I've been maried for 2years, and I love my wife very much. But I found she was becoming more and more rediculous thses days!

Every night, when I wanna have sex with her, she seems have no interest in such things, no matter what I do, she just has no response! So I think she is not feeling well.

But last night, I got back home nearly in the mid-night, I did not turn on the light or make any noise, just in case not to awake her(I thought she was sleeping!). And I went straight to the bathroom, as I opened the door, the shocking scene came to my sight - she was masturbing in the bathroom! And there were several sex toys, when I saw her, she was giving Bj to a dildo, and a droplet (egg vibrator - I bought for her as X'mas present) was working in her pussy...

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Now I'm really confused about this: my wife would rather have sex with sex toys than me...what's wrong with her???

PS: I have no problem with sex work and I definately can satisfy her.

 

Did you ask her?

 

don't worry about it. Just ask her to play in front of you.
watch and learn and don't judge.

 

Yes, she said she did not know what's wrong, just wanna have sex with sex toys. She said sex toys can make her feel so good, and just have no interest in fucking with me...I rarely get mad in the past, but now, I just become fury crazy once I think about all those things! But I do not wanna get divorce...

Really need help...

 

i think at this point i would be finding a fuck buddy. you gotta satisfy your needs too.

 

Why dont you try having sex with her, and still allow her to use the sex toys instead of you fingering her while she blows you let her put the dildo in herself or w.e she wants, but once people get bored of each other its time to find new ways to improve the whole sex life. If she likes toys try to just mix that into your sex life.

 

Buddy, I've tried in every means, and I bought her that droplet thing was to cheer her up(because I found her change since X'mas, and I thought maybe something new would bring her good mood). I'll try to talk to her, no argue, no acuse...Just tell her my true feelings, and, as you suggested, try to enter her sexual life with toys...

 

Hell she obviously likes the vibrators and such. Get a vibrating cock ring, I got one a while back, our sex life was great before, I have no problem using the toys on her, gets her really worked up, and then I have my fun. But the first time I used it, oh hell she went nuts :excited:

 

Have you tried counseling? I'm sure someone with a degree in this type of thing could really help you guys out with this.

 

what the fuck is wrong with you? sometimes your wife wants to get herself off its no big deal. Maybe if you werent such a threatened little pussy about it and be a man she'd want to jump your rod more often. think about it

 

Well that seems a little harsh.

OP ... it sounds like her sex life with you is less desirable than playing with toys. This could be for many reasons. Maybe you're too big. Maybe you care more about your own pleasure than hers. Maybe she's unable to be uninhibited with you. Maybe she's unhappy with her appearance and that fact bleeds into her sexuality.

I don't think it is a question of 'what's wrong with her' but more a question of 'what's wrong with our sexual chemistry?'

Talk to her. Do so in a soft, understanding way as opposed to accusing her of something.

Good luck!

 

Maybe it was because I did not pay enough attention to care about her feelings. I will think it over, thanks.

 

:lol:Thank you.

 

I would try counseling as a last resort, or just try to surprise her with a romantic day out come home and well please her with your tongue and see where it goes from there.

 

you should get home early one night, make a candlelit dinner, buy her a gift or something, soothing music, get some massage oils and make the night all about her needs, go down on her even if you dont like it, make sure you satisfy her every need, even if you use her toys on her, show more willingness in bed to please her and she will in turn please you.

 

Very great suggestion, I will try. Thank you very much.

 

Ok..... I smell something funny here.

1. Your 20 years old Correct?

2. You have been married for 2 years, so you were 18 when you were married?

3. How old is your wife?

4. You write like English is not your primary language.

5. How attentive are you to her?

6. You sound to me like a jump on get your nuts off and jump off guys! From the way you phrased your question.

 

Well, I registed on this forum a few days ago, and I've edit my profile just now - thank you for reminding.

 

Ummmm you must be in a time warp then... Says you joined in October 2010

And now your 25, wow you aged 5 years real quick.....?

 

i agree with rock n rolla you jus gotta try and make it special for her do what she likes ( food, wine, flowers ) try to get her toys involved and just try to enjoy it together

good luck