Fear is the great motivator. It also has a lot to do with morality. Fear of"God" has been the justification for a lot of misery, hate, and morality in the world.

Remove the fear and confidence in a superior being and morality becomes a complete variable.

I for one am glad I won't be around to see were that finally leads us.

 

Are you saying that Darwin devised a theory of evolution primarily to allow/condone/promote atheism? Well, I'll be a monkey's uncle! ... or great-great-great-great-great-great-granddaughter.

You may indeed be evangelical or judgemental, but (unless you have a rather unfortunate case of man-boobage) I sincerely doubt that you are "hillier" than me!

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Did you mean "sillier"? Sorry, but that's pretty unlikely too!

 

You're absolutely right... it IS rather warm in here. Here you go!

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Fan-tastic

 

%-)
It's still early

 

Its half past three!

 

If we're gaging BOOBs, I concede I've got them but their not near as big and beautiful as yours

BTW love the red hair

 

They are not my" Christian" prayers. I don't pray in public. My beliefs don't support it.

Majority rule, the law of the land. Live with it . . .I do.
Prayer in school?
Been gone since the late sixties unless your in a Christian school. If you don't want your kids hearing prayer, then put them in public schools.
Surely you aren't suggesting that religious schools be be banned from practicing their religious beliefs

Like abortion the minority did an end run around the legislative branch to get their way.
I'm not complaining ,I applaud the craftiness that shows the flaws in our governing system.

Shows what I've been saying for years. Voting don't mean shit.
The judicial system decides what flies and doesn't fly in this country

 

Considering your liberal use of exclamation points, I would say you have an axe to grind on this topic.

Have you ever talked to your father about why he left? If your mother never dated and never remarried after the divorce, as you stated, she may have been completely uninterested in sex. I can certainly understand sexual incompatibility leading to divorce. Perhaps she went out of her way to humiliate him for wanting more sex. Maybe he tried everything he could think of and divorce was his last resort. Maybe she threatened to tell the children all of the "nasty" things he wanted her to do in bed if he ever tried to visit.

There are 2 sides to every story, did you ever ask his?

 

Sex was an issue. He "fell in love" with a coworker. My mother never trusted any man after what he put her through.
He abandoned his wife of 22 years and family for something better.
Run out on his responsibility to my younger siblings and his devoted wife of 22 years. I've seen the damage he did to my sisters, and mother.
The financial burden on the ones he supposedly loved and cared for.

I've seen this legacy pass to the future generations. This country is going on it's 4rth generation of welfare families, Children repeating the only life they know.
and the numbers continue rise and the court system makes divorce easier every day if they even bother today to get married.

 

Please do not take this as an attack as I can tell you are very sensitive on this issue with good reason it seems.

When I read about this situation, though, you seem to focus on the break and the time period after completely, perhaps as it is all you know of it? I know that for me my father left as I was being born so all I know of him is second hand information from a bitter ex-wife. Anyone with an ex after a bad split will tell you that is not the best character reference.

You say they were together for 22 years, were children a late thing for them perhaps? I know my first marriage blew up after four years due to my resentment at having children. It took me a year apart to realize that I was not unhappy with my life just frustrated that it had been 'forced' on me. (At 18-22 you often think that way, ignoring the realities of your part in things.)

I suspect there is a whole different side to this issue that will not jibe with what you know, that only your father can relay to you. I know that in my case, at least, my father felt that leaving was better than staying and being the horrible dad he thought he would be. I don't fully believe him, but at least I took the time to hear his side of it rather than base my judgement on half the story.

If it helps, I have offered to let my father come visit, see his grandchildren, and stay with us and he always said no. After my mother passed I got one last call from him and have not heard boo since, so if you ever do contact him it is possible you can get answers and still not have to see/deal with him.

 

I hope your father got socked with alimony payments. I am afraid he did not. I will probably get flamed for being a sexist and a misogynist for saying this. Well, watch me not care.

Men prefer young women. Women prefer successful men. A man who rises significantly in a career will be more desirable at the age of 45 to women of 20 than when he was 20. Men who do rise are often tempted to leave their wives for someone younger and prettier.

Before the women's lib movement men who did this were recognized to be cads, and the divorce court took them to the cleaners. Thanks to women's lib, this happens much less frequently.

 

You REALLY need to talk to your father and get his side of the story. As a man who's ex-wife has spent the last ten years filling his child's head with negative comments and false stories, I can tell you that you can't always trust your momma.

 

Seeing, now what the topic boils down to, all I'm going to add is the recommendation of a book.
Read it, without prejudice or forethought. You may find answers you weren't aware you were seeking:

Charles L. Whitfield M.D. : Healing The Child Within

available on Amazon and for Kindle....

 

This all happened 40 years ago. So he beat the whole alimony/child support responsibility issue.

I saw my father quite often until his death. He refused to talk about it and he never offered an explanation,

My mother was a saint, She never spoke bad of anyone and refused to let us speak against him in her presence.

I was out on my own and married at the time of the divorce. It's my two sisters that suffered the most from it.

It is seeing what this has done to my sisters that brings out my anger.

Being a single parent as the result of divorce(usually the mother) is a hard life.

I understand that sometimes it is unavoidable. Sometimes staying together is worse than a single parent home, for everyone.

Divorce nation wide is 2 1/2 times what it was 20 years ago. Single parent households are double that of 20 years ago.
Welfare is the primary support for single parent households and that is on the rise.

This country is working on it's 4th generation of welfare.

What does that say to our children about their import ace in the world???

How do you think they will handle responsibility when they are fathers or mothers??/

 

Religion is almost universally regarded as crucial to achieving happiness. Even critics of religion often concede that it helps people live more fulfilling lives. In this talk, Locke argues that, far from being a means to a successful life, religion is incompatible with a basic need of human life: self-esteem.

 

Dr. Locke shows that religion undermines every essential precondition of self-esteem: metaphysically, it declares that man is evil by nature; epistemologically, it regards faith as superior to reason; ethically, it advocates the “virtues” of obedience, altruistic duty and humility; and politically and economically, it declares money-making to be sinful and demands some form of statism.

Indeed, religion attacks the quest for self-esteem by denouncing its primary cause: pride. This talk argues that pride is not a sin but a virtue, the virtue of moral ambitiousness, and it is attained by constant adherence to reason in the pursuit of moral perfection—a state which religion makes impossible.