Im a little embarassed actually to even be asking for this kind of advice as I am not new at all to the whole dating game. However Im a little confused with this girl I met about a month ago. I cant quite figure her out?

I guess what Im confused about is that I cant figure out if she just wants to be friends or if she thinks Im bf material. The very first night I met her was at her place of work. I was sitting by myself waiting on a buddy of mine to meet me for lunch when she approached me. We had talked for only a couple of minutes when she asked me if I would go have a drink with her after she got off. Later that night I met her at a bar, we had a couple drinks and we hit it off great. As we were leaving, I got her phone number and she told me we should hang out. Which in my experience is always a good thing.

Since then we have hung out more than a few times and just gone and done random shit together. We have gone to lunch, gone to movies, gone to the mall, gone to concerts, we even went fishing together and have gone to sporting events. So Im pretty sure she likes spending time with me? I know I adore the time I spend with her always, no matter what we do. I do know for a fact that she trusts me and is comfortable around me. Its obvious.

Sometimes when we are out, she will call me "daddy" as a nickname and refer to herself as "momma" or call me by my real nickname even amongst her friends. Havent heard her call anyone else that, not even her other guy friends. She even texts me goodnight sometimes. Ive always known little pet names and shit like that to be a good thing.

Im just confused as to what her intentions are? I know she isnt using me, thats evident. As we will sometimes split checks or trade off who drives to places. My problem is she asked me out without even knowing me, so i think there is a little bit of attraction there at least on her part. I know Im attracted to her, Ive even hinted to her that I think she is hot.

The thing is I dont want to do anything stupid like make a move too early and lose her trust and in turn lose her. She hasnt told me she just wants to be friends but at the same time she hasnt told me that she wants to date either. Am I typically someone she would date but she is not sure if she wants to go through with it yet? Im afraid to even talk to her about it because if I am totally wrong Im going to look like a huge jackass to her.

Any help is appreciated.


-newcummer

 

Be brave and just ask her what her intention is cause the sound of thing she like you and all. Also how does she intro you to her friends? as a friend or boyfriend?

 

There is usually never a "label" when I get introduced. Mostly its just real casual blah blah blah "this is______".

 

Good God, dude. It's simple, after a night out simply say, "would it be okay for me to kiss you good night?", and see what she says. She'll either say, "sure" or she'll say, "I don't think so". WTF? I'm hoping you're at least 18, and if you are and you don't know how to kiss a girl good night, well, maybe stay off the porn sites and get out in the real world. Wow. It's a fucking kiss, it's not like you're asking her to blow you, (yet).

 

Good god dude. This man is asking a genuine question and you fucking troll his thread just to tell him to get off the porn site. Any way new cummer, Dude it sounds like she's into you. Maybe when she intros you to her friends, all she needs to give is your name because she talks about you all the time. Self confidence can be a bitch sometimes, but that is all this sounds like to me. It's easier to speculate than to actually experience though. Sounds to me like you have already kind of got it in your head that you two are dating. Introduce her to your friends as your girlfriend and see how she reacts to that. Sometimes, you have to play it a little bit wild sometimes and see where things take you. But you seem concerned enough about her and from what you've said, she seems like she's pretty into you. Seems genuine to me. But hey. I'm one opinion out of billions of people. You gotta make your decision

 

Sounds like she's really into you. Make your move before it's too late. These windows do close.

 

Go for it dude and good luck.

 

girls are Queen of Mix Signals, but if you ask you might get your answer..

Go for it dude!

 

there are a few ways that you can take this to figure out how she feels.

first, and by far the best, is just the direct method where you simply ask her. worst case, she says no to being in a relationship but you remain friends.

second is to try putting a bit of a move yourself to see how she reacts. if you aren't comfortable with kissing her goodnight, go for a simple kiss on the cheek or (for really old school) a kiss on the hand. from the sound of things I don't suggest going with this rout

finally, you could always just continue with things the way they are and hope to see some kind of movement on her part.

honestly, it sounds to me as though she has put a move on you already by having asked you out first (the drinks) and giving you her numbers. it may be that she wants to see you make a move and take a chance, so just go for it and show her that she is worth the risk to you ^_^

 

A woman asks you out and gives you her number and that's MIXED signals?!

