Hey,

My girlfriend and I are having some problems. She is a virgin and when we try to attempt intercourse she is just too tight, to the point that I cannot get in. When we try it just hurts her, she can take one finger or two if the angles are right. I am asking if they are any techniques to make her first time as pain-free as possible, any positions that are particularly effective for first-time sex, any way so I can at least get in so the pain will be over quickly. It doesn't help that I am also a virgin and therefore have no point of reference so to speak. Thankyou in advance for your advice.

 

Things to remember:
1) Use lube. cover your cock in it, put it on your fingers and slide them inside her to lube her. Put a little on the outside as well just to be sure.
2) Foreplay... lots of it. At least 1/2, I'd say, of going down on her. That'll get her super wet, receptive, and relaxed.
3) A relaxed atmosphere. Chilled out, maybe a glass or two of wine, some music, candles. Anything to take stress about the first time away from the situation.
4) Don't set out 'to have sex'. Have fun doing whatever, and then she'll be more relaxed because she won't have a mindset of 'we're about to have sex and it's going to hurt'/
5) It will never been pain free. However, my tactic with my gf - which she said worked well - was to press your head against the opening, and slide it in VERy gently, til just the head is in. Stop, cuddle, rest, let her adjust. Do the same with the next inch. be on the look-out for signs of her wincing, being in pain etc. It may take about 15 mins to get fully in, or you may not get more than half way in the first time. Don't worry - she'll get more relaxed the more you have sex.
6) 'Getting in' will not get the pain over quickly. Like I said, you gotta go slow and gentle. Don't push in in one go - even after two years of having sex with my gf there are times when pushing in in one go hurts her.

There, I hope that's something to think about and that you didn't know all that already, haha!

Good luck mate. It'll work out.

 

Go down on her first, then use the lube...

 

Tried to fix it, but I couldn't. Yeah - the points above were written as they came to me, not in the order they should be carried out!

 

My mother told me the story about how she lost her virginity once. She said she hadn't intended to "take the plunge", as it were, but she wanted to help get this guy off that she was with...so she got on top of him, and allowed just the head of his penis to nestle just inside, to the point it was nudging her hymen...and then she moved up and down, her pussy just caressing the head of his cock (I'm using my words for this, not hers...I have a very vivid mental picture of it). Anyway, after awhile, he came, got her all wet, and she said it excited her so much that she kind of forgot about what she was doing and sank down on his cock, and....presto, that was that.

My mom can be a lot of fun to talk to sometimes...

 

*sarcastic* I suggest you stop trying until she's 16

 

Now I see where you get it from. YOU GET IT FROM YO MOMMA

 

We're both legal

And thanks for the advice so far.

 

Relax, enjoy each other, have fun and forget about the pressure of penetrating her, when the time is right it will happen.