I cannot help myself, but i'm currently cheating on my GF.

I met this amazing women, who is both funny, intelligent and cute two months ago. A couple of weeks ago, we started having sex together, something we both have enjoyed since... She, knows i have a GF and is happy about that since she does not want to commit. However, my GF of course has no clue.... I love her, and know this is wrong... but i just think it is good to have sex with other women from time to time...

While on business trips i also have had sex with whores. Something i actually prefer to have a regular "cheating" partner... since you pay, you fuck and you leave.

What are your opinions on that?

 

I'm one end of the extreme - I say drop your g/f now - she deserves better than you, you scum! I am sure you will get a few more favourable responces from others - how do you look her in the eye and say "I love you", or indeed look yourself in the mirror in the morning.

Dump her

 

What a women thing to say, "dump her..."

I bet your man does the same to you

 

I am a bloke - well last time I checked my pants

 

sorry, mate!

it was still a "women" thing to say...

love to rub your head!

 

To me it all depends on your definition of "girlfriend", and what your understanding is with her. When I was single, I had "boyfriends", but the relationship was never such that it precluded having sex with others. They understood that, although some didn't like the arrangement.

But if you have a monogamous relationship with her, as you implied by referring to what you are doing as "cheating", then yes, you're being dishonest and unfair with her, and you (or she) ought to end the relationship.

 

Wowww -what a fantastic g/f you would have made ( few years ago now though?....)

 

Re: Cheating

Well my friend let me tell you my story...up until about 8 months ago i was with a nice lil gal whom id been with for three years...i cheated on her on her with three different girls one of these girls i lost my virginity too when i had promised my at the time gf that she would be my first and i would be hers...we had been together a year and three months before we had sex and were together another two when the girl i had lost my virginity too became extremely jealous (this girl also happened to be a friend of my then gf) this girl had always been jealous because she wanted a relationship with me even though i had made it clear before we had sex that i could'nt be in a relationship with her...well....one day im out with my exgf and we're driving down the road she asks me too tell her the truth about her friend, i look over at her and she has tears in her eyes...so i made the worst mistake iv ever made....i told her the truth....i was thinking at the time she might forgive me cuz she had already been told by her friend what happened and i thought i would be forgiven....no....not at all....i dropped her off and later got a call and was told by her that she wanted a break....a day later she broke up with me....now she has become a complete slut she has went wild since we've been broken up and i cant believe it...but i guess paybacks a bitch right? she's with some older dude now who treats her like shit, but she goes right along with it all and all bro cheatings not worth it if you care about the person and love them it can really mess up a good relationship and you will regret it heavily if you know and feel in your heart what your doing is wrong.

 

Never gamble what you aren't willing to loose.
If you really love your gf, and you don't want to loose her, than don't cheat on her because if she finds out, your ass is out the door.
I think that you have a lot of serious thinking to do.

 

Tough, been there... done that... not easy

 

You didn't put a ring on your gf's finger did you?

 

It doesnt seem that you actually love this girl or you wouldnt be risking losing her. Why are you keeping her around? As a woman, I would rather be dumped then have my BF/husband out there sleeping around on me. By all means, keep your sex friend and whores, but have some respect and let your girlfriend move on with her life and find a man that wants to be with her and love her. (Hell talk to her about an OPEN relationship, who knows, she may be game.)

Think about this.....
How would you feel if she had a man on the side and was out paying strange men to fuck her?

 

GF doesn't mean wife and family....so you may act how is good for you.Keep it secret for a while.

 

I don't think you're immature and I'm not preaching to you like a child I hope when I say:

You ARE missing out on true *intimacy. I don't think you have it with your current girlfriend, it sounds like this new infatuation doesn't hold much chance for it, and I doubt you'll EVER find it with a prostitute.

So what?

Well. True intimacy may not last. But while it does, you wont want to cheat. I say this after fucking with at least 400 people.

About 3 of those 400 I have been truly intimate with.

