think of it as a pendulum and right at the center is where it leads up to her having a fuck buddy relationship. now what happens if you say stick a piece of cardboard in between the pendulum what happens. my point exactly nuff said.

 

I'm not making it seem like anything. I'm telling her to tackle the problem as completely as possible, as anyone should do with any problem.

You're saying that her confidence is a bad thing. A real man wants nothing but a confident woman. If she really is confident then that is a huge advantage for her already.

And honestly, when it comes to being a fuck buddy vs. a girl you date, it usually has nothing to do with sex. Taking your advice would ensure she kept that trend of being the fuck buddy going because you're telling her to do immature things.

 

I agree with you, and this is why I've "reccomended" that she should keep a "sex buddy" with no string attached and also without wasting time with him.

The same goes for men, no problem - you can handle these things much better when your balls have been recently emptied, than when you feel them "heavy"...

Personally, I am a fan of having sex, not masturbating - so I think it's much better for her to have a man, instead of I don't know what dildo / vibrator...

 

ADDENDUM

Haven't we gone "too far" with this?
Maybe the girl doesn't even read this anymore!...

 

well from what i have gathered she isnt interested in just having fuck buddies and one nighters, she is looking for a general down to earth relationship although i could be wrong there.

 

Strictly sexual - I believe the one night stand is the worst way to live your sexual life...

It takes at least three "encounters" to get to really know what pleases your partner.

I know "accidents" happen, but this shouldn't become a habit.

 

Plenty of guys are looking for long term. my last relationship went 7 years but she cheated and left. If i was a LOT closer to where Goldi lived ihde ask her out and get shot down.

 

are you fat? usually guys would fuck fatties but they would not want to be seen with them.

 

@ovid: yes i am still reading!!
i really do like to see guys vs girls takes on this.

@ovid: i have a fb of 7 yrs. i know how they work!
just ended another after 6 yrs.
whose done that?! i've never heard of anyone keeping a fb for that long!
now all the new guys i am going on dates with take me out once and then just text me at 2am asking for favors!

@bacterius: i have some cushioning! i guess it depends on who u ask.

 

lol dude check her pictures the lady is definately not fat .

I dont know goldi at all but for reading some of her posts but she comes over to me as a very confident lady and as some one up thread said that can be part of the problem. Why?

Because nice guys are quite often less confident and more insecure. They will either assume such a an attractive confident woman can not possibly be single or feel she is out of their league.
It may be possible that the only guys arround you with the confidence to apraoch Goldi are the players.

 

But she doesn't want or need a "nice guy". Nice guys are no less bad than douchebags. It all comes from the same place, and neither of them are men.

Confidence is never a bad thing, and most of the people who are labeled players don't follow the code and are not even close to being on that level.

 

I'm not trying to be argumentative, by the way. There's just a lot of bad advice on this thread.

Also, as offensive as bacterius might be, he did have a point.

Goldicocks, nothing about you should ever be up for interpretation that way. That's how you attract losers like that or "nice guys" who can't give you what you want and need in the bedroom. I checked out your pics in your album to see what you're working with, and you've got thickness to you and curves, which makes the fact that you could attract a Denver Bronco unsurprising, but without a full body pic it's hard to tell the rest. If you feel like there's room for improvement I suggest you get on that because then your best self will physically show and it will make you a lot more appealing and not seem so easily accessible as a piece of ass guys want to have fun with. It's in how you put yourself out there first and foremost. The higher caliber of woman you are or you come across as, the higher caliber of man you'll draw to you, and not just for sex. It's not just about physical things though, obviously, as there's a lot more to it, but it's the easiest and most noticeable thing you can work on, if you feel a need to.

 

yes i know baller, and actually going to the gym will kill 2 birds w 1 stone... get in shape and meet new guys!

even if i'm skinny tho, i'm still going to have the same prob, maybe even worse!

 

Yeah judging by your photos you can lose some weight.

 

True, and actually it's a good place to be able to tell the difference between different guys. The type of guy you want to avoid tends to make it obvious what he is when he's at the gym just by how he works out, what he does when he works out, etc.

Like I said, it's about tackling the problem as completely as possible, from all angles. Your physical self is just one part of that.

Take it from me though.. a curvy girl who is as fit as she can be is like the ultimate, and is the type most of the guys you want to be attracting go for. It takes a real man to be able to handle a girl like that and to keep her.

 

You know goldi i think you are very hot and sexy. even if you think you have a little more then some. I personally love when a woman has something to hold onto. You would be a great catch. And if a man is only into the sex then let him go and not have any of your goodness. Shit to many dumb insecure guys out there that don't know to really treat a woman. Your fish will come and you'll know it.

 

Please, remember that you are already good looking, and men that look at a woman and figure she's not good enough as is, and needs to improve before I'll touch her...aren't the kind of man you want to spend your life with. If your gonna exercise, do it for you, not some asshole that'll wig out the first time you have a bad day and don't look perfect. It's just another form of control of a woman that they can't relate too or see as a status symbol, not yourself.

 

I'm sorry knovxillian's wife but that's bullshit. It's about being the best "you" you can be. Just because certain guys who have great bodies and make the effort to be the best they can be don't look at people who don't, doesn't mean they're shallow or assholes who expect women to be perfect.

This backlash to the bullshit that already exists is just as bad as the bullshit itself.

 

That may be, but we don't have a description of the men she's going after. I'm not speaking of just Handsome men, I've been treated that way by men that wieghed 400 pounds.

You were actually fairly decent about it. I may not agree with you, but you have a point. It was Bacterius that pissed me off. His way of thinking and treating women is abusive and controlling, and yes, he does expect a woman to be perfect.

 

Well that's a bit different, the thing with bacterius. Point is, higher caliber men want women who are the best they can be, who make the effort to be that.

This response of yours to it, is a response to something that is bullshit and untrue in the first place. It's unhealthy. It's like rebelling against your parents even if your parents want what's best for you, except you're rebelling against it based on rebelling against a bullshit message that's out there.

Women need to understand what they are.. from the time they're coming into their own physically and otherwise.. what body type they are.. what type of person, etc, and be the best of what they are that they can be.