Since this kind of "came" up in Random Thoughts....
I prefer my partner to have at LEAST one orgasm prior to my own. I cum very easily and very quickly and women have a faster recovery rate than most guys. I've heard the counter argument that men get turned on by making her cum first and/or multiple times....
So what do YOU think?

 

Disagree. I am exact opposite of you. I want my partner to have at LEAST once before my own. I like to finish last.

 

I am personally from the 'ladies first' school of thought.

I love it when I lick my girl to multiple orgasm then, as she is laying breathless from her heights of scstacy, I push my throbbing self into her.

She really enjoys this and it really fuels me in my love-making.

 

The woman should DEFINITELY cum first AND second AND third.
This is particularly true in 99% of relationships that have had sex numerous times. First of all, most (and by this I mean more than 50%---NOT 'all men') men can only cum ONCE without a "recovery period" that could last from 10 minutes to an hour; second, most men who have had sex with a woman on 10, 15, 20 occasions will lose the 'edge'. Meaning that the excitement of a new sexual relationship is wearing off and with it the likelihood of a fast recovery. Without that, most men (and by this I mean more than 50%, but not ALL men) become 'one-and-doners' and will a) go to sleep, b) leave, c) have another beer and watch the game.

That is why they call it 'FOREPLAY', not 'MID-PLAY' or 'POST-PLAY'.

Guys should make sure their lady cums at LEAST once before they do, and as many times as she can before the guy is 'done', whether he can only cum once, twice or three times.

 

if she sucks it well, then its me

 

Im also one of the "ladies first" club. I make sure she gets off at least once, preferably more, before i cum. Ill make sure to make her cum again after i do if i didnt think she came enough.

 

Hmmmm...."one and done" made me think of a couple relationships....is that what it is, then Ump? The "edge" wears off? Are you saying it becomes boring after that first, 10, 15 or 20 times?

 

I prefer getting my partner off first as things are much more fun that way, largely it's because I prefer longer sessions around an hour or so.

Women don't need any recovery time unless their sore, so it only makes sense to get your partner off first, unless you can get it up really quickly after you blow your load.. Or not even go soft if you're on viagra lol

 

I'm never a one and done guy... One and 5-20- minutes later I'm ready for some more unless I'm hungry enough that I need to go eat or something

 

Maybe it's an age related thing then? Granted I enjoy cumming...but I LOVE to watch, feel and/or taste my partner cumming. I find it exhilarating when I'm causing that orgasm and it gives me almost as much pleasure and sometimes more satisfaction than my own....

 

being a woman who's never had an orgasm during intercourse (oral, vaginal, or anal) I have to say I wish to god I had a "ladies first" kind of guy. Not to say he doesn't TRY. But even getting myself off takes me a MINIMUM of 30 minutes and usually closer to an hour. So for him to do some heavy petting for five minutes then plunge in and cum after five is nowhere close to getting me off. And then he's down for at least an hour, usually.

I love my husband. But I'd really love to orgasm from his cock. Part of me just doesn't understand how he thinks 2-15 minutes of fucking should get me off when 30 minutes of some turbo powered 2000rpm motor in my vibe doesn't do the trick. lol

I wouldn't care who came first if it were an even split. But when one ALWAYS cums first and then it's just "over" for a while, trust me, it SUCKS!

 

I tend to enjoy making her cum first,,with my tongue.

 

Ah Snoochies that DOES suck. I'm so sorry. I've had a couple of lovers who were selfish on occasion but never to the point where it was a constant...
Just wondering...do you use toys for forplay to get you close to the edge? Sounds like hubby needs to extend his time and attention span for you....

 

it's not just him. Till he left for BCT, I'd never had an orgasm in my life. Now I can have them but just with my toys. And I don't have an issue with him not being able to make me cum. My issue is that I don't always feel like he's putting in the TIME and EFFORT to make it happen. After six years of it just not mattering cause I COULDN'T he's kinda gotten used to it being OK that he cums whenever the feeling strikes. I never cared before cause I just didn't think it was possible to have one.

And I don't blame him for that. It just feels like he hasn't really tried to change his mentality now that I CAN have them. And it's still just fuck her till I cum for him.

 

and yes, I've tried masturbating till I felt like I was ready to cum then letting him have at it. What happened, you ask?

Well, seeing me masturbate for like 45 minutes straight had him so damn horny and ready to go that he came in about 2 minutes.

Even once I get myself to the edge, if I back off, it's another 5-15 minutes to get there again.

 

Sometimes a quickie is just about making my dick cum and that's ok. But when it is full on sex, i prefer to make her cum with my mouth, then fuck and cum.

 

That's got to be incredibly frustrating...and I feel so guilty for being able to come at almost the drop of a hat....
I assume you've talked to him about it, haven't you?

 

It really depends on the guy. A lot of guys I've been with were capable of recovering quickly and moving on to Round 2 (and Round 3, etc.). If that's the case, I kind of like them to cum first...kind of, you know, take the edge off...

But if it's a guy who is going to roll over and go to sleep after he cums once....or grab up his clothes and bolt out the door...well, obviously, that is a horse of another color.

 

Regarding the one and done/falling asleep.

Sometimes we're just really tired ladies. Gettin' up early to make you and the kids breakfast, workin' all day, getting the kids in the bath and taking them to bed, working on house chores till late in the evening. It wears a guy out sometimes. Just sayin'

P.S. Ladies cum first in my book.

 

I understand, and if a man says that to me, I'll be happy to have him lie back, close his eyes and relax while I suck every last drop of cum from his weary balls.