no

what i am saying is, i would love to meet a honest, open, and caring
woman for a dinner and a movie.

TRUST ME, i have been the STRAIGHT LACE GUY. the very respectful type.
wanting the company of a woman, without expecting sex in the end.

BUT, in the end, i would be told i am not there type. although, i was
very intelligent and open-minded too. if that's the case, why waste our
time, ( MOSTLY MY MONEY ) on treating you to a nice time out ?.

i can better spend, my hard earn money else where. ( you think ).

 

mixed feelings here

the first sentence, i would disagree with you. SOME, but not everyone.

the second part, i would definitely agree with.

but, you will have a whole lot of, JEALOUS OTHER HALVES, who will be
hurt, if there other half, spent more time with a TOTAL STRANGER, than
they are with their s/o while on the internet.

this has been proven many times over, on talk shows.

 

Where did I say everyone is lying?

 

Not you.

The assumption by some people in this thread is that everyone lies because they're afraid of being rejected. While that may be true about a certain percentage of people, it's not the case with everyone.

Not everyone has a reason to lie about who and what they are. I'm not here looking to hook up, by any means. I'm actually only here because my best friend brought me here and it gives me a place to talk about things I couldn't chat with my friends about.

While it's true that some people do lie about themselves, it's also true that there are plenty of us who don't.

 

people lie about thier body type/ looks in hopes to bring the person to talk to them and hope by the time the other person finds out they be to involved to leave.

Granted it doesn't end that way and ends up hurting them both.

 

Thank you. That's what I am saying. I used the word men in a general term. I know why people lie. My question is what is the point if you know the out come? Lying just makes it worse. You make the rejection far more painful. And what if the person you lie to could have over looked the things they may not find attractive? Then you have lost out on a chance to get what you wanted in the first place.

 

I can tell you from my point of view.....I started putting albums up here....and as I took the pics....and deleted them and took more.....and tried to figure out how to take a picture on a blackberry.....I said....I am going to loose a little weight.....Because I understand wht you are saying....And I want to just be able to show off my body!!!

 

Im down 8 lbs!!

 

So that's 6'0 213.5lbs

 

See, that is what I am talkin about. Honesty. More people respond to honesty than lies. It shows integrity. It is harder to be honest than to lie.

 

Just saw your pics. Nice. I would be happy to suck on your cock.

 

LOL

 

Are you looking in a mirror?

 

You know what? You know why I use to and sometimes still do lie about who I am?

Because, when porn isn't enough, I want interaction with people online. Being male and finding a random girl for such interactions is incredibly difficult, and besides, with as many people spamming girls as they do, chances are they wouldn't want to. Not to mention, I'm awkward as fuck around people I don't know, even if it is online if I'm acting the way i really am. So I lie about my gender, age, looks, and whatever else on a random chat site "hooking up" with desperate guys to act out fantasies to just get the release I'd be overly frustrated trying to obtain otherwise.That's why I've lied about who I am, namely to just get a release.

Even if I am myself, I'll embellish my life, because few if anyone are going to want to chat with a guy who's got no future plans, who's 'average', who's got no social life, who can only use an experience from when he was in 8th grade, now 10 years ago, as a means of being interesting.

If I were to be honest 100% honest and try to land a girlfriend by being 100% myself right away, I'll never have one due to just how perverted, shy, quiet, and uninteresting I am. I have to act like what I'm not if i want to encourage those chances at all. I won't lie about it, but I will embellish until I believe they'd be fine with the actual facts. I'll use it as a sort of armor to shield myself from being rejected because of who I am initially. Personally, I think it would hurt 100 times worse to be rejected for being your true self, than it would for being rejected a partially true version of yourself.

I stand by what I said several posts back: In the end, it's no different than a man or a woman getting dressed and looking their best before going out for a night on the town in hopes of getting any action or attention.

You say:

But in reality, if you're going out, you're showering, shaving, putting on deodorant, dressing your best, throwing on cologne, body sprays or perfumes, make-up of some sort, and then spend your entire night more than likely embellishing the truth behind your life in some ways or another or in general fanning your feathers as peacocks do. Don't shave for a month, then shave. You can easily make a huge difference in appearance that way.

Make-up and clothing can make a person younger or more 'beautiful', and, in fact, is one of the main points of the entire make-up industry. Wearing tighter or looser clothing can make you look different weights. A haircut or hairstyle could hide something like prominent ears if they make you self conscious. Smiling differently with obscure imperfections in teeth. Hell, a Wonderbra or any padded bra, along with those jelly-like pads to "increase your cup size" are all nothing but tools used to deceive any person in to finding you more attractive.

You get them alone and pull off everything you did to make yourself look more desirable and you hope they're fine enough with it to go along. If it seems awkward, you try to smooth talk it to make it sway in your favor. It's the same online as it is in the real world.

This line, doesn't make sense. How are people going to overlook the things they may not find attractive if they already are rejecting a person before even getting to know them? If I said i was 300 pounds and had a quadruple chin, but was a nice, loving, romantic guy, I'd be rejected and no one would care about my personality because they'd never get to know it because they'd have walked away before getting to know me based solely on my looks.

 

I say, who fuqn cares. Yes I love sexy men but i have no plans of meeting someone from here in person. I can picture them however i want.

 

THAT PIC OF ME?

 

LOL Well first I am talking about pictures and computer dating not in person. You can't lie about what you look like when you are face to face.

There is a limit yes but, we all over look certain physical things about our significant other. I didn't stop wanting sex with my X after 2 c-sections. Before she had a great body and was firm and pettite. After, she had them she gained weight and had two scares and was unable to look the way she did. Her body was nothing like it was before. But I still wanted to fuck the snott out of her.

When I see man or a woman I find attractive I can over look certain things about their physical apperance. They may not be my idea of what I really want but, I would have sex with them any way.

Yes I would prefer a sex partener with a perfect firm hard body and a great face but, I am not one for the face. I am a body man. I don't like woman with big asses but I can over look that if the rest of her is to my liking. I don't like men with a gut but, if the rest of his body and his personallity is what turns me on then I would suck on his cock. He could be ugly with no ass and a nice body and I am good with that.

As I said, if you are honest and tell the truth about yourself you may have a better chance with that person. It is the lies that people see. When they tell the truth and are honest about everything and the other is not, they are angry because they have been lied to. Not because you aren't a perfect 10. And they see that as a personallity flaw not a physical one. Who wants to start a relationship based on a lie?

 

You say no one would want to hook up with a guy with no furture plans and no social life etc. How do you no until you try. Not all woman-men want to be the social kings and queens. When reading many womans profiles on dating sites, many of them just want a man that is real and honest. One that is a loving caring man that they can spend time with. They know that no one is perfect and they (woman more than men) will over look many physical things.

When taking to woman I know and on sites they look for more than the physical. They are looking for a man that can make them laugh and feel special. One that thinks about how they feel and wants to spend time with them doing things they like. They are looking for the personality more than the physical. They want and honest guy that they can count on.

 

Yes I believe you are correct. To bad.

 

Wasn't talking about people from here. Read the post.