Married guy not satisfied

In my case, no I'm not satisfied. It's just a fundamental difference in our sexualities. It's not a "numbers" game, though 1 - 3 times / week doesn't really do it for me. It's more of a lack of passion and eroticism on her part. She's a bit conservative on this topic, and has stated several times she has absolutely no interest in swinging. We have pretty good sex when we have it, but generally she tires out after ~ 15 min, so we don't spend that long on it. I had an idea this would be the situation when we were dating and then got married. I took the risk of a mismatch, and here I am. I love her, and we have a great interpersonal relationship outside of sex. What to do now? Not sure. Looking for some options to spice things up.

 

if he tells her out of the blues then yes, she doesn't have to ask.
if he acts like a kid who just left a candy store after a shopping spree
too, then she knows for sure.
maybe, just maybe that's how it is for you, but i don't think it's
that way for most married couples.
i think most wives kid themselves though, to avoid stepping up
to the plate. i don't think most wives are attracted to their husbands
that much.
then again if men stopped hating on each other for concerning
themselves on their looks that would help out a lot.

 

i don't think swinger couples are not in love and maybe never were,
even if they are married. they may enjoy each others company, but
that's it. kind of like fuck friends who are committed.

 

to me swinging is a recipe for disaster if the couple loves each other
on a romantic level, no matter how much they convince themselves
it's a good idea and ignore the bad thoughts.

if you and your wife are both clean, would you be okay with her
fucking a guy with aids with a condom that appears to be very
healthy?
even if that dude is tested clean then, doesn't mean he won't get
infected later by someone else later while still fucking your wife.
next thing you know you got a rare case of eyeball cancer and it
falls out a month later caused by aids.
people seem to have a false sense of confidence that they know
what they're doing because it's what they really want.

 

Who's that? Ejls as she is trying to get your head out of your arse.

Thinskin

 

huh?

 

Amas, you seem to understand the very nature of man. I fit in this category of not being satisfied sexually. I've been married for 26yrs and love my wife. But, only having sex 5 times a year is not satisfying. I feel the closest to my wife, the days after we've had sex. I wish I was one of those guys who never wonders if he's going to get laid.

Well put. I do like the "long battery life" analogy. I spent many years learning to be in control so that my spouse could enjoy multiple orgasms. I don't think I've gone 3+hrs, but definitely can go over an hour while she has 4 or 5 orgasms. However, because she doesn't have sex often, she has lubrication issues. (She won't listen to Dr. Oz.) She will not use lubricant and thus she wants to stop. More often, it's very late (because we can only have sex at night) and she's too tired to help me finish. I never realized that I'm not the only one this happens too. I too try make myself cum, usually cum on her after she's sleeping...LOL. I wake up horny and take care of myself, on her again, sometimes. I too can do this a few times during the night. But, if we do have sex and I get to finish with her, I feel so close to her, it's hard to explain.

I am not looking for sex every day, I know my drive is not that high. But, it would be nice to know that Friday or Sat night we are going to have sex and I would have something to look forward too.

 

more political ass kissing from some bitch off the boards.
maybe she'll have sex with you, loser!!!
what a chump...someone's parents fucked up...yours. 8)

 

for some people it doesn't matter what the down fall is, they do
what they want no matter what. that's what immaturity does
to emotionally cripple idiots.
most swingers are outcasts who live like this because they are the
type of outcasts who have no honor to anyone of themselves.

 

Well that is a difficult question to ask. I think it is much easier for the woman to be sexually unsatisfied in a marriage because most men only need a few minutes to orgasm while women take up to half an hour.

 

most men i think would last longer if the sex was better. if she just lays
there like a dead fuck then he will just get his release and move on after
they been together a while.

 

Yes.

We are just talking about the first six weeks of the relationship, right? :excited:

 

they are until their next hard on...........

 

i think it depends on the way of life they are living. some are haapy with partner while some join adult dating sites for new relationship.

 

i wonder why they won't do it. some wives don't suck dick. seems odd.