I've actualy found something interesting with the "game" as I was traveling around the world and thats the fact that it only exists among women that have been raised or exposed to western culture. My favorite country to visit is Ukraine and it only exist there in the large cities yes women still need to feel a attraction to a man before they'll let him bed her but she doesn't leave him feeling like he had to trick her into sex.

 

War is hell but what it leaves in a man's mind is far worse. Trust me it is.

A CNN reporter asked a Marine Scout Sniper "What do you feel when you kill"
The Marine shrugged and said "Recoil"

Here's to ya bro!
I respect those statements!!

 

Thanks

 

Stress

Fucking tired from not enough sleep

Same old missionary fucking position, spice it up

Gay

Got another girlfriend

Got another boyfriend

 

1, if its smelly
2, if its big n hairy
3, if the girls big and hairy ha
4, if u can't be arsed

Don't get me wrong, I've done all of these, and done combos aswel, lots of times, when I was younger n pissed out ma skull, FUCK IT, you only live once eh ha

 

My concern would be STD's. Other than that she would have to be attractive!

 

hey dnt b offended

dont u think these are the signs he's a gay or smthing .. talk to him i might be wrong but all signatures lead to him being a gay ..

 

I think it is more the alcoholism, and being raised without a father who gave a shit too much. But I have considered that a few times in our relationship, more because I've never had an unsatisfied partner. He refuses to admit he has a drinking problem, so i think im out of options

 

I am being chased by a client. If i fuck her it will complicate a ten year business relatonship. I told her that "our friendship, both personal and professional, is too important to complicate with a physical relationship." Kinda worked but I feel the pressure.

 

Think your right..

The alcoholism is a big player in the issue. And it only worsens over time. I have first-hand knowledge from a personal issue I'm dealing with my spouse. you do still have options but none are easy. Leave him and move on OR fight like hell and get him sober, then start dealing wih any of the psychological issues he may have about sexuality.

 

What does a man wana hear from his woman that makes him feel manly? I tell him how good he smells all the time and when he is in his work clothes I tell him how sexy he is. I compliment him on how good the house looks when he cleans sometimes.

Just yesterday mornin he said "tonight be ready cuz it's goin in your pussy or ass" but when we are both home he grabs a beer and it's like he never said that. I hope he will get help for drinking cuz after some thought I think he could learn to please me in bed

 

It's not just the words engaged, it's more the actions with the words. Maybe say nothing, drop to your knees and say hello to his 'manliness'. See what the reaction is. Just a thought. And if you'd like to say 'practice', you know just so you feel comfortable...lol

 

You said pretty much what men want to hear. I think his need for booze is just too strong and drunks don't remember much of what they say. Untel he gets help for his drinking it will just keep getting worse.

 

3 simple words that have a profound effect on a man. "I love you!". Those words make a man feel manly and wanted.

Ho.early from reading everything, his lack of desire is a combo of his drinking and your cheating. Yes, he lazy, but that would never kill a man's sex drive. Have you came clean with him? Perhaps he's waiting for the two of you to talk things out?

 

I think it's a combination of many things. First off, He is not the man of the house, You are. You are the bread winner. That pisses a lot of guys off right there because it's the man's role to take care of the woman, Not the other way around. Secondly, You allow him to get away with all this shit. You are out busting your ass working full time while he works part time and gets to do as he pleases (drinking all the time, playing games, so on so forth).

Also, and no offense to you, but Sid has a point (if his posts are truthful). You have been on this site for almost as long as you have been married. You have cheated on him with other guys. You are doing all these things while the only bad thing he has done is being a lazy drunk. I think it's highly possible that he found out you have cheated on him and he wants nothing to do with you. IMO - You two are bad for each other and you should just end it before it gets any worst because it will take a hell of a commitment from the both of you before it gets any better and I highly doubt you will get it from him. You should sit down and talk with him and don't take no for an answer. Give him the choice - Either you stay and work things out or you're leaving.

 

From everything you've posted in this thread so far, I'd say your man has a serious case of depression.

The alcohol is a diversion, or masking device, for some deep-seated and unresolved emotional issues. He likely needs professional help - the sooner the better.

good luck

 

I've turned down pussy because she was way too willing to give it up. It's like something was wrong with it and was trying to get rid of it. No challenge, no game, it took no effort to get it. I eventually fucked her after her numerous advances and was like 'wow, that's it?' I could have masterbated.

So don't throw the pussy at him, your only luck with this would be if it was 2:00 am and the bar is closing.

Or the guy may be involved with some one and doesn't want to mess that up, or you two are friends and he doesn't want the situation to get weird.

 

Not my normal advice, but just get a divorce. Your shit is broken.

 

Should have flipped through entire thread before commenting

Your husband's problem is that he has been emasculated. He doesn't feel like he contributes to the household and the biggy is he doesn't trust you. He doesn't want to become mentally vested and then have you run around on him again. He is denying you sex because you were getting it else where and is using alcohol to further distance himself from you.

Don't ask him for sex, when he's on the couch, bring him a beer and give him a blowjob. Then hop on, he has to be reminded of "why" you 2 got together in the first place. He'll come around.

 

?????????????

You said "been married 4 years, been on pill all 4. I think he just prefers booze"
Just how much booze are we talking? Difficult to get it up when you drunk.

Your a nurse? You should know about drugs and alcohol and the effects on sex life.
Is he still attractive to you? Have you tried to seduce him?

Has he found someone else?