Hey guys I shall get straight into it. Been married 5 years and basically things getting stale in bedroom. Wife flat out refuses talking dirty, doesnt really encourage pics n basically prefers me to touch her and do all the running for sex as she claims her handjobs are crap (they are honestly fine) Wondered any ideas how to spice things up and posibbly give her the confidence that sex talk is natural not seedy!

 

Hey mate sounds like she's lost confidence you need to build it up again firstly make her feel special intorduce small sex toys maby try sfot bondage, or even go away for a weekend somewhere nice and fuck all weekend, don't make itma choirs make it a sexy treat then shell be gagging for ur cock every day

 

Stop trying to make love to her and fuck her. Women can get bored of just being made love to. Fuck her in the kitchen, outside, in the car or at the park.

 

From what I can tell from your post you have settled into a routine that she expects you to press her buttons and you do. She has basically trained you to be her sex toy. What you need to do is shower her with affection, compliments, and love, and get her to the brink of an orgasm. Then tell her what you want her to do and refuse to let her over that orgasmic edge until she does. It will not work the first few times but eventually she will get so frustrated that she will start to do as you tell her. Soon you will have her eating out of the palm of your hand, or wherever else you spray your cum.

I hope this helps.

 

I think its fair to say her confidence is none existant. Forgot to mention have kids so hard to do spontaneus stuff and she seems to be paranoid tht her body now horrible and big dwn there. Again all untrue she has lovely slender body and although she maybe slightly bigger dwn there it doesnt affect sex at all. Think light bondage is a start though any recomendations on best starting toys? She has vibrator but doesnt like the feel of it inside her so uses purely to stimulate her clit

 

It sounds like she's got a lot of minor issues, when I married my love she was a 22 year old virgin with a handful of "Wouldn't" but, she trusted me enough to introduce new ways to play. Getting your woman over the barriers takes making her understand that "Not only whores talk or play" a certain way, those waters run deep! Emphasizing the obvious of wanting dirty talk or playing further with toys requires you to find that one true thing that drives her crazy! Like with the vibrator or a small dildo to start or you can also buy a small bullet vibe and when your eating her use them to excite her cunt hole? Don't go for depth just minor penetration (at first) and find ways to lay close to her while you play inside her (Example: my wife loves being fingered over the vibrator but, loves one of her dildos, it took a couple buys to find just the right shape and size for her personally) The object is to get her to open up so, let her know that you'd appreciate even a phrase or two that she feels comfortable with and tell her she can whisper it first while your in the throws of passion, this may sound silly but, I'd get my wife as excited teasing her and have her use one word like "Fuck, Pussy, Eat,etc;" till she one day weaved "Fuck me!" together on her own. Keep on encouraging her (don't be pushy) let her know you love her and wouldn't see her as anything else if she talked dirty, emphasize your needs but, tell her you'll be flexible to exploring anyway that works eventually?

 

Cheers for that Milo advice am sure to use. Am sure that if she does eventually come round to more wild ideas it will be worth the wait!

 

I hate to sound like a bitch with commitment issues but..... thats why I'm single. When bordom sets in I DO NOT have the patience to figure it out....I just move on. But, I am happy that way. Works for me.