Some people live swinger lifestyles although most of us don't tho. But if you do your partner having sex with another person when your not around may not be considered cheating although hiding it from you may be or cheating to a swinger may be your partner having feelings for another person! But I want to know weather you allow your partner to have sexual intercourse with other people or not what classifies as cheating to you?

 

If wife wanted to, she could fuck other guys all she wanted provided she did safe sex. But if I found that she romantically kissed a guy or let a guy suck the milk from her lactating boobs I would be absolutely crushed.

 

Wish my wife would do the swinger lifestyle

 

Cheating to me is if you are playing cards and you have an ace up your sleeve, specially if you are playing poker, cause thats cheating

 

very well played, sir, very well played.

 

If you are in any kind of a relationship and doing something behind the other's back.

If you are going to: make out with; fondle; lick or suck; finger or fuck someone else and you are doing that without the person to whom you are in a relationship knowing, you are cheating. Period.

In fact, if you are not going to be honest, you should not BE in any kind of relationship.

I did this a couple of times long ago and it was not only hurtful to the persons I was with, but it made me feel awful about myself ultimately. After that, if I was dating or having relations with other girls, I just told them all about the others. If they did not like it, we both had a choice----she could walk away from OUR potential relationship or I could dump the others. It has worked both ways on more than one occasion.

 

+1

I'm in total agreement with Umpire in what I consider cheating.

 

let me +1 that +1

 

cheat
a : to practice fraud or trickery
b : to violate rules dishonestly <cheat at cards> <cheating on a test>

We swap partners every now and then but considering cheating to be doing anything behind the others back. or to violate the rules of our aexual relationship.

 

talk on line ok don't share pics and no touching in person...........

 

I agree

 

A lot of people would think I was cheating because I am with a girl, but my hubby knows about her. Unfortunately her boyfriend does not know about me! I think that is cheating in my opinion!! I think cheating is when the person doesn't know about the other fucking,touching ect. Pretty much what Umpire had said would be the complete truth to cheating.

 

I was in a remotely similar situation once (that I know of). A girl I was seeing for months and having sex with regularly told me (in bed) that I had to get going soon because her husband (who she was separated from, and I knew about) was due to arrive in a little while.

I had no interest in being there when he showed up, and I figured that he was dropping by to talk about something concerning their upcoming divorce; so I got up and went to go in the shower.

She says I don't have time for a shower because he was due in a half an hour and he might arrive early. I replied, "Well, so what, really?"

She then proceeds to plead with me to go because he did know know about me (which I thought he did) and, in fact, he was under the impression that they were working on their marriage and thought they were getting back together.

Getting a bit annoyed, I asked how he would get that impression. Trying to get me to hurry up, get dressed and clear out, she admitted that she had had sex with him a couple of times in the past two weeks because she felt sorry for him and was trying to let him "down easy".

At that, I put my pants on and told her I was going, and gave her a choice: I was not going to make a scene then, because what was the point, but if she did not tell him about me and that it was over between them, that she COULD go back to working on their marriage.

I was not trying to force her to do anything she did not want to do, but I made it clear that I was not going to go around playing with her while her soon-to-be (or soon-not-to-bed) ex-husband was in the dark and was hoping for something that would probably not happen.

Epilogue:

She did tell him and apologized profusely to me afterwards. I actually met the guy a couple of times over the next few months (It ended up taking them nearly 6 more months to finalize the divorce); but in the end, she and I did not work out either. SHE knew that I was seeing other girls, and in fact, we had 3 threesomes together with one of my other girlfriends, but eventually she started to distance herself from me and ultimately we became just friends.

She has since married another nice guy and they have 2 kids (she was about 14 years younger than me) and I hope they remain honest with one another.

 

My Wife's body is her own and she may have sex with whomever she wants. I don't care if she tells me, but I do feel some betrayal if she lies about it. If her feelings for someone else are affecting her feelings toward me, I expect her to tell me about that with complete honesty. We have done some swinging and sharing and club stuff, but she has also had fairly torrid affairs with other men/women/couples and yet we have always been able to maintain a secure and loving relationship.

The rules for me are a bit different- she is more jealous than I am. I need to ask permission before I can have sex with someone else. We have really only done that while we were swinging/swapping It is not an issue to me because I have not generally felt the need to have sex with someone else.

 

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