Finding someone is sooooo hard. You want someone to go out with but of course you want someone who is great in bed. I can never find to right person who can be good for both.

I want someone about my age because I can talk at my level and so we can find common interests but most guys under 25 are hopeless in bed. As soon as we have sex, that’s all they then want to do, which would be fine if they were any good. To start with they are crap at oral, they don’t know what to lick and how to lick it properly, everything is going 100 miles an hour and in all the wrong places. Then they shove their cock in me and start grabbing and slapping me, and just when I get into a position I like and it’s feeling good they flip me around like I’m in a circus. I really like anal, but am careful who I tell because it seems as soon as I say it, they flip me over and shove their cock in my ass and pound me like they’re some sort of jack hammer. I just don’t get why everything has to be so fast and aggressive with the younger guys.

Older guys are usually very good in bed but then they never want to go out or do anything I want to do, and they think that one night in bed means we are instantly in love and probably going to get married soon. These guys are better at oral and take things slower but as soon as I tell them I want them in my ass a bell goes off and they go crazy. What is it with guys and anal, why do they think I would like an ass beating and what’s with the spanking ?

I have tried hooking up with some girls which is fun but not where I really want to go. Girls are great at giving head, they know where to lick and that licking and sucking softly feels so much better. But I find the girls then always want a relationship, and let’s face it, I still need a cock.

The best sex I ever had was with an older married guy. The sex was amazing, but then that was all, no going out, no relationship, no spontaneity, and no future. He fucked me 5 times, each time for a whole afternoon and he did everything to me and it all felt fantastic. It’s hard to forget and I know it probably won’t happen again until I’m older. This guy knew how to lick me out till I blew my stack. I was worried about telling him I liked anal because I didn’t want to ruin things but on the 3rd time I told him, and he spent the next hour licking and fucking my ass so damn good I nearly cum just thinking about it. He was the first and last guy to cum in my mouth because he didn’t grab the back of head and pull my hair and try shove it halfway down my throat like all the younger guys.

Don’t get me wrong , I really love sex but I guess I just have to live with crappy sex for now and wait till I’m older and married before I get to enjoy the good stuff.

 

Dammit, you finally find the man of your dreams, and I'm on the other side of the world........oh well!!

 

And a Tiger too Chunky, I am missing out

 

Well I hate to be so deep, but shouldn't sex really be secondary to everything else about the guy. I mean if you find someone you really like being with, you can always teach them what you like and how you like it and whatever.

My guy had never been with a girl before me, and I kinda coached him through the oral sex thing. Not like agressively giving orders, just whispered slower when he was going to fast, followed by a deep moan to let him know he was doing good Nothing you couldn't do with somebody you really liked being with.

 

not all young guys completely suck at sex

but cowwy's right, you can teach people to be better at it, so if you really want a young guy around your age, just show him what you like

 

Yes you're right cowwy, but I was really discussing that it's hard to find the right guy with the right balance of 'someone to be with' and 'someone to sleep with', but I did have an emphasis on the sex.
The problem is that I'm finding that most of the young guy's are only thinking about getting sex and the future relationship doesn't seem to cross their mind unless I say something about getting together again. It takes time to coach someone to do things the way you like it, and it's hard to find someone who'll hang around long enough...

 

you do make a good point

for the most part, most young guys are just looking to have fun while they still can, granted, there's still exceptions to that rule, but a lot of young guys, myself included, do view going out with someone as not that serious and just a way to have fun and get sex

so jaide, I'm guessing you're looking to get into a serious relationship then?

 

jaide, it sounds like the guys you know are shmucks. im young and i really dont have sex that often but when i do its mindblowing and multi-orgasmic. it also sounds like you need someone who takes their time and really pays attention to your pleasure. i can really sympathize with your stance as i have problems actually having fun and hanging out with the girls that are really good in bed.

 

Maybe it's just me, but it seems to me you have very lofty, and maybe unnattainable, standards. Keep looking, go with the flow, and eventually you'll find someone who both makes you happy and gets you off. Perhaps some of these guys are a bit intimidated by how demanding you are.

