[start rant]
There are so many men online who do "gay" activities. But, consider themselves "straight".
Dudes who suck and fuck toys. But, say they're straight because it's not a real person.
Dudes who get blow jobs or hand jobs. But, say they're straight because men/women have mouths.
Dudes who suck and fuck. But, say they're straight because there's no emotional attachment.
Or it's just harder to get a woman and they're horny. Or they're in jail, and aren't allowed access to women, lol.
There are personal ads like "Straight male looking to fuck man pussy".

What the... ?! Don't stop what you're doing. But, for goodness' sake, own it! You're not straight!
You like dick or both, and it's okay! Be honest with yourself and the people around you!
[end rant]


At some point, we all view porn or have fantasies/role-play that we would never act on.
I consider a man gay or bisexual if he has, and enjoys, any romantic or sexual experiences with a man/dick/dick substitute in real life.


When would you consider someone (or yourself) gay or bi?

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Im pretty much with you on this one... guys who are looking to suck a cock or take one up their ass ARE NOT STRAIGHT no matter how much they claim to like women... that means you're bi dude

 

I agree with those above. I might add that "double stuffing" a woman in the same hole might fit into that a bit as well.

 

I think being Straight or Gay is an matter of who do you love, not who you fuck.

 

My opinion is your gay if you enjoy being with a person of the same sex in a sexual way, or want to be with a person of the same sex in a sexual way.
your not gay if your a man/woman playing with toys. Toys are inanimate objects.

 

OK, what if you have actually tried gay sex but couldn't go all the way because it didn't feel right and wasn't really turning you on? I have been in bed with another man and been masturbated by him and done the same in return but it didn't go any further because when he kissed me the feel of stubble on his upper lip just felt so wrong and I knew I didn't want to go any further.

I really liked the idea of gay sex but I didn't like the reality.

I still like dressing up in women's underwear and I still like anal penetration on my own or with my wife.

So where do I stand in your world of strict categories?

Let me guess, I'm gay right!

 

Yes, lol! That's the way I sort my labels. But, I suppose every pantry's different.

 

When it gets to the point where a person exclusively has sex with people of their own gender, actively seeks out partners of their own sex and finds themselves turned on by the thought of another male/female (of their own sex; solely) seducing them or being seduced by them.

Bi would include a portion of the items listed above

I believe each person is allowed one experimental encounter with their own gender, if they so choose. After that you aren't "trying" something new since you've already tried it once before.

 

well let us see ... hum idc what is my sexuality is as long as i am enjoying it

but for ppl to be gay i think they need to at least touch a dick or a man's ass to be gay but as long as they just thinking about then they r straight

 

No matter what is said, there are going to be those guys that even though they admit to getting sucked off, jerked off, or blow a load in another guys ass, they will argue till the end of time that they are straight. There is such a stigma around being Bi/Gay that these folks just cannot handle having the label attached to them.

 

Oh I love guys that say that... good for a laugh.

I think if you are a guy and have sucked cock fewer times than you have had sex with a woman... your bi. If you are exclusive to women, then you straight. I am with other women 99% of the time, but we play with strapons and such. They are bi, but most prefer men and their activities support that.

I only have two men who I have sex with, but another woman is always present (one guys fiance - who seduced me first, and the other guys GF - who I seduced the first time). My number of female partners way outnumbers the guys.

Basically if it feels good or right to be with someone, then who cares? Labels are hard... people try to force the gay or straight issue. I just say "Bi" when asked. Two years ago I would have said lesbian... then cock happened and because I truly care for these men, and they are fantastic lovers... I do it. My GF is in on it as well usually... we are three couples that enjoy each other's company in every day life and in the bedroom.

I don't care if a guy likes cock on occasion... but be honest with yourself. As long as everyone has fun and is happy... well, fuck off everybody who judges it.

 

I agree with MOST od the OP. The part I don't agree with is that a guy is gay because he likes toys in the ass...just because one gets pleasure from an act that is normally associated with gay doesn't mean they are gay...I mean, I'm sure you like your pussy licked...and MOST lesbian sex includes only that, does that make you gay because you enjoy it when a guy does the same thing to you? Ok, if a guy enjoys sucking a dildo there may be gay tendancies...but I also think that in the right cirumstances it isn't gay at all...say a woman is dominating him with a strapon...sucking the strap on is part of the role-reversal and totally giving into being the submissive little bitch. Getting sucked by a guy or fucking a guy in the ass is gay as gay can be because it IS A GUY...whether women have the same parts you are using or not. There is A LOT of gray area between gay and bi and straight...who fucking cares.

