ok well where do I start things off. I just started going to bars and I have very little knowledge on how to act when im at a bar. What I have generally been doing is going with friends and I get a beer or two, get a booth or a table and just talk with them. I can’t seem to meet many new people at bars does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do if I want to just go up and randomly talk to a girl. Im not a shy guy when I actually start talking but that first contact thing is just the hardest part for me. Is there anything that you guys do when going to a bar to try to get a date or maybe a relationship? What have you guys done in the past that has worked and what has failed miserably.

 

I've spent alot of years in the bar scene as a patron and employee, and I have to say that the old standards of politeness, good humor and courtesy go a very long way. When it comes to talking to ladies, I try observe the situation in a casual manner and when you do decide to make your approach do so in a very non aggressive way, and be yourself don't try to force things. It also helps to make friends with the people that work at the bars and the regulars, they are always good sources of information. also if you can you might try going during the off peak hours things seem to be more relaxed then. good luck

 

Become a really good pool player! You can also stick your arse out when youre taking a shot,for their viewing pleasure. The reality is ,youre really just gonna pick up pub sluts and really drunk chicks at bars! The "good" chicks are really just hanging out with their friends! Go to a club instead!

 

just to clear things up a little im more looking to pick girls up for the night im not looking for a one of a kind girl for a relationship, if something develops later great, but for the time being i basically just want to hear some examples that you guys have used to just go up and talk to women at bars that you would like to go further with. if you have any questions for me i would be happy to answer any of them.

 

Bars Are Small Communities!

Remember to try on different bars around you, one with a large female population on Fridays and Saturdays when you've found one that suits you? Expect to go there at least once a week and get known to bartenders(maids), bouncers and patrons since local digs are like communities and the people that frequent them like that particular place. Be social and remember it may be who you are talking to today that knows someone "you should meet", outsiders don't get acknowledged if their only focus is just getting laid like the creepy guy who just sits in a corner looking at all the girls and it shows! You want to hear more music than T.V.s on the weekend ( loud T.V.s usually mean sports or man bars) be ready for it to take a little bit to scope out if a girl is waiting for a boyfriend/husband? A girl with one friend means two drinks brought and a woman with several friends will usually roam as they all will, be patient learning the mood (no room for shy guys) Best of luck and Happy Humping!:excited:

 

A billion lines and a million tricks and still little Bobby didn't get to stick in his dick...........It's actually more simple then you realize, and in fact the simplistic approach exudes confidence, the others nervousness.

Look about the room to see who "you like" the looks of. WHen you spot one or a few, keep your eye on them and when they look at you, smile softly, then look away. If you catch her looking at you again, wait a couple minutes, then get up and walk over to her and say......"Hi, I'm ________, and wanted to meet you".

Stay honest, blunt, ask about her (as you already know you, right?). Don't compliment her as to her looks/eyes/clothes....What, did you think she meant to look bad? Just talk about her, and listen. Most of all though, show calm, quiet, confidence.

Hush......an alias

 

That always works for me, but I have to remember to wear my shortest spandex miniskirt, a really low-cut top, and my most outrageous fuck-me pumps.

 

Good advice, although I think a sincere compliment still works well, as long as it's not too cheesy.

Also, don't be afraid to approach a girl who is with a girlfriend. It shows courage. But again, stay away from the cheesy pickup lines.

 

I rarely go out to bars, and have no clue how to pick up a woman at a bar, never even tried. But there was one occasion when I was out with a buddy and his GF, they were playing darts, and I was practicing pool when a woman asked if she could join me. We got along rather well, laughing and having good conversation. I began to notice that she was staying closer and closer to me, brushing against me, putting an obvious effort into making physical contact. Up to this point I had made no effort in trying to hit on her, but I did start to follow her lead. Well that was all my buddies GF could take, she cam over and started taking over the conversation, getting between the two of us, and began being rather rude to this woman; "you arent very good at pool are you, how can you wear those shoes, that blouse really doesnt go with that skirt." It did not take much of this and the woman put down her pool cue, picked up her things and walked out the door. I tried to follow her but the GF made sure to be in my way, and by the time I got outside she was driving away. I ended up walking the five miles home, and my buddy ended up dumping his GF for cock blocking me, lol.
So my only advise would be to go out with friends (shows you are social) and make yourself available (do not just hide in a group). Oh and if one of your buddies has his GF with him and she starts getting in the way, tell your buddy to take her outside and fuck her in the back seat of his car so you can work on your own thing!

 

Don't be like the guy at the pub I was in last night and utter the following at the jukebox "I'm going to play Savage Garden"

Not only will it mark you as only the 2nd human being to ever say that sentence in the the history of the world but you will drive everyone out to another pub.

 

No don't do that! That is pretty bad. Just be yourself. Don't put on an act, don't try to be something you're not because you won't pull it off and she'll see right through you.

 

No knickers too...of course....obviously goes without saying!

 

I tried that but it didn't work, if anything it put people off.
It was either my hairy chest or the way my balls hung below the hemline that did it

 

You're obviously going to the wrong bars.

 

I deliberately chose the ones with lots of ladies. Although Linzi's Lesbian Lounge might have been a bad choice.