Okay, not sure if i will get much feedback on this one or not. But i am not sure where to turn....
I am currently happily married, going on 2 years, been together for like 6 years. I am currently 24

For some reason, I can not get my ex girlfriend out of me head! Every now and then we catch up, text a little bit. I really enjoy talking to her. I can't help but miss her from time to time.
I mean we have both moved on with our lives.
But is it okay, is it healthy to keep in touch? I mean I like talking to her, but i am sure my wife would be hurt by it. And it brings up all of them old feelings. I was with her for almost 3 years, and she was my first. I just can't figure out what to do about it.
Has anyone ever been in the same situation? how did it turn out?

 

It is healthy to know your ex and to talk to her. Are the two of you being sexual together? You said you catch up and text but is that as far as it goes? Has she really moved on? It takes two people to have a conversation. She must still have feelings for you or you for her.

 

As long as it is just chatting like friends then there is no problem, anything more and you are juggling bowling balls and chainsaws.

My first girlfriend is still my best friend, when I got married my wife was a little jealous but got over it, but we got divorced anyway.

 

Nothing sexual, flirt a little on the phone, but that is the extent of it.
She has a kid now, and a live in boyfriend. So we have both moved on, but i think we will always have feelings for eachother.. We were just to young, so it didn't work out.

 

Yeah, we just keep it at chatting. I mean in the past, like about 3 years ago, we met up, and almost had sex, but we stopped. And since my then girlfriend < now wife > found out about that, she complelty hates her. So I can never be honest to my wife about talking to her.

 

And...?

Just because she has a kid and a boyfriend doesn't mean the two of you can't get together and reminisce I don't see any harm in two friends remembering their earlier days.

 

But when has it become more than just reminisceing. Like from time to time, i tell myself is fine. But how many days of consecutively talking back and fourth does it become like, too much? Or do you not think there is anything wrong with that?

 

Give it 25 years and you'll get over her.

 

I had this same issue...but I let it go way too far and the wife found out about it. Definitely sucked....so from personal experience I would definitely have some self discipline, especially if you love your wife/family. If not then I guess like Richief said you are juggling bowling balls and chainsaws. Don't learn the hard way like I did...

 

An EX IS NOT EQUAL to an old friend!!!

If your wife / GF finds out, you shall have to do some explanations!...

Are you sure you need that?!?

Are you ready for the consequences, if any?

 

?????????

I have an EX gf her left me but still today I love and miss her...because of what she did to me ( gave the real short story ) I will not be friends with her on face book I don't want to talk at all...but part of me keeps asking...what if???but she screwed me and not in a good way.....

 

1 put a bullet in her head
2 take body to bridge
3 dump body
4 never think about her again

 

Well, you could approach your wife and ex girlfriend, see if they'd like to try a three way. I mean, whats the worst that could happen?

 

you guys can talk but dont take it any futher. if you want the feelings to fade, dont talk to her to a while. then talk again. thats the healing process but see the feelings never disappear. they can be weak but theres always something left there. you can always miss someone but when you start feeling more than missing, you have a problem. point is, if you love your wife, you wont act on your missing your ex. ive missed my exs before when dating someone esle and ive learned the hard way, to just not act. as long as just friends. sure that didnt help but hope things go well

 

How important is your relationship with your wife?

 

So your wife wants to meet up with her ex, just for a chat and a coffee. and you would be cool with that.

Yeah right.

 

Yeah!!! There'll be NO comparing of notes!!!:excited:

 

I may be WAY off on the math...but you're 24, married 2 years, together for 6...that would have made you 18 when you met your wife....you were with your ex (before you met your wife) for 3 years.
So if I am using the calculator wrong, someone correct me.
You and your ex were around 14 or 15 when you got together and then split up after 3 years, and you were 18 and got married after 4 years...and you're still hung up on your first girl?
I feel sorry for your wife. And for you...try for amicable divorce...it's cheaper

 

honestly, im n the exact same place right now... except its switched... shes the one engaged... i want her back, i think she wants me back but shes engaged... its wierd. he doesnt like me, although he has nothing to wry about. if i wanted to do anything with her, it would have happened already... id say as long as nothing sexual happens between u 2, i dont see the harm n it

 

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