The fact that this is an open forum negates how you feel about mine and others opinions, they are going to be posted and you can't stop them, I would say fuck you back but, well you can guess the rest.

And another set of assertions with no proof, if you have one of these PMs post it has proof, or you can carry on with your lies making you look like an absolute twat.



Twat.

 

Where are you self proclaimed nice guys hanging out?

I have two friends who are in their 40's that are attractive, smart, funny and genuinely looking for a nice guy. They both have one child and when they do talk to men... The men are put off by their children and /or their age.... Why is one child and being in your 40's a deal breakers?

They don't want to do the local clubs scene where all the me are salivating over the hoochies in tight small skirts and big hair.

I have been out of the dating pool for so long, I don't know what kind if advice would be relevant and helpful.

Completely simplified breakdown of what women want... Tips for men... For every year that a woman ages, her ability to see and want a nice reliable guy increases. Girls 18- mid 20's are still looking for excitement with the bad boys. Females mid 20's - mid 30's start appreciating real men. Women Mid 30's- mid 40's absolutely done with the bad boys, looking for real relationships, etc. Ladies mid 40 and up are looking for companions with benefits.

There are always exceptions, but what I wrote is the usual case.

 

I think the problem is that most "nice guys" want to be BE the "bad boys" fucking the young 20 year olds.

 

No good love, he is looking for that perfect 1950s ideal of a woman who will be waiting quietly by the stove for him to come home, will get his slippers and pipe while he sits by the fire with the local news sheet, and the kids are a definite deal breaker, he is not the sort to want anything to do with other people kids.

 

I don't think anyone thinks of themselves as a "nice guy," and then they just get confused when they have a hard time getting the girl.

You don't think of yourself as one of the lame, boring, pushover nice guys, because you've been there through everything you've done. You were there when you stood up to the bully, and punched him in the jaw, just like you were there when you pulled someone out of a burning car. You had a frontrow seat to that one time, where you went sailing or surfing in a huricane.

You know you're a badass... but no one else does. You need to share that with them. You need to let them know that you are not one of several thousand potential losers.

I think too many guys equate being nice with being agreable, and doing what the woman wants, all the time. Thats just being a pushover.

When women say they want a "nice guy" - and ladies, please correct me if I'm wrong - they don't want someone who is going to bend to thier every whim. They want a MAN, who is polite, sweet, but is still an Alpha male. You can be kind, without being submissive.

To put it another way, you should leave her with no doubt in her mind, that when you go out, you will have decent table manners and not stare at every woman who walks by, maybe even open the door for her. Despite seeming "nice," you still think for yourself, support your own beliefs, aren't afraid to tell her no, or make physical contact.

 

If this is how you really think a nice guy should be treated.... You are absolutely going for the wrong type or age woman. These are attributes of a doormat not a partner/companion/ lover!


Boner4u - I agree with most of your post... The punching of the jaw seems a little much.

 

If this was the Disney forum and Richief was 10, I might believe that he would do the things you accuse him of.

However, this post proves that, while you may be fast-approaching middle age, you have not matured beyond double-digits yourself.

From your friendly forum trouble making cunt

 

I can answer that one from my point of view.

Women like that have normally been rejected or traded in for a younger model, they have too much emotional baggage to be bothered with.

I don't want kids of my own so I will certainly not be taking any other mans offspring on.

 

One friend is divorced, but didn't, as you put it, get traded for a younger model. The other friend adopted a child by herself. So the baggage from "other men" is minimal.

But if you don't want kids, that I understand.

 

Human sexual selection happens on the basis of qualities over which one has little or no control. Men prefer women in their late teens and early twenties.

Pornographic models, especially for magazines like Playboy are usually that age.

The reason for this is instinctive. Women in that age group can best give birth to healthy babies. Until comparatively recently a large number of women died in childbirth. Also older women are more likely to have children with Down's Syndrome.

Even if a man does not want to have children, sex is about childbirth. Human nature is ignorant of birth control and abortion, but it has evolved in response to pregnancy.

It is also beneficial for a woman to have children when she is in her late teens and early twenties. Women who do, and who nurse their babies are much less likely to get breast cancer.

Women prefer successful men. The more successful the better, although most women would prefer that a man not be too much older than she is.

In addition of course, it helps to be beautiful or handsome.

None of this seems fair. Nevertheless, all women are young once. Most men do not achieve much in the way of success.

Being nice does not matter much if that is all one has to offer. What it gets is, "Can't we just be friends?"

A number of years ago I read about a survey of women graduate students at Oxford and Cambridge. More of them would welcome an affair with Woody Allen than other celebrities. Does anyone think this would be true if Allen had failed in his efforts to be an actor and screen writer, and became a librarian?

 

Again, NE Woman, it's mostly a self-image thing. It's like how guys obsess over their dick size, they also obsess over their sexual prowess and fantasize about being the ultimate stud.

 

Fair point, my choice of words can be a lttle harsh sometimes.

I do think that men would be looking for warning signs from this type of woman.

Obviously when you get to this age you should be established in your life and with that comes a dislike of change.

When I have dated women in their 30s they seem to think that they can change the way I live, this is not happening as I really like my life and don't need anyone to tell me that I should do my washing once a week instead of every night.

Younger women tend to be less bothered about my washing machine usage.

 

Have you ever had a Girlfriend?

Or do you rely on wiki for your relationship "facts"

 

actually, new reasearch shows that a signifcant number of western men are attracted grannies--at least in their porn preference...

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http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...-truth-about-50-shades-grey-and-futanari-porn

but you are right. It seems that sexual preferences are generally immutable.

 

You are a dick.

I know that you have a right to post whatever bullshit you can pull out of that tiny brain. I never said that you didn't. You also have a right to be an asshole. So do your friends. I just wanted you to know that I don't give a shit what you or your friends think or post. It is, what it is. So feel free to post bullshit and send as many PMs as you want. You have the mentality of a 12 year old girl and the IQ of a house fly. Just keep in mind that I know what you are doing and what you are about.

By the way, posting PMs in the forum will get you banned. I'm sure that you already know that. Nice try dick head.

 

Hey!


shhhhhhhhhh...

 

Incorrect Challenge.

You ARE able to post PMs with the permission of the person that sent them.

 

Maybe so, but I'm not going to drag another person into this bullshit. If I did, I would be no better than the people telling me to. It would be inconsiderate to the other person involved. They would become a target. I will not play that childish game.

 

Fair enough.

Just post accusations and refuse to back them up then.

 

Yes.

What I posted about male and female sexual preferences is substantiated by The Evolution of Human Sexuality, by Donald Symons.

http://www.amazon.com/Evolution-Human-Sexuality-Donald-Symons/dp/0195029070

What I read in the book is confirmed by what I have experienced and observed, and what I have read from other sources.