Hi All,

I had a fwb situation about 6 yrs ago. The girl was hot & I just came out of a 4 &1/2 yr relationship with an obese female. I was 25 & the girl was 20 going on 21. I got serious about her but she'd kind of push me away. She had low self-esteem which she pushed onto me, & killed my self-esteem.

She complained about several things, "you're too nice..." etc. But I'm not circumsized & she didn't like this. I am a bit sensitive due to this. She kept telling me to get an operation, at times would totally give me none, but would go & sleep with other guys then basically tell me about it. I loved this girl so like a good guy I stuck it out with her. She lived with a high school bf but was saving to get her own place & eventually did. By this time I grew tired of the situation & slept w/someone else then told her due to guilt.

She now gets pissed & had warned me never to do that. Yet she had been, we were only together 6 months. She then left me. It took me a long time to sleep with anyone else because of the circumsision issue she had with me. Like a fear of intimacy, which I never had before. No other girl has ever said anything about it.

I've been with other girls now but one went crazy on me, like PSYCHO after we did it which has never happened before. It wasn't that great on either of our parts, only did it 2x. Since these bad experiences it's like my intimacy issues have gotten worse. I'm not a bad looking guy & don't have trouble attracting females, just keep choosing the wrong ones. How can I get past this?

 

You've just gotta get out there and keep doing what you are doing, experiencing different girls to find who makes you happy.

Don't worry about that girl who had a problem because you weren't circumsized, for most girls it's not an issue at all, that's just her problem, not yours.

Just make sure you are always yourself, if you are being told you are too nice, so what, someone out there will love you for exactly who you are, you don't need to change.

 

I would say build a good relationship first! You can have lustful random encounters but if you want something to last you need to have trust and opening feeling of your emotions and hers too. Try befriending and then take it to couple of dates and see where leads to. Takes time and maybe you need to relax with some crazy ladies for a little bit? Is it the type of ladies your attracted to?

 

I like & get some highly attractive females. Yet they IMHO or experience tend to be the biggest trouble out there. Attitudes are very different from those with average looks.

I still am attracted to them but if one approaches me, except if in a strip club, I actually now stay away from them because of my experiences.

 

Sounds to my like your first woman was a bitch, and tried to change you. Not even gonna talk about the crazy one, that's just bad luck.

Young women seem to think they can find a man and then change him into thier perfect BF. It doesn't help that you see magazine articles and TV shows, romance novels, about doing exactly that. Women that are secure in thier own selves generally don't have this issue, we can appreciate men for being who they really are instead of trying to hide it. Don't worry about not being circumsized, or about being too nice. The girl that is right for you, won't care or will even love those parts of you.
Try women a little bit older, 25-30, most of them are over the body issues that plague young women.

 

The age part, I have already figured out. I'm 32 myself. She wasn't my first female, just these were my first experiences like this. Thanks for the advice though.

 

I AGREE

@ raider1270

everyone here, i have to agree with. your not alone. i been through my
share of PSYCHOTIC women too. plus, ( UNFORTUNATELY ) share of
GOLD DIGGERS.

as KNOXVILLE said, women will love you for who you are. that's what hurts
us guys. the whole media and fashion industry. you have to look, dress,
walk and etc. a certain way.

all the movies, mags, movies as well, portrays the ( FANTASY LAND )
modern day ROMEO & JULIET life. some women, fail to realize these are
all made up to appeal to the consumer and public.

a lot of women are blinded of the true facts. it's all done with make up,
lighting, camera lenses, trick photography too. still, women are in their
own mind set world, thinking this is how people really are in life, and
how they live.

you can go on GOOGLE, and look at celebrity photos. of " before/after
shots when they have/had " PLASTIC SURGERIES ". the same goes of
what they look like " with/without " make up too.

now, when it comes to the whole circumcision thing, your not alone.

i am in that same boat. but, i do it clean as much as possible.
i thought about surgery. from what i read, you can LOOSE SENSATION
down there. DON'T WANT THAT.

just yesterday, i read online that, babies now, tend to loose the tips
of their PENISES when their CIRCUMCISE. it's due to the doctors of
not paying attention to where they are cutting. the device was

invented by a doctor. ( go figure huh ). it's called MEGON DEVICE.
i think it was invented in the 1940's. it's still in use to this very day.
there trying to have it banned. there is another and more safer device
being used. not sure of the name of it.

also, they said men up in ages, shouldn't even consider it, if they lived
with it all this time. unless, it was a health issue or it really made them
uncomfortable. i had an uncle, who was not circumcise from what one
of my cousins told me when we were a lot younger.

if my aunt could put up with a uncircumcise dick more many years, why
can't another woman do the same.

 

I really don't know how to put it!...

Having a woman as a sex partner, involves the whole woman - material and spiritual!

So, if the woman isn't satisfied since you aren't circumcised, what could you do?!?

The ANSWER is only one: Say goodbye and walk away!

Now, also, if she was sleepimg with others, when you also did it, what made you feel any guilt?!?

Anyway, she wasn't and isn't comitted to you!

When / if you feel that there is an important incompatibility between you and a woman, really, you don't have to wait months before ending that relation! (And this is, also, valid for the women!!!).

Especially if you sense, as you say, that she's a psycho!!!

No, man, just let her take the plane heading North, and you just take the one that's heading South!

 

I'm not entirely sure how you go about it but maybe you need to get to know the person a little more and suss out if they're a psycho or not before sleeping with them. I think it's probably just bad luck that you've had "bad" partners, you'll only get over it if you keep on trying.

I used to have some intimacy issues due to an ex boyfriend (never abused me or anything, just pointed out my flaws inappropriately), it got to me after we'd broken up because I refused to be with other people due to my self esteem. I eventually met someone nice and after getting in the saddle again I overcame it.

Also (and this is sort of irrelevant) I'd say that you weren't being good by staying with someone who was mucking you about, even if you love them. It's very foolish to commit yourself to someone who doesn't commit themselves to you - don't make someone a priority when you're only an option. It's not easy, I know, but in the long run it's much better to tell them where to go.

 

Not all girls like cirumsition or hate it blah blah blah just look on this forum you will see some women say i love foreskin then others saying they love cut cocks. Just like size everyones different dont let one bad experience get you down bro.

 

If any woman tells you that she doesnt like the fact that you are uncircumsised it is time to say good bye. Like immediately, if she tells you to go an have an op then it is definitely time to kick her sorry ass out on to street followed by all her belongings. Just keep searching and Im sure the right one will come along