I do see where you are coming from though, the threads that say I am 100% straight, but enjoyed sucking a cock, etc. I consider myself straight, but will not go as far as saying absolutely 100% straight because the thought has crossed my mind that I may enjoy a VERY passable tranny...and I can admit that that shows SOME tendancy. Call me what you want, but I AM straight with a slight lean into a gray area. Now that doesn't mean that if I had the chance with a tranny and really really liked it and made it a very regular thing I'd still be in the same classification...but since now it is just an occasional fantasy, it doesn't change my sexual preference/orientation

 

I won't pretend it's a rule

Personally, if I try to look at a movie or some pics with two guys kissing or having intercourse, no matter if it's oral, or anal, I just have an adverse feeling.

If I look at a movie or pics with two girls, I also feel some adversity - not as high as in the situation presented above...

If I see two guys having sex with a woman, it's OK
If I see more than two guys with a woman, I get the same feeling as I used to, when I was a kid and travelling in a crowded bus...
I get bored!

If I see two women with a man, I envy him, somehow, but I immediately remember that I've been offered such an opportunity in my real life, but I've refused it...

With the internet today, with so much porn for free, I believe it's just easy for someone to realize if he/she is straight, or not...
Just my opinion!

 

I love cum. I drink my own and suck of a guy I know now and then because I am a cumslut. For the most part I am not a fan of sucking cock and I am not attracted to men IN ANY WAY but I do have strong urges to offer my mouth to cocks in order to satisfy my craving for sperm. My wife and I also enjoy anal play. She fucks me with dildos and has now started anally fisting me. I don't know how playing with an opposite sex partner can be described as gay just because you get pleasure from a certain part of your body however even with the cum drinking I don't consider myself gay or even slightly bi. I personally don't care about labels anyway but for the record I find men unattractive and undesirable and I think there is nothing more incredibly perfect than a pretty girl. The only thing I like about men is the small teaspoon of flavour they give me after raping my face for their pleasure. Personally I would just prefer to have a guy wank in my mouth and leave without ever having to touch him but real life almost never works this way so I find myself sucking until the gift is deposited down my throat. After he comes I don't want to look at him or talk to him I just want him to leave and not bother coming back until his balls are full again. I fantasize a lot about sperm but never about cocks or guys themselves.

 

Yeah, I guess the shame overrides the facts *slaps forehead*

 

fucking a toy or having anything done to your ass...doesn't make you gay. PERIOD.

Tasting or liking your own cum......even though i don't do and grosses me out now....i'd say NOT GAY. Just like how alot of women like the taste of their pussy on their man's dick. Does liking the taste of pussy make you gay? no...because it's only YOUR pussy.

now SUCKING A TOY......that means something else. you can't pretend a cock shaped dildo is a nipple or some girls fingers. lol.

Too bad we don't live in a world WITHOUT LABELS!! that'd be nice.

 

gay, adj 1. Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of the same sex.

n.1. A person whose sexual orientation is to persons of the same sex.
2. A man whose sexual orientation is to men:

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/Gay

 

Wonders if people would be shrieking about labels if the topic was about straight instead of gay, lmao.

 

i agree with your rant 110%!!! i think if a man likes that then he is at least bi. im bi and im perfectly fine with admitting it.
you can say what you want but if you like the taste of cum (even if its your own) your gay/bi. if you like fucking a toy then your probably gay/bi.
i dont see what the big deal is personally, your just being you weather your bi gay or strait, and i agree with swingerguy95621 on the labeling people like that, its just stupid.

 

You know, I can kind of understand what the OP is saying, to a certain a extent. Well with the way I think is: that if a guy says he's bisexual and likes getting fucked by a big strong man, and be on his knees giving this man a bj I would definitely think this man is gay and refuse to admit it, or he leans more on the gay side of bisexuality. I mean think about it. It said that the males g spot is somewhere in his rectum, so of course a bisexual man will be more satisfied sexually with a man, than over a woman. I mean can a woman do besides putting a strap-on, or sticking a dildo up his ass? that's all she is able to do.