 

Hey there, sorry to hear about your problem. Such a shame you live clear across the other side.

 

Find a guy you want, without sex being a factor, then when sex is a factor and he's not soo good, teach him how to please you.

A lot of guys have the wrong impression on how to please women, cause their women don't say how to please them. Then again, there are a lotta guy that just wanna get theirs and don't give a damn about her.

 

It is difficult to find the right someone who's both fun to be with and good in bed and i see the angle your coming from, in a sense that young guys have a tendency of wanting short relationships and can get bored easily (short attention spans) and also don't plan for the future, some of my friends have been like that, however my relationships have failed simply because i wanted to make it a serious relationship and was planning for the future between us rather than just doing what i wanted to do.

for you it's a case of waiting to see what happens the right person will come along if you know what your looking for someone will come along and be prefect for you, this is my thoughts on the situation and because I'm an optimist. everyone can find their perfect partner if they just look that little bit harder and little bit deeper into someone.

 

Hey, I'm from Sydney...

 

Maybe you should stop looking so hard.
Make the most of what you have and keep your eyes open.

 

Listen if you ever want great sex.

You'll have to give the correct dose of sex if you want a guy to still hang around. If you give him too little sex he'll begin to look elsewhere. If you give him too much, you'll be like an unofficial wife and he'll get tired and sick of having sex with you regardless of how good you can ever be on bed and he'll start looking elsewhere.

Teasing is an important factor and not just kiss and get down to sex. Especially the new ones they think that they are ready but when the time comes they got too nerveous and their piece of cock refuses to grow and harder than a piece of limp sausage.

Guys do need to get arouse too to give a better sexual performance and it works mostly with teasing.

Example of teasing, After your long passionate kissed and he get the idea that sex is gonna happen, Push him down gently or roughly depending on your guy. Put your finger on lis lips giving him a sign that he should just relax and enjoy this moment. Music and sexy dance as you takes off pieces of but never down to the last piece. Guys always enjoy taking off the last piece off the gal before sex.

After you are down to the last piece, blindfold your guy and let him touches you for a moment and if he is too rough or his hands moves too fast whisper your preference of guide his hand. And than you uses a hankie or your bra to tie his hand gently and tell him too just be relax as you're gonna give him a sucking that will suck his life out of him. Now you guy is blind folded and his hands tied together (losely so that he can takes it off, no notes required just round and round his hands will do)

The rest is up to your imagination. But the think is if you want a guy to really get the idea that you want great sex and not just him using your pussy to make his cock cum. You'll have to arouse him and guys have the natural needs to match the performance of the ladies and is by nature a lady sex pleasure pleaser. If you are great at start, he will try match that.

If your guy is a newbies at sex, you'll have to take control from the begining of sex using the methods above and if he refuses to follow that tell him that sex is off and he'll listen the next time. Guys will do whatever just for the though that of great sex.

If you control the amount of sex you'r giving him, the quality of sex that you'll both be getting, you'll in for a really great sex life ahead of you and don't worry he'll not leave but he'll be addicted to you. Just as long as you have this correct balance everything.

One good tip is some guys though that gals like it rough and some are gentle by nature. Before you ever get into sex with a guy do share you fantasy if you like is rough, gentle or romantic. He'll listen because thats just nature of guys.

You'll also realise when you moan louder guys will act faster and rougher and when you moan gently and passionately guys will be relax in a pleasing manner. So how you moan will also play an important role in sex.

Good luck in finding your guy.

EGDream

 

EGD........ you really are a dreamer,,,,,,, wake up u fkn idiot....

 

Tweedgirl Thanks,
You have a nice day girl.

:rose: is for you.

EGDream

 

to be honest, I didn't read all the posts on this page.
Just wanted to say that you don't find the right person, they find you. Go with your gut instinct and you may be surprised what you find.

 

:rose: first you are half way around the world.
:rose: :rose: I love to go out to eat.
:rose: :rose: I do not drink alc. or smoke or chew tabaco.
I see what you want I have don it all.
:rose::rose:and I am a family man.

 

:rose::rose:I kinda like what EGD said.