I have always been a sub, and a great one. But my new BF is kinda vanilla and wants me to take more of an initiative. He wants me to talk dirty and Im not sure what to say to him because we are on different levels. He is also younger then I am so im hesitant on calling him daddy (which I love) Any suggestions?

 

call me or let me call you and i will teach you how to talk dirty. i promise you will be satisfied.

 

fuck u mother fucker this is dirty

 

Eat shit and die is also dirty but not something I want to say while fucking..

 

Damn look at that fill sand...no, no, you should see the mason sand, clean as a whistle, would make a beautiful beach...That screened topsoil is baddest of bad, it'll grow any grass plant or tree you can dream of, SHIT...If you think that looks good, you should see all the different colors of mulch...Oh that's nothing compared to the selection of decorative stone...Well, I don't know about you, but I'd settle just for some crushed concrete/gravel.

Doesn't get much dirtier than that..

 

I suggest you do as he has asked - take the initiative. Try it out. test the waters by saying things like "you've been a bad girl" when he comes over. See how he reacts. if it turns him on tell him "you hope he doesn't need to punish you for what you did" If that still keeps his attention go for the daddy title.

It shows you made the initiative and still keeps you in your desired role as a sub.

My only suggestion - Make sure you can show him something you did wrong. Maybe videotape yourself masturbating. If you take that advice make sure you post the tape for us to see too. <evil grin>

If he doesn't react in a positive way I suggest you have an open discussion and make sure he is aware of your sub way of life and see if he is willing to become less vanilla for you.

If not find some side action and buy 50 shades of grey for him to read lol.

Good luck you dirty little girl!

 

What a guy

likes to hear is "I want to suck your cock. It is so yummy.

 

well said

 

What if you changed your during sex pet name to "baby" instead of "daddy"?

Ohhh baby you make me so wet
Ohhh baby fuck me harder
God, I love it when you shove your big, fat cock into me
That's it lick right there, ummm oh I love it

See what I mean? My husband and I love dirty talk before (during foreplay) and during sex.

Maybe if you give him what he's asked for, you can then ask or what you'd like... Him to be dominant in the bedroom.

Good Luck,
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PS- please don't PM me your versions of dirty talk.

 

nudges N.E. woman

 

Say what you are feeling at that moment or what you want. Be graphic about it. One of the great things about sex is that it gets to our base character, especially when we get deep in the moment. Being honest about it is even better both because you're really enjoying it and they get off on hearing you positively critique their performance. Examples:

If I'm on my back and ankles on his shoulders and he's plunging away, I'll tell him how much I love feeling him inside of me or how full his cock is making me feel or some allusion to stretching. When we're both close I'll tell him that I want his cum, that I want to feel him pulse inside of me, etc. If we're doggy style I'll push my hips/thighs back into him and tell him I want to feel all of him inside of me or bark at him to grab my hips and "really fuck me good". If he's going down on me I'll tell him how much I love having him tongue fuck me or ask him to eat my ass out or suck on my clit, etc. If we're doing anal I'll pretty much say anything about my ass but encouraging him to cum deep inside my ass is generally motivation enough to send him over the edge along with me.

Dirty talk takes on different forms. Some like it degrading, some like to put some role playing into it (like you said, daddy) and others just love to blurt out what they're are feeling and they remove the "morality" filter and just hammer home the crude terminology they are feeling at that moment. I personally have a gutter mouth when he's either going down on me or we're engaging in anal. I have some serious encouragement for my boyfriend then and he has zero illusions of what I want but I also know he loves hearing those things. He's a very respectful and polite man but we can get pretty raw with our comments when we're in our groove.

point being you'll get it in time but you have to be comfortable saying what you are thinking/feeling and once you get to that comfort level, you'll be amazed what comes out of your mouth during sex.

 

Tell him how much you want his big hard cock in your sweet little wet pussy.

Just pull his cock out and start sucking it when he least expects it.

 

OH, JUST KEEP SUCKING HIS COCK AND WHEN HE IS FUCKING YOU ,TELL HIM HOW BIG HIS COCK IS IN YOUR ASS AND TELL HIM YOUR CALLING THE COPS FOR BREAKING AND ENTERING......

 

But seriously...

Understandable that a sub has little experience asserting herself. If he's unable to properly take the initiative perhaps he's a bit sub too or at least inexperienced.

Maybe what you need is an MMF with a dom who can set him right.

