Question for you ladies. Do you tell your man what you really want? Let him know all your dirty little fantasies? Or do you kep some inside. Ihave the feeling that the women I've been in a relationship with (all or most of them) have never really told me all they think about.
I've talked to my wife about this and she has always insisted that she doesn't have any fantasies, that plain old straight sex in the dark was all she needed. My exwife never said anything about fantsies either, but i know she had them, she used to read Penthouse letters all the time and liked it when I ate her pussy when she did. past girlfriends were always the same way, never mentioned anything about what they wanted or what really got them hot. If they had they, they probably wouldn't be exes. Just like my current wife is about to be.

 

I'm very open about my fantasies; there are few that I haven't shared and I know eventually I will discuss those last couple with my man.
I find it really difficult to ask for what I want in bed though. It's different for me to talk about fantasies and things that I'd theoretically like to try than for me to actually ask someone to do something.

 

I have the same issue Curiousscourser...I can discuss the few I have left, but to actually ask for them in the heat of the moment? I physically can't do it.

 

I've learned to trust my bf a lot and to tell him what I fantasize about... we've told each other pretty big secrets that we've told no one else so we know we can trust each other.
But even if I know I won't be judged, I'm always afraid when I tell him... usually when I tell him, I'm curled up in his arms and I say something like "promise not to get mad?... I've kinda been thinking about.. ect" but in this really quiet and shy voice that I don't normally have. haha it's so weird but I do this when I'm sad or after a fight.. it's like I have to squeak out my emotions and thoughts to him because I'm scared.
But in the end it's always the same.. he's ok with it and we either explore it and do it or just keep it a nice fantasy between us...

 

I tell my husband everything and have no problem asking him for what I want. I even get so over excited when I find something new that I have to text,call or go running to him to tell him what I found. My newest thing is rope suspension so we are looking into that.

If you cant trust and be totally open with the person you commited the rest of your life to then who? We know we can tell each other anything and not be judged or ridiculed.

 

not in a relastionhip with a man right now. I do tell my gf's what I want or would like to do. I ve been with them 3yrs. and they've been together some 30 yrs.

 

Thanks for replying ladies, My experiences seems to be that women are more sexually reserved than men. I sure wish it wasn;t so. I'd love for my spouse to really open up with me. I have a big imagination that I wish I could share but don't like feeling like i'm the only one or that I'm different.

 

Here you will probably get answers from ladies more sexual than the average female so it won't give you an accurate overall picture.

I've been with my bf for four years. Many fantasies I've shared, some I'm still too embarrassed to speak of. I find it difficult to describe him how I fantasize sex with some imaginary guy, with someone not him. To ask for individual deeds is easier like "Could you pull my hair/choke me/slap me?" than disclose a whole intricate fantasy.

 

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Are you ladies afraid of the reaction? Rejection? Have you learned the response will be negative if you ask for what you want?
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I'm afraid of the other person seeing inside me and finding it repulsive, twisted, sick, abhorrent. My fantasies are violent and some guys have been put off by them when I have revealed some details. Not all men are comfortable with the thought of hurting a woman - even when the woman wishes it.

In my current relationship the problem is that fantasizing sex with an imaginary character I feel like I'm cheating my bf with that other man. It's silly and he certainly doesn't see it that way but I can't bring myself to tell him that I think of Lithuanian soldiers gang raping me while I'm cumming with his dick inside me. Mostly because it's not a fantasy we can play act together as long as he doesn't own an army uniform or speak Lithuanian. He can take the role of a farmer raping a milkmaid or a summer camp teacher fucking a student and make me crazy but adopting another nationality can't be done as easily. It contains too many elements to credibly pretend. I would need to hear the language to make it work.

 

I'm a more reserved female when it comes to describing my fantasies to my man during sex. While I am always an active participant, I never really talk about what I want- I am more interested in pleasing my partner. I can get off to some of the fantasies, but I don't know if I would ever do them because they are just that-fantasies.

There has only been one guy that I have opened up to about SOME of my fantasies and I did it over the phone because I was embarrassed. I don't want them to think differently of me, and it especially annoys me when a guy goes around saying I'm a "freak", just because of my sexual fantasies.