that, believe me, lol, but it's not quite the same thing.

So I guess what I'm looking for in this thread is some advice and help in resolving just what it is I want.

 

Just one perspective- but it is not something to be taken lightly. If you are naturally jealous, it may be better to keep it in the fantasy realm, or at least find someone you can really trust before trying.

I love to have my wife talk about other men when we are fucking. I ask her about men she finds attractuve and what she would like to do with them. You might want to try that kind of play and see how you feel before taking it on in realy life.

Sharing has been fantatsic for us- but I am not at all jealous.

 

I feel the same way bud, but it's one of those things you gotta find out. If she really loves you then there shouldn't be a problem. Try finding a couple that is feeling the same way you are.

 

It's something you really have to think about whether you do want it or not. My GF and i swing a fair bit now but at first it took a long time to go from just talking about it during sex to actually doing it. The main part we had to get over was the jealousy and also to learn to separate love and sex as different acts. There were some awkward moments at first but now it's all fun

 

I appreciate all of the honest replies! Thanks gents! (And ladies?)

 

A fellow Texas Bro?! I gotta say I feel the same way too. And its only when Im horny and my imagination takes me away. I have no experience with 3somes. And neither does my wife. Like yours, she's never played with a toy before. Only I do it to her. And I love seeing her get fucked by this blue vibro. We've played with it several times and I think she likes the feeling of "it" in her, and me right there either fondling or kissing her somewhere. All while I manually pump her swollen pussy. Now what she absolutely loves is a 69 (her on top) and I pump away with the toy! She can fantasize being licked by me while she sucks me AND getting fucked from behind by whomever is in her mind.

 

We find it erotic but it isn't for everyone...

You have to have the courage and self confidence in her love that just because you are sharing her with another man and he is making her orgasm (perhaps even better than you do) that she separates the sexual act from the mental and psychological facts (your relationship). If there is any doubt or any jealousy between either one of you, you best not go there. My wife and I made this decision ten years ago and I have watched her being pleased by other men and it has not made us weaker or less secure in our love for each other. It is a tremendous turn on to see her holding another man's erect penis in her hand as she guides it to her mouth or to see the wedding ring that I put on her finger with another man's cum on it.

 

I agreed watching my wife get sexual pleasure from another man and her giving sexual pleasure to the other man is a big turn on for the both of us.
It like my wife has said she loves me, and the other guys are like sex toys to her, to be used for her sexual pleasure.
When I watch the other guy cum in the lips I have been kissing all these years, it makes me love and sexually desire my wife even more.

 

My boyfriend was dead against it at first, but after one arguement too many I told him I find it hard to get sexual gratification from him and that I wanted to see other people. Obviously that didn't help things initially! However after reconciling he said he would let me see other people (think open relationship) but must of thought that was a compromise to keep our relationship going.

What I had in mind was to join a sex club my friend told me about, although good initially the novelty soon wore off so I setup one of my own built around me own sexual fantasies, wants & needs. The rest is history!

 

This is a fantasy of mine as well. In the past we have even talked about it a bit while having sex...and even used toys. She always likes it when I use a toy in her pussy while she sucks my cock. While she is doing this I talk to her about someone fucking her while she sucks me, and she seems to get very excited when I do...but that is as far as it has gone so far...

 

Love watching her

 

Satisfy both

You want a threesome with you, your GF and another guy.
She wants a threeseome with you, herself and another girl.
Seems to be the ideal situation for a swinging get-together with another same-minded couple.

 

If Im good and horny, the idea of my wife servicing a bunch of cocks gets me hot and bothered, but I don't think its an idea that would work out as well in real life. Too many complications, I think

 

Interesting thread.

 

This is more common then you think. I once dated a guy who thought a threesome with another guy would be great. He would tell me this in the thrills of having sex or during foreplay.

I was young and didn't pick up on the fact that the only time we discussed it was when he was pretty worked up. Long story short, I agreed and we found someone to do this with. After it was all over and the other guy left we had a really big fight and he accused me of just about everything you can think of. It got pretty heated and he hit me.

I watched him getting hauled off by the cops and while he was gone I dropped all his stuff at his parents house.

I guess my advice is be absolutely sure you want this or it may destroy your relationship.

Love Megan

 

If as you say, you are only interested in this scenerio when you are horny, I think the safest thing to do is leave it a fantasy, especially if you care more about keeping the relationship.
One question you will have to ask yourself is "After I have climaxed and I see my girl with another man's dick in her mouth or pussy, how will I feel about it?"
Being the jealous type as you say, I think that would be dangerous for your relationship, not to mention the other fellow.

 

Wow Megan,...so sorry to learn that you went through something like that. Unfortunately like you said, its common.

 

just be sure it is what both of you want, an understand when doing threesomes it is for the sex.

 

Maby you should try a wife/gf swap with a couple who is inexperienced in the same way. That's really hot.

 

My husband an I are talking about doing it again.