Everytime me and my gf are doin it i can never cum... i dont know why ill put her through 6 or 7 orgasms and i still wont cum..... if im wankin off ill cum in no time flat but even if she is givin me head i still dont cum....... i wanna know why she thinks that there is something wrong with her and i keep assuring her there isnt but seriously why cant i cum

 

Most girls would love to have a man like you. Are you using condoms, maybe a thinner one if you are.. Let her jack you off and then when you are about to cum she can go down on it quickly.

You must tell her in no uncertain terms that it is not her fault. Because she will subconsciously think you dont care for her and that is why you cant cum.

 

How long you been having sex for? Sometimes it takes a while for your brain to rewire itself to new sensations. When I first started having sex, it took me about 40 mins to cum, while my girlfriend almost got into double figures a couple or times! As the sex life goes on, you learn how to 'appreciate' the pleasure, and you'll find yourself able to cum.

Unless of course you've been having sex for years, in which case everything I've said is totally irrelevant.

Yet again.

 

Try some different positions. You may not be getting enough friction the way you are doing it.
If you have your GF on her back and you kneel putting her legs over your shoulders you can squeeze her legs together while pumping.

 

I think you need to be talked dirty to.

 

do you know how to talk dirty Kimiko lol

 

Does she ever!!! Read her stories, Tarzan!!!

 

My bf was the same the first few times we had sex, I guess you just have to give it a while to get used to new sensations and such. He has no problem now, infact i wish he had a little more of problem lol

 

Actually, she talks very eloquently most of the time..
its the filthy moffer fockin' shit I tell MYSELF in MY head about what she says when she describes stuff which makes me want to blow a load in her presences when I think on it.

 

Boy, I'd like to have that problem....

But seriously.
If you can quickly come through wanking, but can't manage it during sex, it's possible that you're subconciously not allowing that to happen for some reason.
It may be that you have an unrecognized fear of giving yourself, of pregnancy, commitment or some religious or moral indoctrination.

As an example, I had a friend once who had this problem, and in counseling he discovered that his highly religious mother had unconsciously filled him with the notion that 'All women were dirty whores who would suck the life out of him'

Good old Mum.....:neutral:

 

Relax

 

Hey thanx for all the advice u guys cuz i really need it..... im sick of bangin her and then goin home to "rub one out" well i will keep yall posted on if anything works or not

 

Nope no condoms... at first we thought that was the problem so we decided to go without them, but it still aint workin

 

I have this problem too, except I feel i'm going to blow and just can't for about 40 min or so. I've learn to live with it. I've not had a g/f yet that said, "You mean I have to cum 8 or 9 times before you do, sorry I'm going to have to pass on this relationship." I've learned though I can go quicker if its a surprise quickie in public, than at night in bed.

 

how small your world must be.. kimiko is one of the best dirty talkers on this site.. you obviously have never read any of her stories..

in fact.. i wouldnt even be posting on this forum if it wasnt for her..

 

ive noticed this also with some of the guys ive slept with..

im a bit of exhibitionist and haveing sexx in public sends my brain and my vagina off to bliss-dom very easily.. same for my guy.. but at home.. in bed.. it can take upwards of 1 to 2 hours for my guy to finish..

 

Are you on any kind of medication that might affect your ability to orgasm? Could be something you never thought of.

 

Finally!!!

yea i went over to her house and we were fuccin on the couch then we went back to her bed room and i tried out this new position and after about 10 mins in the new postion BOOM!! huge load all over her tummy..... she was happy i finally came and i felt soooo fuckin goood to but with out me doin it 2 myself

 

You flatter me, sweetie...but thank you.

 

I've had guys tell me that they can kind of psych themselves into coming....partly mentally, partly physically. Mentally, they can fantasize, or just imagine themselves coming. Physically, they say they can kind of relax their muscles (I have no idea what muscles they're talking about, but they are somewhere in the vicinity), and it increases the sensation they feel.