All of us, including your current girlfriend, have only a limited time to find this level of spiritual union, the deepest feeling of 'oneness' you'll ever know while alive (determined by how long you will live) Not only should you keep looking for yours, you should either decide to find true intimacy with your current GF or let her go to find hers with someone else.

Going by what I have read here over time: Kimiko displays the kind of relationship that is truly intimate, (including that she never fully dissects it like an insect) She has most of the qualities any man might want imo, and she is deeply in love including having admiration for her man I think, she is overtly sexual, and yet chooses to keep that sexuality limited only to flirtation in hyperspace.

I suspect she has true intimacy with her man in the way I say I have know 3 times. Further, when I had true intimacy twice, I choose to make my love a toy, by arrangement, to have sex outside that union with consent and those relationships ultimately died out.

So what I'm recommending is:

Don't kid yourself that you have real love. Your love is very pale atm compared to what you could have with a truly intimate lover. So you're wasting time, your gf's and yours, by not looking for it while your not married.

Try reading/learning about intimacy, then try to find it with your current GF, and quickly decide to move on if you can't find it with her for both your sakes.

The bluntest statement I will make on this subject is that, in fact, at the moment, ALL your sexlife is almost as meaningless as going to a prostitute in regards to how lacking in true intimacy those encounters are atm.

Now if I seem to have scolded you, its because I want to motivate you to try for greater intimacy while you have the best chance, and least risk.

You're lucky your not married with kids and stand to loose everything down to your underwear with some woman that has broken YOUR shared intimacy, so that you are so bitter you can hardly remember when you had true intimacy with her, like my current position (yep she cheated an broke the magic I though I had there).

So my last words are.. if you FIND true intimacy.. be like Kimiko and really value it, the pair of you.. you can fuck it up irreparably through **cheating IF you are lucky enough to have found it in this world in the first place.

(*a feeling of being intimate and belonging together on the deepest, most fulfilling level possible, some may say true love, I say spiritual mingling and I'm agnostic, so I don't mean like you have to be "religious" to be so deeply in love. Its possible for all of us, but we better hurry the fuck up and find it, *and hopefully with our spouses if we are already manacled too them. sigh*)

( **It's a search for true intimacy by those that don't have it, at its best, and a form of greed by those that already have it, but don't respect true intimacy's precious rarity, at its worst)

 

"Well my friend let me tell you my story...up until about 8 months ago i was with a nice lil gal whom id been with for three years...i cheated on her on her with three different girls one of these girls i lost my virginity too when i had promised my at the time gf that she would be my first and i would be hers...we had been together a year and three months before we had sex and were together another two when the girl i had lost my virginity too became extremely jealous (this girl also happened to be a friend of my then gf) this girl had always been jealous because she wanted a relationship with me even though i had made it clear before we had sex that i could'nt be in a relationship with her...well....one day im out with my exgf and we're driving down the road she asks me too tell her the truth about her friend, i look over at her and she has tears in her eyes...so i made the worst mistake iv ever made....i told her the truth....i was thinking at the time she might forgive me cuz she had already been told by her friend what happened and i thought i would be forgiven....no....not at all....i dropped her off and later got a call and was told by her that she wanted a break....a day later she broke up with me....now she has become a complete slut she has went wild since we've been broken up and i cant believe it...but i guess paybacks a bitch right? she's with some older dude now who treats her like shit, but she goes right along with it all and all bro cheatings not worth it if you care about the person and love them it can really mess up a good relationship and you will regret it heavily if you know and feel in your heart what your doing is wrong."

Thats wrong man, you have ruined her life and broke her trust

 

i know man i fucked up bad...i would do anything in the world to take it back alas i was young and stupid i guess iv matured quite abit since then though and now realize that its time to put all the foolishness behind me and grow up

 

You WERE young and stupid? Hmmmm...I thought you said you were still cheating on her.

 

You are a wise Canadian Nympho.

 

Sorry luv, I meant: You are a wise Canadian, (comma) Nympho.

 

You'll regret cheating in the future when you lose this woman, and discover yourself sitting across the dinner table from a different woman you wish you had never met.

I'm not speaking from experience of course.