I'm 22 years old, I've been having sex since I was sixteen but I've never had an orgasm. I was in a committed relationship for three years and we had amazing regular sex without condoms but for some reason I have never climaxed. Will I never have an orgasm? Is there something wrong with me? Am I doing something wrong? Plz only respond with tasteful answers, this is serious.

 

I shall try to be as "tasteful" as I can - anyway, I shall really be serious!

Now, let's see - you are now 22 and you've had sex since 16.
You have also mentioned that you have had a steady relationship that has lasted for 3 years...

This involves the fact that you have have had sex with several partners...

So, if none of them have managed to get you to the orgasm point, than, probably, there might be something with you...

Now, what you haven't mentioned - do you reach orgasm if you masturbate?

If you do, than the male partners that you've had are just unexperienced or not really fit for you - just try someone else!

If you don't, than you should go and have a "chat" with a doctor...

Good luck! :rose:

 

You Said Had Amazing Sex!

I'm not sure but, it is possible that your orgasms may not be particularly strong from a lack of foreplay then jumping right in to intercourse. Orgasm is based on letting go and losing yourself in the moment instead you may have found yourself pleasuring him and not feeling your own desires intensely. So I ask what was it physically that made sex amazing for you?

 

I don't masturbate I have never had an orgasm period. Ever!!! It's driving me crazy because I really want to know what it feels like.

 

The sex feels good, the thrusting I love it. Maybe I don't have enough foreplay and I find myself thinking alot during sex, maybe that's the problem. Despite my enjoyment I can't bring myself to focus. Please give some advice.

 

I suggest you try masturbation and find out whether you can orgasm that way. At least it will confirm whether you can or not.

If you can then perhaps it is the partners or the way it is performed. If you can't then a trip to the doctors will help.

You certainly need to find out as you are missing out on something wonderful

 

Try not thinking during sex and foreplay - let you body take you to where you want to go and not your mind. Or does your mind take you places where your partners don't?

 

First off, you really need to masturbate ! You can not expect someone else to give you an orgasm if you yourself do not know what stimulation will get you to that point. Google "Masturbation techniques," and try some of the things you find. I have a feeling it will probably be clitoral stimulation that starts the ball rolling.

 

Excellent advice cumdumpster

 

I wouldn't when even know where to start. Are toys necessary.

 

suggest you start by getting a few "femjoy" type videos where women pleasure themselves,it goes without saying that if you cant pleasure yourself,how can you expect anyone elso to be able to?
as an example

 

There's a few thing you can try
1 masturbate
2 have someone masturbate you play with your pussy.
3. Buy a vibrator and use it.
4 have some one lick your pussy till you cum.
Or you can try s combo of these or all.

If you need any more help let me know. I would be glad to help send me a pm
good luck

 

I would suggest you follow the advice of Alice and Cumdump, both have made very valid points that you might want to seriously look into

 

While I would like to give the OP the benefit if the doubt, I find it a kittle hard to imagine that "she" is 22 and has never even tried to masturbate, and is seeking advice here on this site. How would one get to THIS site if one wasn't into masturbation? Just seems a but odd.

 

My 2¢ worth . . .

My 2¢ worth . . .

Give the above a try. Masturbate with your fingers. Go out and buy a toy, preferable one that vibrates, and masturbate with that.

THINK and IMAGINE what is to you an erotic scenario as you do this. Ask your boyfriend if he'll assist you with a fantasy or him doing something like you would like. Remember, the most powerful sex organ in the body is the brain.

If in a couple of months you still haven't achieved what you believe an orgasm is . . . then please go see your gynecologist!

 

i find a lot of girls stimulation is mental and some physical but mostly you need to discover your own body, and relax when you masturbate if you are trying to have an orgasm it is harder, just chill read some naughty stories and play with your pussy there is nothing wrong with that, don't worry about the orgasm. it will cum hehe, toys help but i am not sure if the ladies agree but you don't want to rely on that. after you learn how to play with your clit, and make yourslf cum, do that while you are having sex if he don't understand tell him. he will never know unless you speak up. now this is important when you do. you make sure to cum hehe back here and tell us how it went. okay? good luck sweet heart.

 

I dont mean to beat a dead horse, but yeah masterbation is what you really should do first. If you cant get yourself to orgasm then there is a problem. If you do orgasm from masterbation then its just a matter of trying to find what pleasures you that same way during sex. When I first started having sex I could cum from masterbation, but not sex. After having sex a lot though I now know what I need to cum during sex. Cumming from getting head is still a work in progress though. So anyway try masterbating; it isnt hard to do and you will find it comes naturally since you know your body and know what you like

 

Actually I initially posted this question on yahoo answers, where someone suggested I try posting on here because you guys would be more helpful. And also masturbation has never been my thing because what I most like about sex is doing it with someone else. I've tried it but I just can't get into it.

 

Regardless of your feelings about masturbation, if you want to understand what's going on with your own body, you should try it. If you can't give yourself an orgasm, nobody else will be able to do it either.

Your aversion to masturbation suggests to me that your dealing with some kind of deep-seated guilt about sex. Is there something in your upbringing that you can identify that may be the source of your sexual repression?

 

i second that on having sex with someone else.