How could you be any clearer.

As a woman I'd think this Guy didn't like me, if after that he wasn't showing any signs of taking it further.

 

oh-oh! I'm in trouble.. shouldn't have said that.. chill! :excited:

What I meant with that is that sometimes girls shows interest to us guys and ofcourse us thought there must be something good going on.. then when time comes and confront the girls and ask they will tell us that they are not interested..

thats my simple explanation..

 

I just want to make it clear to you that you are on a porn site as well as I am, jackass. Dont know if you realized that or not? While we are at it, I hope you are younger than 18. That excuse will make it alot easier on you when talking out of your ass. If not, you might want to take your own advice.........

 

Just my 2cents, enjoy the thrill of the chase, keep dropin hints, if nothin happens for a few weeks and your gettin frustrated then ask the question but from the sounds of it she likes you a lot

 

If she is doing all those things with you and having fun it usually means she would like it to go further. what you must show is confidence when you try to kiss her or it will turn her off. She wants you don't blow it.

 

Have you tried asking her out to dinner at a proper restaurant?

You split tabs and she wants to spend time with you more than any friend might. And this girl is making it easy for you to take the next step, but you are wondering what it is that she wants.

If she didn't feel anything for you, she'd refrain from going out places and mentioning you frequently when the two of you are out.

 

To me it sounds like she is interested and you want to be careful so you don't get stuck in the friend zone if you are not there already.

It sounds like you guys have done a lot together, but has this been over any particular length of time? After a while she will decide that you must not be interested and she will start to see you as a friend.

As others have said, I would suggest the direct approach. Something along the lines of "I really enjoy hanging out with you and we seem to have a really good thing going. I was wondering..." Then finish with "where do you think we'll go from here?" "Would you like to be my girlfriend." (old fashioned but cute). Or "would you like to get a little more romantic." "Should we take this to the next level?"

And about a million other options. Not only does this solve your current problem but it will establish trust and openness so both of you can feel more comfortable in asking questions as the relationship moves forward. None of us are mind readers and questions WILL come up. It's very sad when relationships end because no one had the nerve to ask a question.

Oh, and kissing the hand? My brother's best friend kissed my hand when I was 14, right before he gave me my first kiss. There is nothing more sweet, innocent, and possible to pass off as a friend thing if taken incorrectly, hahaha.

 

This^

Girls don't ask a guy out to just be friends. Like another poster said, take her out to a proper restaurant, don't split the check with her, walk her to her door and if she doesn't ask you in, give her a real kiss goodnight. Don't ask, just kiss her. If she does invite you in, as soon as the door closes behind you, kiss her. However the night goes, don't leave without giving her a real kiss.

The absolute worst thing that can happen is she tells you she wants to be friends. In that case you'll be disappointed but the best thing that could happen is worth the risk of being disappointed. And, either way, you'll be certain where you stand with her.

 

Um......am I in the twilight zone???

What you are describing IS dating. What KIND of dating is getting a bit weird, because if you have been out with her a half dozen or more times (which it sure sounds like), she has probably ALREADY gotten the impression that YOU only want to be friends.

You've got to take a chance, and as a previous poster has already said, you've got to at least ASK to kiss her.

By this time, she may think its weird because you've already given HER the wrong impression.

Don't just blame it on the girls.

YOU are given her the wrong signals and you've got to change FAST!

Good luck

 

Stop playing it safe...your her boyfriend already, A woman does not approach,give you her number, go out to places with you and give you cute nicknames if she's not into you...take control, don't ask anything, just do it. grab her kiss her and show her that you are a man. Not some little boy wondering "Does she like me?

 

Girls are? I'm the moron, the stupid fucking girl who believes, who keeps getting her heart broken over and over because she keeps believing the lie. Fuck. :wall:

I want to tell the original poster to take a chance, risk it, go for the girl. But there's a large part of me that believes he right to guard his heart.

Fuck.