Hello. I am wanting to know why men have to lie about what they look like. They have 10 year old pictures and use words that don't match their apperance. I am finding that the word average means fat. And not just a bit of a gut. Fat! If I can't deep throat them without having their gut hit my head before I go all the way down then they are fat.

I don't care how nice of a cock they have, if I am not into fat I won't just change my mind cuz their cock is nice.

And the pictures they use are very decieving. Pull their gut up or push the fat around their cock down or take a piture from the hair line down.

The term in shape has been grossly distorted. How is 5'10" 240lbs in shape? Husky does not mean very fat. And hwp does not mean you need to stand over a mirro to see your cock.

Yes there are some of us that can use a 10 year old picture, but only a few. My body is the same now as it was 20 years ago. But I tell the truth about my age. And yes my face has aged. But I tell the truth. I don't use a 10 year old picture of my face.

And then when you meet the guy and see he has been lying he gets pissed cuz you say sorry dude your just not my type. Your way to heavy.
Then he tries to convince you it is ok and you will like it once you start suckin on his cock. Sorry just aint gunna happen.

I just want an answer.

 

HUM....

 

okay

( STRAIGHT GUY HERE )

men, ( and women ) lie about themselves to some degree. it's all about
that fear of BEING REJECTED by the opposite sex.

this site is no difference than your, average dating/match site.
again, when you meet them, the pic is some years old. if they post a
current pic, they will be turned down AUTOMATICLY.

we live in a fucked up and unfair society, which s based on and around
LOOKS.

PERIOD.

all of these so-called REALITY SHOWS, BACHELOR/BACHLORETTE SHOWS,

put false images/hopes in people's minds/hearts. people have no idea,
how many people ( WOMEN MOSTLY ), get plastic surgery to look or
be accepted.

hell, just go on GOOGLE, and type celebrity plastic surgery. or, something
of the matter. you will see the before and after looks.

also, look at the photos of these celebs, with and without their
MAKE-UP at that. or, what about those candid photos, of them being
overweight ?.

again, society imbedded these images into peoples lives, to say this is
what is normal and to be accepted.

SADLY, some celebrities have died going to the EXTREME. others, are
left with BOTCHED SURGICAL PROCEDURES, only to look HIDIOUS.

WOMEN, are quickly sold on this BULLSHIT. guys, tend to follow suit,
in much smaller numbers. women spend tons of money, to be small,
suck fat, bigger breast, and so on.

men, just want to look cut here and there.

so, to answer your question, it all comes down to being or hoping, the
receiver wont be disappointed upon arrival. it's 50/50 on that.

throw in the mix of : MONEY, STATUS, OCCUPATION, THE TYPE OF
WHEELS YOU DRIVE, WHERE YOU LIVE, & WHERE YOU SHOP 4 CLOTHES.

all of this, is what a lot of women judge you off of.
on the other hand, if your gay, there are a lot of gay men who want a
man of a certain size and height.

i hope i cleared that up for you.

 

I have no idea what you're talking about!:excited:

 

Because at our core, it is in (most of our natures...) to lie.
It is easier than being truthful and it is easier to imagine yourself as someone else. -shrugs-

 

LOL Well that I already knew. My question is if they know they are lying and as I said, they know that the person isn't going to want to be with them no matter what, why lie? When they know and see what the other person wants in another person and they are no where near that idea, why bother?

You don't have to tell me about gay men and what they want. lol I already know that. I guess what I am trying to get to is if they have a 10 year old picture and they now they are 75lbs heavier bald and are nothing they clam to be, why put both people through that? Also, it puts the other person in a poor position to say, sorry, but.

And isn't the rejection from that far worse than just telling the truth to begin with?

 

In my opinion I think it has a lot to do with what was said above but also just the simple fact that people fear the worst if you see them in a picture and hope that if you see a younger version in one that you won't reject the real person!

If that makes any sense!

 

I agree with you completely. Why bother going through that entire hassel knowing that there is a insanely great chance that the person will reject you anyways when you can just avoid all that and just be honest in the first place.

 

Perhaps you could try being a little less prejudiced and judgemental, if you asking why guys lie on say dating sites etc, it is because that is just the way of the world. People lie and it is a shame because if you think you might be getting one thing and get something else altogether disappointment is bound to follow. that said you are going to have to expect people to flatter themselves and not be entirely honest when it comes to their own self appraisal. Of course it would be nice if folk could try an be a little closer to reality but I think it is par for the course.

 

People lie to improve their chances initially. They'll use a picture of them looking their best so they can first lure the people they want in. Then, they'll hope they can win that person over with personality to the point of getting any action, and hopefully to the point of where that person won't care about the truth.