 

top tips from a top pervert x

Wat I always do is start by saying (when fucking or sucking of course) mmmm ur a gud girl arnt you? They always reply 'yes' then say your such a dirty little girl arnt you? And this always gets em going even more lol, you have to make ur partner know that this dirty talk really turns you on which isnt hard becouse they no your fucking faster and harder, then you have to turn the heat up a little and make them repeat after you, make them call u a gud little girl and your a dirty little slut, then you just have to take the leap and Jus come out with it, I always Jus say it stright 'call me daddie baby, be daddies good lil slut' not once have I ever being able to talk a girl around, even 1 nite stands with girls iv knowen for years, it helps if ur both a bit drunk like, :b I've got loads of stories to tel if ur intrested x I personallythink u mite b a bit too nasty for this boy, but who knows he might like it lol xx

 

How to learn to say "Fuck me!" passionately, creatively!

EVERYTHING KatieColorado says is Golden!

But I can add a few things from my perspective

The key to talking dirty comes down to two things: natural words - words that tap our basest impulses just like KC says! Second, spontaneous - genuine enough - performance!

For instance, I first got into dirty talking because my 19 year old Mormon GF Christine (YES, attending BYU - I wasn't, but was her 28yo stud--definitely the older BF and future daddy figure). She felt free and horny enough to say "Fuck me!" as we fucked, and "FUCK ME HARDER when she needed something extra (which she didn't being multi-orgasmic and could out-race my orgasms 5 to 1.

Great sex means getting lost in to many moments, strung together. Dirty talk for dirty, fully sexual minds means getting you partner to find that special place and moment for deeply eroticized and focused connections. And Power Words can definitely help you get there

So, the lesson? Start simply and natural.

I'd reply to my GF with "Oh! Fuck YEAH! For me, the simple F-word taps and unleashes my hidden inner aggression: a if a female grants a man permission to be hard and mean and fully aggressive, and totally self-absorbed in the moment! Because my old GF Christine really was!
(Of course, she was my earliest Great Lover, too!)

Pretty soon I didn't need to hear her erotic words of aggression - I could do it to myself by just thinking "Fuck ME!" to myself. And I was more aggressive and controlling in our encounters.

Second lesson: just as much about early sexual learning is about conditioned responses, and so is learning to talk dirty.

Next consideration: learn THE words that work best for your lover! So much of dating and sleeping around is discovering what does and doesn't work with your lovers. Trial and error. But it's better when you are a good, responsive learner. Or alternately, as KC does, learn words that definitely are turn-offs -- and then banish them from utterance.

Third lesson. Practice your "dirty talk" vocabulary when you are alone and masturbating. Write phrases down and practice using them! This helps you to make it more natural, internalizing the images, sounds, and scents that flood your brain when you are getting fucked with the memory of your lover fucking you. This helps enormously to make the act natural (because you don't talk dirty in real life, in the day to day! Do you?)

Much of dirty talk is about 'power words' and phrases one doesn't hear or use much. For example, my generation only used 'bitch' as a derogatory put down of a woman. How to learn a new, powerful, erotic contextual usage? SEE it used in a porno or video~then imitate the example (For instance, regarding 'bitch' and anal sexualized aggression, one could do worse than the original "Swept Away" from 1974-even if in Italian.)

Finally, there are self help books (or the equivalent). Just google "how to talk dirty to a guy" to find books, articles, and youtube video, even one on the first page on doing so through sexting!

Add "Amazon" to the google search to locate books with helpful user reviews about other's experience of this learning process; you might have certain hang-ups or difficulties in learning, and others experiences are thus very helpful in solving them. Some book are better for you than others.

Aural stim through the spoken word is just as much fun and flirty and dynamic as fashion and clothes and dressing - or undressing and stripping art! Only faster, faster pussy cat, Kill! Kill! (to borrow from a great sexploitation film title.)

Welcome to this new erotic world, hurtmedaddy. Words are the power to influence minds and make them do what they really want. (It is an important secret to being a Dom.)

Luv, BwcOrsonInDenver

PS Oh. One more thing. Learn the principle of escalation, like in porn movies.
You might start with "Am I your dirty girl?" "Am I?" - then have him say it back. "Am I wet?" and "Am I HOT" and "Am I your HOT whore?" Leading up oto FUCK ME! - or whatever combination that works for you.

The urban dictionary or the like at literotica.com is a place to start growing your dirty talk lexicon. In fact, I know there are "Learning Dirty Talk" articles in their "How To" section.
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