http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcWQVsGqycY

Sorry, It just came to me lol

 

Anyways to try and be helpful to you. You just have to relax when talking to girls. Being Confident and being yourself is what women like. Once you can get ahold of that you'll have no problem getting women to go out on dates etc. and it all leads from there.

My problem was that I was always too shy when I was younger to really talk to, or be myself around females. Once I decided to be true to myself, I was able to strike up a conversation with females, had dates, and got laid(tho not all the time lol). Although I dated about 6-8 girls in highschool, I didn't have sex till senior year, 18 years old, with my gf at the time. I'm 27 now, have dated/gone out with many women. But only had sex with about 9 of them

 

see i don't have a problem talking to girls at all, i can strike up a convo pretty easily and have an easy going personality. my major problem is how do i get them to take off their pants+panties. I guess my issue is what can i say to get them to take it off. that's where i freeze up, i can ask a girl out on a date go to the date have a fun time but don't know how to seal the deal.

i'm leaning towards being more direct next time. ie blatantly have condoms visibly laying around. or directly asking her if she would like to have sex.

i guess younger girls aren't as direct as older ones that know what they want. i guess i'm at that age where i'm getting tired of the pussy-footing around what both parties may want.

 

It has been more than year since I last entered here, and I have today because I wanted to talk precisely about this.

I am also a 26 yo virgin guy. The thing is... I am totally clueless about what I have to do to get a girl. I have always had a hard time meeting people, be it men or women, so I guess this doesn not help.
My friends tell me it is not such a big deal, and I do actually think like this... But i really need to feel the contact of somebody else. Masturbating is getting boring and less pleasurable... But as i've said i am completely ignorant. I am not a disco guy, i actually hate them, and I dont want to rush into a whore. I know I would regret losing my virginity that way. I have considered going to libraries, there I am sure I would find people withh common interests. Not sure if that is the best place, though...

The worst thing for me is going to the street every day and seeing all kind of couples. I always ask myself: how do they do this? Anyway, it gets more bearable to read how others withstand it.

 

i know what you mean, masturbating is one thing but experiencing the real thing is driving me nuts. it's just when you get a girl and she sleeps with you i assume she expects a relationship especially if she liked you from way back (in my situation there are a few girls from the past i can call back on if i wanted to but, i am worried that they will be upset if they find out i would just be using them for sex)


it's hard to meet a nice girl outside of school and work and if work is largely male dominated then you're shit outta luck. I have considered going back to school to take classes i am interested in. That way you can meet girls and what not. I've noticed the 18-19 year olds definitely like the older guys in their 20s

you're not alone, meeting and talking to girls takes time. I learned this in college, girls just want to be treated like people, they know guys want to get in-between their legs so you have to show them you want to know who they are first then, if they like you they'll let you in closer, and if you play your cards right from there sex should be on the menu.

alas I have gotten so close yet manage to be so far form it-it just confused the shit outta me (visited this girl over the summer slept in the same bed with her, practically naked, made a move on her and still no sex! maybe my approach wasn't right. but i know there is a shot there still just have to reassess my moves, i know she likes me but she doesnt want to give it up right away)

 

You guys could always try adult friend finder. They may not be the best looking women out there. but most of them are real cool and...you both know that your there for sex. i met 3 girls on there, was fucking the one by the 2nd meeting

 

hey there!

i think is really cool your still a virgin. (personal opinion)
about the: you dont know how to ask for it..... i dont think its something you have to ask for, its like intuition you already know if its going to happen.

 

I wouldn't worry about being a virgin. I'm 31 and I had sex before but only around 9 times in my entire life and they were with 8 different women.
Out of those 9 times, I wish I could erase 8 out of my memory. I don't think I would be any different now if I were still a virgin. In fact I regret giving my virginity to the wrong woman.
The only woman that I enjoyed sex with was last year. Maybe I should have waited till I turned 30 before sleeping with women..

 

unfortunately for me i don't feel cool being a virgin i mean through my eyes, and experiences i've come so close but have been so far from it at the same time. it dangles in front of me and is snatched away so quickly, and that's my problem. maybe stating it like as asking wouldn't be entirely correct but more or less how do i make sure the other party knows i want sex but not in a demanding or desperate way.

interesting enough, the thing is i have to have make those mistakes before i would know they were mistakes

i'm guessing at the time those girls seemed nice enough but time shows things to you i guess.

 

Same way I feel.

It might be contradictory but I am divided on rushing to a disco and getting someone, which I am sure can't be that hard, or waiting for someone special. Not the woman of my life, but someone I can connect with.

The thing about discos... Knowing myself, I know I would go only to lose my virginity. I would never go back, and this is something I would be kind of ashamed to admit. I also feel that, being 26, going only to get laid would be kind of pathetic for someone like me that doesn't like those places.

What a bummer p

 

personally from what i know, clubbing/the disco isn't the greatest place to pick up a girl. mainly because at places like that where the sexual tensions are high and the pressures to get picked up are constantly arising. women will at almost all times have their guard up in those places.

i could be wrong, but from what i notice it's mostly girls after those guys that dangle their bmw keys from their pockets or the ones with vip rooms, basically anyone that acts like a baller/rich mofo there will get the tail. I know this because a friend of a friend of mine works as a promoter for a club and he tells us stories about how he gets girls or what goes on at the clubs.

for me the girls that have been the sweetest, nicest girls to me have been ones i met while in college or randomly in a setting where there is no pressure, only a common goal.

in the end it's all about who you want to lose it to i guess, some hot shank for one night and after that you never see her again or someone you connect with on some level, it may not lead to marriage but the break up wouldnt be messy allowing you to stay friends.

 

wierd

i'd think id there was a will there be a way, but damn.
i was 15 when i lost it, i couldn't imagne not fucking for more than a year now. thats insane...

 

You and I sound a lot like, because I'm in the same boat you are (26 and still a virgin) but like with you, I don't want to lose it to just anyone and that's why I have chosen to stay this way, be it good or bad. It can be hard at times, especially when my friend's like to pick on me for it a lot of the time and that does make me feel worse but I'd rather do it with someone I care about it...that's just my personal choice...

 

well i agree, about picking the right person to lose it to but what bugs me the most as i have said, is that i've gotten so close yet manage to be so far from it, it really bugs me.

so far i've managed to make my friends believe i got laid already but i personally know that it hasnt happened yet and now i have no one really i can discuss this with 'cept all you nice folks.

 

Well I think eventually (not meaning long long time) but sometime you will make it happen

Also, it shouldn't matter what your friend's think but I know how that goes, believe me.

 

Hey there, I'm a 20 year old virgin guy.
I really want to loose it, but not with just anyone either.
I think if a really hot chick offered to take my virginity though, I'd take up her offer.
Now I don't believe that waiting for the right girl is the best thing to do.
You always hear from people "I wish I would have waited for someone I loved"
But its not like every time they have sex from then on they regret it.
They get over it and its not like sex isnt a big deal anymore because they lost it, but like, there isn't that pressure of making the first time perfect so when they try to get someone in to bed it isnt this huge thing that seems impossible for them.
I hope you and I and all the other 18+ virgins loose it soon good luck