missing

lot at first but in our 50's it has diminshed

 

fuck my life... reading these just seemed to kill the glories of marrige.. and i am only 22

 

Im not exactly proud about it, but yes i have resorted to a gf on the side. There is simply WAY to much pussy out there to ever go without it.

 

Its ok buddy,..you're not alone.
Was she married too?

 

There is such a thing as good luck.

God do I feel lucky. Reading all of these sad, sad stories. We have a 40th coming up and still have sex 5,6 times a week.

At one point in our marriage it seemed as if she had little desire for me. Sex was 100% at my initiative. While always ... compliant ... there was little satisfaction on my part. I just told her that I was not going to beg for sex or even ask for sex any longer.

That conversation brought about a sea change in her attitude. I think she knew that sex was important enough to me to determine if we stayed married or not. I was not going to live in a relationship where I was not wanted. Period.

Not judging anyone here. Just sharing my experience. God do I feel lucky.

 

i get it , all the time , only one year married

 

Enough sex

I thought I was being ripped off only getting sex twice a week, but after reading some of the posts on here, I'm getting it a lot more than a lot of you, even though I wish it were more often, like it was up until my wife went through the change, back then it was four to five times a week

 

I just had that conversation with mine today. We will see if any change happens. I'm not holding my breath...

 

I've had that conversation many times with my wife and it has had no effect. Sheaves not mean or nasty about not having sex, she just has no desire what so ever. And for all of the doubters out there that think it has to me, I have pondered my role numerous times looking for blame that I can put on myself. As an example....we just returned home from dinner at a nice restaurant, at my suggestion. Before we left I took clothes from the washer and hung them on the line to dry. When we returned home I gathered the dry clothes off the line, folded and put them away. Even helped her put the freshly washed sheets back on the bed! My reward? She's in bed within 30 minutes of getting home. I love my wife very much but we are not compatible when it comes to sex.

 

I wish you the best of luck.

 

I've never had the guts to do this, but wouldn't it be justified to just start pleasuring yourself while standing or laying next to an unresponsive mate?
Hope things get better for you.

 

Question for the wife:

"Are you my lover, or just a wife? I have a need for both."

 

As long as I'm here:
I wonder if lack of sex in a marriage is a cause of what seems to be a large quantity of mature men offering to exchange blowjobs?

 

At this point I have just learned how to ignore my sexual urges. As sad as it sounds, I rarely get turned on by my wife any longer.

 

I want my wife to be my lover. If not, she's just another mother! Don't need two of those!

 

your story makes me sad. You seem like a very great husband.

 

Comparing to many on here, I guess i get it alot. I get hand jobs or blow jobs almost everyday and sex quite a bit during the wk.

Only time i dont is when Im outta town for work a wk or two sometimes longer. She still sends me pics of her playing pretty much everyday tho.

We do have slow times(to me) but to many here they would def take my slow times bc it would seem like alot.

I cant complain i guess

 

Thanks, but apparantly not great enough. I grew up in a very conservative family when it came to sex but I still came out of there with the idea that sex was a wonderful, enjoyable, thrilling, and relaxing shared experience between a man and his wife. My wife can have 3 or 4 orgasms during sex which I assume feel great, but it boggles my mind that this doesn't translate into a desire to do it again in a few days. I see there's a thread about faking orgasms. Maybe I need to go and read that one!

 

In the interest of helping out my fellow floridians, I believe we can help each other out here Cum Luvah! I'm bait older, hope that does kill it for ya!

 

All of you cheaters should be ashamed of yourselves. You have the nerve to come on here and talk about how your wife doesnt give you sex any more like it her fault you cheat. Women can almost always feel it when her man is cheating. So maybe knowing you cant be faithful has something to do with her not giving it up. That beaing said, no woman who is not giving it up should expect her man to want to stay faithful. However wanting something and getting it are 2 totally different ballgames.

If your wife (the person you swore to be faitful to) stops having an interest in sexual matters and sex is a big enough deal for you that you would cheat, then just get a divorce. Or at the very least tell her you plan to go else where to have your needs met. Lying to someone that you claim to love is just pathetic. Either be together or dont, but dont lie, decieve, or cheat on someone who is none the wiser and thinks that all the love and honesty is still present in her marraige.

My husband and I are polyam for a lot of reasons, the strongest being that we both believe its against human nature to be mono. Before you get married ask yourself what would happen if the sex stopped, if the answer is anything close to cheating then dont get married.

By saying the reasons are she doesnt pay attention to you anymore, its better to just lie then leave her, we stay together for the kids, its all sorry ass excuses to make you feel better about it.

Men who cheat, ask yourself this. How would you feel if you had low T or something and didnt want sex, so meanwhile your being completely faithful albeit celibet (sp?), and you think your partner is doing the same only to find out that rather then telling you they couldnt put up with a sexless relationship they just go out and cheat. Exposing not only themselves but you as well to all sorts of undesirable STD's, STI's, etc.

Que the men who will say they dont care if she cheats and that when they cheat they always use a condom. Blah blah blah. Condoms dont protect you from much these days, except pregnancy and HIV. Think about what it would be like to give your wife, the mother of your kids, genital herpes/warts simply because you needed to get your rocks off next time your balls deep in some hooker.