A Goonies Sloth is going to have a chance of maybe .001% of anyone talking to them so they'd put say... a George Clooney face up. Maybe not to such extremes, but regardless, they're going to take the best picture they have of themselves to improve that initial chance of even getting talked to.

Rejected right off the bat versus rejected after the truth. Some of these people have continuously been rejected right off the bat. If you've been rejected most of your life, are you going to continue to be 'real'? You wouldn't want to be rejected more so you'll put on your 'best' masks and try again.

In the end, it's no different than a man or a woman getting dressed and looking their best before going out for a night on the town in hopes of getting any action or attention.

 

The downside of sight unseen products that's why I would never go through the trouble of on line dating or looking for a fuck toy to play again! If I were to it would have to start with a live feed, followed by a public meet and greet my only experience left me slammed with Spam for other dating websites and in three months not even a sniff of pussy just hassles and lead ons!

 

Not really. If I am out on the town you see what you get. In person I can't make myself look (in all aspects) 10 years younger. I can't wear clothes that remove 75lbs, I can't change the fact that I (in my case) have big ears. lol Or lets say in some, have bad teeth and so on.

When you are on this here computer you can be the perfect person for someone. You can be everything they look for. But if out on the town they see the real you and they can make up their mind in an instant, without the hassel and the let down.

If you know that 100% you are not what the other person wants, why lie and put both through it. Just like race. If I don't like a certain race, nothing that person says will make me want them. Although, I like men of all races as long I am physically attracted to them. If a man has the face of Brad Pitt and the body of a sumo wrestler I will 100% not want them. Age is also another. On here many young men don't look at my age and we talk about sex. Then they ask how old I am and that is the killer. O.K. Cool I understand. But I don't lie about it. On the other hand, for me the body is more important than the face. I have been very attracted to men with nice bodies and a plain or not good looking face.

 

good point

BUT, let me say this.

you said, why can't be honest RIGHT ?.

again, that would be the so-called ICING ON THE CAKE or the

NAIL IN THE COFFIN.

anyway, why don't women & men, just tell the opposite sex, what they
want on the first meeting ?.

that would be a suicide risk there.

just think, what a woman would say to a guy, who told her all we
wanted was JUST SEX, A BLOW JOB, and called it a night.
she would become INFURIATED.

flip the script, a woman may want a guy, to buy her a NICE DINNER with
DRINKS, a LAVISH NIGHT ON THE TOWN, and NOTHING SERIOUS after
that.

in his mind, he see's her as a FREE LOADING " GOLD DIGGER ".

this why, people are not honest. it's all about PERSONAL GAIN to oneself.

again, the first meeting can either MAKE YOU or BREAK YOU.

yes, people have been rejected either most, or all their lives.
when is enough is a enough for them ?. that's why, they play games
with each other emotions. to work them up, only to be let down in the
end.

how many here can say, hi, my name is ( name here ), i'm not looking
for a serious relationship. all i want from you is ( )
and to call it a night. not interested in seeing you ever again.

can we agree to that ?. :excited:

i take that as a ( ) or :excited: or

choose wisely.

C-YA.

 

<----- That is me taken this year, nothing to hide.

 

I can and have said exactly that. Why lie? There are women who want random anonymous nights same as men. You ask 10 and 9 say no, you're still winning in the end. Do you have a better batting average if you lie? Probably. But I care more about how I feel about myself than I care about how some random woman feels about me. I'd rather I think I'm an honest horn dog than a sleazy lying asshole. I bet most women would prefer that too. That's not to say that's always the mood I'm in, or even mostly. I knew from the night I met my wife I wanted to be with/ date/ marry her. But damn straight I wanted to fuck, too. She knew where I stood. Or an even better example, before we started dating, I was fucking one of her friends. I told that girl honestly that I wasn't looking for a future with her, that I really enjoyed her friendship, but that, hell yeah, I wanted to hook up. We did, on and off, always maintaining our friendship, and stopping when I started dating my wife with no hard feelings. We are all still close friends. Had I been a lying scum bag, I wouldn't have had fun with her, a subsequent friendship, or most likely a relationship with my wife, cause I would have been just a lying dick.

At the end of the day, people need to ask themselves what is better: slightly more pussy or infinitely more self esteem and satisfying relationships?

 

This seems like a very sensible view to me. +1

 

So what you are saying is that when you meet a woman you find attractive and want to meet andyou ask her out, you don't think she knows you want to fuck her? You are saying that you aren't thinking of fuckin her?

 

"People lie to improve their chances initially."


"I didn't inhale"
Bill Clinton

 

I love how the assumption is that everyone lies because they don't want to be rejected.

What about those who are here just to chat and socialize and not try and 'hook up' huh?

 

Agreed.