So, I've just recently graduated from high school, I'm trying to look for a job, and when I'm out and about doing so, occasionally I'll run into some girl who i think is cute. I don't want to just fuck her (at least not right away). I'm a lonely person, and i want to get someone to connect with.
Fer instance. I went into Big 5 to look for a job. the girl behind the counter was cute, not a supermodel by any means, sort of....mae whitman like. but she looked interesting. How would i approach a complete stranger and let her know i want to buy her lunch without seeming too creepy? I'm not the most attractive person (not ugly, but acne scarring and red hair don't always help).

any advice? Serious advice only.

 

Anyone who asks a question like that should approach a woman on his hands and knees and expect a swift kick in the teeth. You may get lucky, though....

The secret is to act confident even if you are not and don't be afraid of rejection.

 

Lower your sights to the Amy Farrah Fowler category first.

 

i don't really want to get into a situation where the most likely response is severe rejection. i just want to work my way in.

 

Find the reason to talk with her.
Do it slowly and be calm while doing it.
If you think the moment is right, tell her if you want buy hers a lunch or dinner.
good luck

 

I usualy say "Hi. Where did you get those beautiful eyes." It breaks the ice and if she thinks she might like to know you better she will let you know. Young girls have the same problems trying to find the right words for guys they would like to meet.

 

....her?
Sorry, I had to.

My suggestion is to take time to get to know the girl a bit before asking them out. Talk to them at work or at school. Ask questions about her and share details about yourself, but nothing serious at first. That's what I respond to the best anyway. Not every girl is like me though. "Where did you get those beautiful eyes" is something that would get you a scientific/sarcastic response and a mental note to be careful of you with me. Like I said, other girls are different. Basically, my advice is to not be a complete stranger when you ask someone to lunch.

 

that just mite work as long as she doesn't have huge nockers and its said in a sincere manner

 

"Pull down your pants, I think I love you" always works...LOL kidding.

I'd strongly recommend staying away from someone at work, or a place you hope to work. If things go sour, it creates very difficult circumstances to deal with at work and could lead to one or both of you getting the boot.

But to specifically answer your question in the general sense, you don't exactly want to just up and ask them out. You have to talk to them first, be charming, get them to start liking you. Initiate conversation with her, if you're having trouble finding the words then say something cute/funny like "How much does a polar bear weigh?" depending on her exact response you'll have to fudge the lead in to the answer, but it will be something along the line of "I dunno either, but now that the ice is broken..." and just keep rolling with something interesting. If she is at work she prolly has a name tag on so you know her name, but tell her yours. Talk for a bit and if she seems interested come up with a creative way to ask for her phone number...like, Hey, I gotta run and I don't wanna get you in trouble at work, but I lost my phone number, can I have yours? It sounds cheesy, but the key is to be mildly funny and make her laugh. Younger girls usually can't resist guys that make them laugh. Like others have said have confidence, be SURE of yourself...walk in their KNOWING you are going to walk out with her phone number.

 

What? you have something against Mae whitman? didnt you see Scott Pilgrim? for me, my favorite feature is nice skin, and she is pretty. Like i said, i'm not exactly the most attractive guy at 6 ft 215 lbs.

beggars can't be choosers, but they can try.

 

thanks so far for the advice. I'll try it next chance i get.

 

well talk to her like you would talk to anyone else if you wanted to make a friend.

your chances would improve if you got the job at the store with her then it becomes very easy to get close to her

but in the event you don't get the job there you could go back a few times and try to strike up a conversation with her maybe about her opinion on something you might buy from the place. be casual and confident.

smelling nice helps if she is going to be close enough. In the end it is hard to approach a random girl and ask her out. this is mainly because girls are taught to keep their guard up from strange men out there. What you have to do is try to show here that you aren't strange just a regular guy trying to get make a new friend.

 

You might need practice on body language and speaking--for that PUA can help.

PUA can also turn you into a fake douche.

I just read this and I think you should be mindful of all these "secrets" women wished you knew.

http://men.webmd.com/ss/slideshow-secrets-women-wish-you-knew

 

Confidence helps. That and do't fear getting rejected. Its a part of life bro. But that aside, I also don't recommend datng someone from work. That type of thing doesn't really end so well.

 

Try to see it as an exercise of small-talk. As you talk to anybody at the bus station about when the bus comes or so. Don't make you the pressure that you need to get her number or so. Try this a few times. Then you get more confident. Maybe you see her being disappointed and watching after you, when you finish the conversation after a few sentences, making you more confident for your next times when you try more!

 

The best approach is to ask for kick in the nuts.

Usually when I ask a woman for sex, I get a kick in the nuts so asking for a kick in the nuts might be a good way to get sex using reverse-psychology.

You never know, it might work.....:excited:

 

Creep up silently behind them and, before they have a chance to react, grab them and cover their face with the cloroform-soaked cloth.



Or, just smile, look relaxed and friendly, then say "Hi!"

Yes, you will get rejections sometimes, but that doesn't mean you're bad - not every woman will fancy you, but sooner or later someone will.

 

That reminds me of a woman who told me that the best chat up line she'd heard was:
"Keep quiet and this rape doesn't have to become a murder."

Mind you, she was wearing a T-shirt with the slogam "Will fuck for coke" at the time....

True story....:excited:

 

I used to think that way. You will not get laid. I would suggest learning to accept rejection and simply cast a wider net and cast it often. The best thing you can do is learn a little confidence and have something interesting to talk about. If you treat women like aliens they will not be comfortable with you.

 

right on folks! thank you. i might go down to the mall area today, maybe this'll come in handy